DC Deep said:
Hypo, you just described, perfectly, the domination/submission part of BdSm.
I think my knees just buckled. I'm the ying to that yang.
Yes that's the theory, I do my best to keep up the practice too.
Because it is a mind thing, one of the things I really like to do (not always successfully, but I have quite a good enough average to keep on my quest) is to turn an agressive power bottom into a relaxed, twitching, and waiting, beautifully responsive hole.
I like to keep asserting myself at the slightest initiation of their control. Sometimes there is a bit of play fighting and teasing. A few get totally frustrated for a moment of two, but if they can switch off their autonomy, and get into working together, really being open to me looking after them, and make their 'letting go' fun for them, the sex is totally rocking.
DC and BB: I'd take you both on, the last guy I was with said (after the first round), 'what's your recovery time like', I always say "get your ass in the air and you'll see".
Like magic my cock can go from floppy to hard pretty quickly around a sweet passive hole. Even I'm amazed, sometimes I think I won't won't happen but it does. I get a worried that it won't last as I get older, but I seem to be doing ok.
For me the motivation is the total conection that comes from being inside someone.
Having the right equipment plus the right frame of mind is just the start of the best journey possible for any of us.