What Is With Bridezilla Syndrome?

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  1. jason_els

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    I've never seen a show that so vindicates gay men. The women they show are the most obnoxious, selfish, narcissistic, tasteless, trashy, dumb bitches I have ever seen!

    Is this show remotely accurate in displaying how most brides are when planning a wedding? Why don't these grooms-to-be run screaming in the opposite direction? If my fiancee acted like these women, I'd end it all right there and then. I saw one bride get left at the altar and all I could think was, 'He's the smartest man in the entire series.' These marriages are heading for spectacular divorces unless I'm grossly underestimating the tolerance of straight men. The grooms are no better. They put up with the most outrageous abusive shit and so many of them spend the entire episode looking like sheep led to slaughter, as if they expect this is what women do and this is what men have to tolerate to get pussy.

    Like this bride, "The whole point of me getting married is so I can stand out."

    That leads me to wonder if this show isn't, at its heart, misogynistic or are we as a culture so fucked that this is now the norm? If I ever get married, I'd like to have a home wedding with lots of friends and family and their kids, with maybe a nice barbecue for the reception. It wouldn't surprise me if most men think that's enough, yet these couples blow all kinds of credit card cash they don't have on all kinds of frippery designed to aggrandize the event and, by extension, the bride. It's greed on the most distasteful level.

    The only reason I wonder if this sort of thing is common is that Bridezillas (nearly) always show the bride as being blushing and happy; pretty much what we guests who aren't in on the wedding, see.
     
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    How does this either justify or villify gay men? That phenom is about selfish creatures who happen to be female that need a smack down. Selfishness has no race, gender or religion.
     
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    Because gay men would think, "Thank God I don't have to go through THAT just to get laid!"
     
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    LOL! I hear that. The sad thing is that Jason the straight men who are with them really dont and shouldnt have to put up with it either. They just need to lay it down nice and easy and back out of the room. They dont need husbands they need therapy.
     
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    I'm sure the show's planners labor to identify the most obnoxious cases of bride behavior that can possibly televised. Whether those obnoxious cases are in any way representative of the larger bride population, I can't say.

    I can say, however, from the few weddings I've participated in, that I've seen less catty behavior but more unrealistic expectations on the parts of brides about the wedding ceremony, the reception and just about everything else. I'm talking about the kind of unrealistic expections that almost certainly lead to disappointment and dashed hopes about the how the event goes down.

    Yes, a wedding should be a special day of celebration for the couple. That needs to be kept in mind. However, small mishaps and malfunctions are going to occasionally occur in even the most perfectly planned event. The more elaborate the production, the more likely some mishaps. Yet, I've seen some brides forget this and become apopletic with rage at friends, family, etc after some minor snafu. Its always a disappointment when this happens and I've got to wonder about a bride who pins so much hope on the wedding day being perfect.
     
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    QFT!

    I don't think I have seen an entire episode. Having been a maid of honor twice and a bridesmaid three times I have first hand knowledge of these wedding witches. Though to be fair none of the brides I knew were as bad as the ones depicted.

    I don't get why gay men should be upset about the show jason_els; you will have to give examples. :confused:

    For at least a century perhaps two western weddings have been the domain of women. Men typically don't get involved in their planning because they don't care to be involved. Also tradition states that the brides family pays. He who holds the purse strings sets the tone. Now I know during the last 35 years this has changed but the mindset remains strongly tied to the wedding itself. Most straight grooms could give a shit about favors, colors, tablecloths, floral arrangements etc. Some grooms put their foot down about band or DJ choice, but that's it.

    I think the big glitzy weddings are a north east and California thing. In many parts of the US wedding receptions are still held in church halls w/o alcohol. Just cake and punch are served. :eek: As a former bridal show model in NY, NJ, and PA I was both shocked and horrified to learn that there was even such a thing as a dry wedding! In my old neighborhood they talked about you bad if you had a cash bar.

    Show me a man who wants to take over or even have an equal role in planning the wedding and I will show you a groom that leaves his wife for his best man in under 5 years. :tongue: :cool:

    That said, many people get married too young, or too stupid. They spend all their time planning the wedding and not the marriage. I have found that both brides and grooms are guilty of this.
     
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    My ex planned our wedding. Did a bloody good job too. The only thing he didn't sort was the flowers (my bridesmaid handled that) and my dress - though I kinda wish he had, he had a great eye for formal wear for me.

    Anyway - we lasted more than 5 years and he didn't have any gay affairs. So there :tongue:

    Jason - not all brides are like that. They just pick those kind of women for shows like that to make car crash TV. You're horrified but still watching - that's exactly what they want.
     
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    :rolleyes: None, that you know about. :tongue: I kid, okay there maybe a dozen or so men your like your ex-husband around the globe.
     
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    Touché (ou pas :wink:)

    Good Lord!! I hope not. :eek::eek::eek::eek:

    (there is a reason he's an ex, you know)
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    Society has made brides think that they are princesses and that the whole day is about them. Well, if one gets married in a church (where most weddings occur) it's not about the bride, it's about the couple and God. God blesses the marriage.

    If someone gets married at my church and acts like they do on that Bridezilla show, the minister would call the wedding off. Our wedding information booklet states that the wedding is not a time for someone to stand out, but for the couple to come together.

    As a musician, I have probably played for 500-600 weddings in my career and if I never did another one, I wouldn't care. People have their priorities so out of whack when it comes to weddings that it's not even funny.
     
  11. whatireallywant

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    I've never seen the show but I think I know what you're referring to. And I do think they pick out the "worst of the worst" to show on TV - makes for a more sensationalistic show, which is what they're going for.

    I have seen a couple of episodes of "Say Yes to the Dress" (which is a show just showing brides-to-be picking out their wedding dresses) and they seem more representative of what the general population would be like (although some of them have higher budgets than anyone I'd know, but not ALL of them do...)

    Although really, I'm not all that interested in watching wedding-preparation shows of any kind, since if it isn't MY wedding, it holds no interest to me. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be a Bridezilla though. :biggrin1: (even though if I do get married, I do want a nice wedding, and watch out - I read fashion magazines!! :biggrin1: I just won't go all Bridezilla on you if it doesn't turn out 100% like I'd envisioned it...)
     
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    I manage the person who manages a rental facilty that is used quite often for wedding parties, and I talk to others who rent out facilties...and all agree that the bridezilla phenomenom is a growing problem. Forget the growing size of wedding parties, forget the increasing amount of drunkeness and fights, forget the fact that we now have to hire off duty policemen to oversee parties...the attitude of many brides has become one of "this is my wedding so you owe me". Brides to-be will throw a fit any time they don't get their way (just like the tv show documents). I have heard of brides screaming at facility managers that they should get what they want "because this is my wedding day and I'm the princess!" Insanity.

    This is a small percentage of events (maybe 30-40% of the total), but everyone I talk to agrees that it is increasingly a problem...and many attribute the issue to the tv show.

    I could go on with stories my staff tell me, and some of the issues have gotten bad enough to end up on my desk (I've been threatened with law suits), but I will refrain... Gay misogyny aside, bridezillas are very real...and getting worse.
     
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