What Is Wrong With Me? Husband Likes Seeing Wife With Big Ones.

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A person I know shared this question to me and I thought it would be a good one to get others' feedback.

"My wife and I have a good marriage. I won't say it is a passionate relationship more like we are good friends and share a lot. I perceive our sex life like an average 10 year married couple, she will orgasm from oral and then our fucking is where I cum. However, I am turned on by guys with big cocks. Mine is average at best and I firmly believe a bigger cock not only looks much more impressive but it can fuck a woman better too. Of course whom is attached to it can make a difference but I get off on seeing my wife getting fucked by a much bigger dick than mine. I love hearing her moans and responses while I masturbate but I don't cum because once done I like the guy to leave and then I immediately fuck my wife and have her tell me how my cock feels compared to the big one she just experienced. She says the big ones most definitely feel better and hit spots mine doesn't.

However, my wife is actually often reluctant and can get angry about doing this. She definitely enjoys the sex but I think she is uncomfortable with some of the guys we have met and the whole process of locating someone appropriate. I have seen sexual responses from her with one or two guys from these experiences that leave no doubt that their big penises were more satisfactory as while they were fucking her she was saying how awesome it felt.

Well the point is about me. First, it isn't like we have done this a lot. Maybe once or possibly twice per year for the last 5 years. So, maybe 6 different guys and one guy we met twice (which the second time with him she was very comfortable and much more verbal about his big cock hitting spots mine didn't). If I didn't push doing this she would never seek it. Again, she definitely has enjoyed the sex several times but wouldn't want to meet anyone else if I didn't stronly encourage it.

What do you think about a husband that wants to see his wife with a bigger and better cock than his own?"
 

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They can pursue their fetish, cuckhold (If I am not wrong) is very common. He just can't force her to do anything just because he wants to feel pleasure. Clearly the way they are approaching doesn't feel right to her. They just have to communicate and see what are hers conditions to make it happen. Communication is the key
 

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What I know is that it is not a need of hers to seek and despite their experiences she is shy and not aggressive (which I can personally attest to from my meeting with them). So, if he was to ask her do you ever want to do this again, even though she enjoyed the sex, it would be no. As he shared, it's his enjoyment and turn-on, and she is not forced but "encouraged" and obviously went along with it based upon all he shared. His question was what do I or others think about him in this regard that he enjoys seeing her with other guys who are better endowed than him.
 
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When I’m with a woman I get off the most from knowing that my bigger than average dick (there’s always going to be someone bigger) and my tongue are the reasons she is getting off. I can totally understand how your wife getting pleasure from hung men turns you on. If you’re both ok with it I don’t see why there should be a problem with it.
 

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Sounds kind of humiliating. Being told that his dick isn’t really getting the job done. But if he likes it than I think it’s fine. May cause issues down the line though.
 

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What I know is that it is not a need of hers to seek and despite their experiences she is shy and not aggressive (which I can personally attest to from my meeting with them). So, if he was to ask her do you ever want to do this again, even though she enjoyed the sex, it would be no. As he shared, it's his enjoyment and turn-on, and she is not forced but "encouraged" and obviously went along with it based upon all he shared. His question was what do I or others think about him in this regard that he enjoys seeing her with other guys who are better endowed than him.

I think that its not only fairly common, but also a way for a husband with a small penis to help his wife get better sex.
As long as the husband encourages instead of pushing it, I think its potentially very good for their relationship.
 
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Overwhelming majority o the time, is the dude's fetish that he coerces the woman into. Her pleasure isn't actually the goal/point, it's about the dude getting off to his fetish. The female partner and the man fucking her are just accessories/toys to the husband/boyfriend's fetish. Which. So long as everyone involved is consenting, whatever, do ya thing. A lot of dudes on here at least seem to turn into sulky, whiny shitheads if the woman won't cater to their fetish, tho.
 

