what kills it for you?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Ed69s girl, Aug 9, 2008.

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what kills the mood for you?

  1. pain of any kind

    6 vote(s)
    11.5%
  2. tired

    10 vote(s)
    19.2%
  3. stress

    8 vote(s)
    15.4%
  4. other

    3 vote(s)
    5.8%
  5. all of the above

    9 vote(s)
    17.3%
  6. none of the above I am always horny

    16 vote(s)
    30.8%
  1. D_Ed69s girl

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    it has amazed me what can kill the mood for myself. I just wonder what kills the mood for you??
     
  2. SpeedoGuy

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    Indifference, even if well camouflaged, by my partner.
    Fatigue
    Stress
    Physical pain
    Rote sexual routine

    Sadly, opportunities for these to interfere seem to accummulate with age....
     
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    For me, its fatigue. If I have had a long, hard day, or I am tired from little to no sleep the night before, I wont have the energy to initiate. If she initiates and does a lot of the work, I can be up for it. But if I am tired, I am out.

    Another one that takes the wind out of my sails is food. If I just ate a big dinner or something, my drive wains considerably. Also, being sick. Even a cold keeps me from wanting to mouth-breathe through sex.
     
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    Indifference, even if well camouflaged, or just lies there and expects me to do all the work.

    Otherwise the ones listed don't seem to bother me, it's more about what I perceive from my partner than anything else.
     
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    there are many options to consider
    1-for me the worst is SMELL
    not necessarily very bad smell but any unpleasent smell gets me repulsed....
    2-and when i see a red dick head (when the dick has a lot of loose skin and the dick has a very red head that is usually accompanied by too much oil secretion and smell)
    3- when the guy is too controlling, pushy
    4- hair on the back
    5- dirty words in bed... for me there s only room for sweet words and admiring my beauty or his :p hehehe
    6-when im fucking, "shit" on the condom... YUCK! i usually just stop

    This is off the top of my head... :biggrin1:
     
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    If im in pain of any kind then i cant keep my mind on the job. Also a partner who isnt really into it.
     
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    Well said above. Indifference or the "just another hook" mentality doesn't do a damn thing for me. Sex without kissing will bore the crap out of me.... A partner who doesn't make a sound... Bad breath!! Bad smells!! Feminines....great for friends and so forth, but to stand a chance with me, a man acts like a man and stands on his own two feet! Arrogance a MAJOR turn off.

    Turn ons...a great smile....fresh breath....good kisser....doesn't have to be Adonis but takes care of themselves and presents themselves the best they can be.... Good smells, can use cologne but please, SPARINGLY and in the right places!! Confidence a MAJOR turn on!
     
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    DITTO!

    also...u can't just focus only on my dick...I have a whole body that needs to be pleasured...if I feel like I'm being used as a sex toy, I fall out of the mood real quick...
     
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    A partial list of things that have killed my sexual escapades....

    My hideous looks
    My bank account
    My bike
    My personality
    My beer belly
    My atheism
    My apathy
    My depression
    My callousness
    My hatred
    My intellect
    My intellectualism
    My tooth
    My style
    My cynicism
    My stubborness
    My isolationism
    My face
    My...
     
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    Indifference'll do it. On a related note, being told "no" (as in, "I'm too tired tonight" or "I have a headache") will prevent me from making the first move again for a while.
     
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    Indifference'll do it. On a related note, telling me "no" (as in, "Not tonight dear, I have a headache...am too tired...etc.) will prevent me from making the first move again for a while.
     
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    The same exact motion over and over and over and over and over and...
     
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    But what if your partner reacts the same way? Nobody will be making any moves on anybody else.

    For me it's disrespect, using me and not making love, and pulling my hair or anything painful. You pull my hair, and it's over. I touch you again for a long time. Also, I do it for love, and I don't want to hear a bunch of cursing.
     
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    A supposed "top" who (in the middle of sex) says to me, "man, I wish you'd fuck my ass". UGHH!!

    A supposed "top" who pays more attention to my cock than my ass.

    Men who don't shower (and thoroughly I might add), or smell like cigarettes, or booze.

    A man that won't talk dirty to me, and treat like the total bottom I am.

    Men who, in person, look old enough to be my father, even though their pics and age would suggest otherwise.

    A guy who's cock won't stay hard unless I jack and suck him like I have robotic hands and a bionic mouth.
     
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