Caution: Long read.
So I've started talking to an ex of mine recently. She asked for my number on facebook and said she wanted to talk and we texted a bit throughout 3 days and on the 3rd she also called and we chatted for about 30 minutes before she had to go. After that she texted me the next morning asking if I was free to call in a few and I told her I was, but she never called or texted me and I haven't heard from her since. That was about a week ago. I find it incredibly rude.
She's done this in the past too, go a few weeks/months without talking then randomly get a hold of me through facebook. She's also said brb or call you back in facebook chat/phone calls before and end up never doing either. I can't tell if she's trying to 'test' me too see if I try to chase after her, trying to mess with me somehow, or if she just doesn't really know what she's doing. I know she has a bf of like 2 years atm, not sure if that has any significance. I'm not even interested in her romantically, it's just so damn confusing! I always respond to her messages because we have a lot of history together, and ideally I would like if we could just be friends. We lived on the same street for a few years as tweens before I had to move and were good friends before we started dating in high school, so I don't want to be a rude to her and ignore her. In the past, a couple of months after we broke up she expressed that she felt she couldn't be friends with me and that she had a hard time thinking/talking to me because it upset her but I'm not sure if she still feels that way.
The last time we talked on the phone she called me, "babe" after we sorta clicked and were laughing about something, it sounded like it just slipped out and she didn't notice. I was like, "babe?" to which she replied with a series of awkward mumbles and then it was awkward silence for a few seconds until I changed the topic. That along with the fact that she said this to me about 7 months ago, "I'm still in love with you and always will be, I wish we could get back together" makes me think she's interested in me as a boyfriend, but why would she not call back if that was the case? I'm pretty sure she's cheated on me while we dated too, she's never admitted it, although I've only asked about it once and didn't give the full details it was just a, "so... you've never cheated on me right?" type of thing, but I don't like to believe things about someone unless they tell me directly. I read something that was pretty incriminating though. We went to a school that really liked to gossip and I can't even start to count the number of times people told me or her that the other cheated followed by a crazy story so it's a little hard to filter fact from fiction too. Anyway, the point of that was assuming she did cheat it makes me question if she's interested in me, so cross that out.
I'm considering just telling her that I don't want to talk to her at all anymore and deleting her from my facebook, but that seems like such a dick move since she hasn't really done anything wrong outside of erratic behavior, it's just really getting annoying and I don't think we could be friends or anything else because of it. The behavior is very uncharacteristic from when I actually knew her also, she was a very punctual orderly person. It's very hard to just remove someone from your life like that when you've known them for so long too. I typed all this out and considered deleting it all because it's so personal but fuck it, I want to see what other people make of this.
TLDR: girl being weird, guy confused as fuck.
So I've started talking to an ex of mine recently. She asked for my number on facebook and said she wanted to talk and we texted a bit throughout 3 days and on the 3rd she also called and we chatted for about 30 minutes before she had to go. After that she texted me the next morning asking if I was free to call in a few and I told her I was, but she never called or texted me and I haven't heard from her since. That was about a week ago. I find it incredibly rude.
She's done this in the past too, go a few weeks/months without talking then randomly get a hold of me through facebook. She's also said brb or call you back in facebook chat/phone calls before and end up never doing either. I can't tell if she's trying to 'test' me too see if I try to chase after her, trying to mess with me somehow, or if she just doesn't really know what she's doing. I know she has a bf of like 2 years atm, not sure if that has any significance. I'm not even interested in her romantically, it's just so damn confusing! I always respond to her messages because we have a lot of history together, and ideally I would like if we could just be friends. We lived on the same street for a few years as tweens before I had to move and were good friends before we started dating in high school, so I don't want to be a rude to her and ignore her. In the past, a couple of months after we broke up she expressed that she felt she couldn't be friends with me and that she had a hard time thinking/talking to me because it upset her but I'm not sure if she still feels that way.
The last time we talked on the phone she called me, "babe" after we sorta clicked and were laughing about something, it sounded like it just slipped out and she didn't notice. I was like, "babe?" to which she replied with a series of awkward mumbles and then it was awkward silence for a few seconds until I changed the topic. That along with the fact that she said this to me about 7 months ago, "I'm still in love with you and always will be, I wish we could get back together" makes me think she's interested in me as a boyfriend, but why would she not call back if that was the case? I'm pretty sure she's cheated on me while we dated too, she's never admitted it, although I've only asked about it once and didn't give the full details it was just a, "so... you've never cheated on me right?" type of thing, but I don't like to believe things about someone unless they tell me directly. I read something that was pretty incriminating though. We went to a school that really liked to gossip and I can't even start to count the number of times people told me or her that the other cheated followed by a crazy story so it's a little hard to filter fact from fiction too. Anyway, the point of that was assuming she did cheat it makes me question if she's interested in me, so cross that out.
I'm considering just telling her that I don't want to talk to her at all anymore and deleting her from my facebook, but that seems like such a dick move since she hasn't really done anything wrong outside of erratic behavior, it's just really getting annoying and I don't think we could be friends or anything else because of it. The behavior is very uncharacteristic from when I actually knew her also, she was a very punctual orderly person. It's very hard to just remove someone from your life like that when you've known them for so long too. I typed all this out and considered deleting it all because it's so personal but fuck it, I want to see what other people make of this.
TLDR: girl being weird, guy confused as fuck.