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What I know is that it is not a need of hers to seek and despite their experiences she is shy and not aggressive (which I can personally attest to from my meeting with them). So, if he was to ask her do you ever want to do this again, even though she enjoyed the sex, it would be no. As he shared, it's his enjoyment and turn-on, and she is not forced but "encouraged" and obviously went along with it based upon all he shared. His question was what do I or others think about him in this regard that he enjoys seeing her with other guys who are better endowed than him.

You just said that if she was asked to do it again she would say no, so clearly she does not want it. Maybe she is doing it because she feels the need to help her husband to feel pleasure? it sounds a little messed up for me. Just by the fact that she would not want to do it again without some "encouragement" feels wrong
 

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I have a lot of experience with this in real life being with couples. And I always get slapped in the forums for saying the truth, but it's only my honest experience. I have no narrative, i have no horse in this race, it's just my experience.

Couples contact me to watch me with the wife. It's ALWAYS the husband who contacts me. The women DOES NOT care about size. the husband does. She often is only doing it because it is the husband's kink. What SHE CARES about is connection, chemistry, communication, things in common, the mental part of it -- it's like dating all over again. So I get contacted by the husband and I then have to build connection with the woman so she's comfortable. Meet for coffee, talk, meet for a glass of wine, talk, to establish that connection so she feels comfortable. It's not about size for her, it's about making the husband happy and some kind of submissive dynamic that she and the couple enjoy. In my experience women want the comfort and familiarity of a meaningful long term monogamous relationship.

That has been the overwhelming dynamic for me in this situation and I have a lot of experience with it. But that's just me.


A person I know shared this question to me and I thought it would be a good one to get others' feedback.

"My wife and I have a good marriage. I won't say it is a passionate relationship more like we are good friends and share a lot. I perceive our sex life like an average 10 year married couple, she will orgasm from oral and then our fucking is where I cum. However, I am turned on by guys with big cocks. Mine is average at best and I firmly believe a bigger cock not only looks much more impressive but it can fuck a woman better too. Of course whom is attached to it can make a difference but I get off on seeing my wife getting fucked by a much bigger dick than mine. I love hearing her moans and responses while I masturbate but I don't cum because once done I like the guy to leave and then I immediately fuck my wife and have her tell me how my cock feels compared to the big one she just experienced. She says the big ones most definitely feel better and hit spots mine doesn't.

However, my wife is actually often reluctant and can get angry about doing this. She definitely enjoys the sex but I think she is uncomfortable with some of the guys we have met and the whole process of locating someone appropriate. I have seen sexual responses from her with one or two guys from these experiences that leave no doubt that their big penises were more satisfactory as while they were fucking her she was saying how awesome it felt.

Well the point is about me. First, it isn't like we have done this a lot. Maybe once or possibly twice per year for the last 5 years. So, maybe 6 different guys and one guy we met twice (which the second time with him she was very comfortable and much more verbal about his big cock hitting spots mine didn't). If I didn't push doing this she would never seek it. Again, she definitely has enjoyed the sex several times but wouldn't want to meet anyone else if I didn't stronly encourage it.

What do you think about a husband that wants to see his wife with a bigger and better cock than his own?"
 
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wow it's like i read my life because I too feel the same exact way. And at the moment we are trying the open relationship. Do i like it not really... I do enjoy looking a big dicks though and wouldn't mind finding someone on a regular. Is it the same i don't think so not sure how to explain that. But don't ever think something is wrong with you. Because then that would mean something is wrong with me as well. I think we are just human beings expressing ourselves sexually and to make our partners understand what it is that we like? Idk I feel like i'm rambling so just want to say thank you for letting me know I'm not alone.
 

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A person I know shared this question to me and I thought it would be a good one to get others' feedback.

"My wife and I have a good marriage. I won't say it is a passionate relationship more like we are good friends and share a lot. I perceive our sex life like an average 10 year married couple, she will orgasm from oral and then our fucking is where I cum. However, I am turned on by guys with big cocks. Mine is average at best and I firmly believe a bigger cock not only looks much more impressive but it can fuck a woman better too. Of course whom is attached to it can make a difference but I get off on seeing my wife getting fucked by a much bigger dick than mine. I love hearing her moans and responses while I masturbate but I don't cum because once done I like the guy to leave and then I immediately fuck my wife and have her tell me how my cock feels compared to the big one she just experienced. She says the big ones most definitely feel better and hit spots mine doesn't.

However, my wife is actually often reluctant and can get angry about doing this. She definitely enjoys the sex but I think she is uncomfortable with some of the guys we have met and the whole process of locating someone appropriate. I have seen sexual responses from her with one or two guys from these experiences that leave no doubt that their big penises were more satisfactory as while they were fucking her she was saying how awesome it felt.

Well the point is about me. First, it isn't like we have done this a lot. Maybe once or possibly twice per year for the last 5 years. So, maybe 6 different guys and one guy we met twice (which the second time with him she was very comfortable and much more verbal about his big cock hitting spots mine didn't). If I didn't push doing this she would never seek it. Again, she definitely has enjoyed the sex several times but wouldn't want to meet anyone else if I didn't stronly encourage it.

What do you think about a husband that wants to see his wife with a bigger and better cock than his own?"


Several things come to mind. Is he wrong for enticing his wife for his pleasure? Maybe. Seems a bit one sided. She doesn't want to do it, but does it to satisfy her husband.

It's his kink but honestly if he's that into bigger dicks, he's probably leading up to where he gets to suck the guys cock. Just sayin.

Have you been with the guys wife? I'm above average and have done this with couples. It's always the man who initiates contact.
More often than not the husband is usually involved either eating her pussy while I'm fucking her or getting head. More a three way than cuckold situation. I've never been one to humiliate a guy because I am bigger than him. They'll always be some guy out there with a bigger dick.

I think though if it was the wife wanting the guy with a bigger dick, the husband wouldn't find it such a turn on. Why are so many men obsessed with the size of their dicks?
 
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While I have never been with a man and a woman together think it could be dangerous to any relationship....specially if one or the other is doing it to make the other happy. Things can turn ugly specially if one of the two find the third more attractive then their married partner.....have seen this first hand and the war that went on after was def. ugly....I would like to try two women but what guy doesn't.....lol....it's a crap shoot and can be dangerous....soo both need to be on the same page...and as for one or the other wanting to be with the same sex.....tends to bring out some signs there also!.....
 
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I had a friend that's wife had an affair, before the affair he was confident and always happy and telling me how good his sex life was with her.
But after the affair he has invited me and a few other men to have a threesome with him and the wife,I didn't do it,so him and I had a talk of why he wanted it,he said he always was happy with his size and after the affair he was consumed with getting her a bigger cock to please her because he thought he couldn't. The man is still madly in love with his wife,but that is one reason you might feel this way.
 

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That conundrum is probably totally on target. I provided the feedback in an email so far to my internet friend. Now, I have met them some time ago, and I was a stranger in the sense not knowing them before or being a neighbor, friend, etc. She is a shy and a nice person. She also definitely enjoyed the sex and was verbal during the act at times about that. He also was a nice guy. They seemed very normal to me and they are not the only married couple I have ever met.

Was she forced, of course not. But, he just responded to my email and shared, she just doesn't have the need to meet another sex partner in a 3some but I believe it is also about what 123456 is saying. He told me they also met some creeps (hopefully not meaning me!) or game players, dishonest, etc. He believes that despite her enjoying the sex during the act, she felt embarrassed about it. However, he says that it is such a turn on to see her enjoying a big penis like he wished he had, that it is hard for him to not want to do this again. Also, and this was significant to learn. As one reponder said above maybe he wants to suck the cock too. He said he had met a few big dicked guys on his own and did oral on them but it was just no where near as satisfying as watching the responses of his wife. That is what turns him on plus the fact that she did respond very positively to the bigger size. I asked if the guy had a cock his size or smaller would he have the same turn-on by watching her and he said absolutely not. That's also where he questions himself though.
 
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yeah. agreed. but women, or the wives, in my experience, want to "get to know you" first, they always say....

I always end up doing drinks, or coffee so the wives can ask me all the same questions like: where were you born? what's your sign? what do you like to do for fun? how many brothers and sisters do you have?

for some reason women think you're their best friends if they know how many brothers or sisters you have. sigh.


Threesoms are something that should be done with complete strangers ( to avoid emotional problems)
BUT
complete strangers are exactly the people you SHOULDN'T be having them with.

conundrum.
 

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This is a very complicated topic. Years and years ago (in what was basically a previous life) I used to predominantly date women.

I won’t get into the details of how it happened, but back then I had two separate long-term relationships in which I was the cuckold. AtYourCervix‘s comments are mostly consistent with my experience. The two women I dated needed to put in the time with a potential bull to get to know them and feel comfortable. We indeed put in a lot of time laying that groundwork. Everyone is different obviously, but my opinion is that without that groundwork it is very tough to make something like this work. The dynamic is so complicated even with a bull you know and trust - trying to incorporate a bull you both hardly know is even more difficult.

Once we found a bull we both liked we would keep him for an extended period of time. This was also beneficial because the more times we saw him, the more my exes would enjoy him. I think that’s a huge issue with the OP. In my experience, the woman is going to be very nervous and hesitant the first time she is with a new bull, and it sounds like they have had 5 or 6 bulls once or twice each. We would see the same bull anywhere from 50-100 times, and the 50th time was far better than the 1st in nearly every aspect.

I do feel it’s possible for a woman to enjoy this greatly, although agree with others that it is most often driven by the cuck’s fantasy. Both of my ex’s enjoyed it, and actively pushed to see their bull. With that being said, there were points, mainly at the beginning, when both of us questioned whether we wanted to continue. Needless to say, communication is critical throughout the process. It does concern me that the op says his wife would never suggest doing it again if the husband didn’t.
 

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That conundrum is probably totally on target. I provided the feedback in an email so far to my internet friend. Now, I have met them some time ago, and I was a stranger in the sense not knowing them before or being a neighbor, friend, etc. She is a shy and a nice person. She also definitely enjoyed the sex and was verbal during the act at times about that. He also was a nice guy. They seemed very normal to me and they are not the only married couple I have ever met.

Was she forced, of course not. But, he just responded to my email and shared, she just doesn't have the need to meet another sex partner in a 3some but I believe it is also about what 123456 is saying. He told me they also met some creeps (hopefully not meaning me!) or game players, dishonest, etc. He believes that despite her enjoying the sex during the act, she felt embarrassed about it. However, he says that it is such a turn on to see her enjoying a big penis like he wished he had, that it is hard for him to not want to do this again. Also, and this was significant to learn. As one reponder said above maybe he wants to suck the cock too. He said he had met a few big dicked guys on his own and did oral on them but it was just no where near as satisfying as watching the responses of his wife. That is what turns him on plus the fact that she did respond very positively to the bigger size. I asked if the guy had a cock his size or smaller would he have the same turn-on by watching her and he said absolutely not. That's also where he questions himself though.

I know that a lot of wives enjoy being with another man with a big cock and good sexual skills, but also feel embarrassed because they feel like they are being "slutty" or overly sexual, or they are afraid of hurting their small penis husband's feelings, or making him jealous.
I know that I would only be willing to do this with my spouse if the other man had a very large cock.
 

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interesting. this has not been my experience. i've found that the women could careless, but it's more run, orchestrated and motivated by the husbands. But i'm happy to be wrong. I just haven't met these women you speak of.


I know that a lot of wives enjoy being with another man with a big cock and good sexual skills, but also feel embarrassed because they feel like they are being "slutty" or overly sexual, or they are afraid of hurting their small penis husband's feelings, or making him jealous.
I know that I would only be willing to do this with my spouse if the other man had a very large cock.