What lies have you told yourself?

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  1. earllogjam

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    And why do you think you did it for the amount of time you did? And what made you come around?
     
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    The fact that I could get over my current shortcomings by sheer will and determination. I stopped believing that when I learned that I had asperger's (higher functioning to be precise) and depression.

    Now I am aware of such things and realize that they are not my fault. Now I can get on with my life, aware of what I have and how to deal with it.
     
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    I've only been holding onto one lie I told myself. It came around at the end of November.

    My brother had his first child, a daughter, and I told myself after she was born he would get his shit in line and stop acting like a child. I knew he wouldn't though, I've known him my entire life.

    She doesn't even pay him mind at this point. My mother and I are her parents more or less. When she cries she wants either her or me.

    It's nice to have the love of a child but it makes me sick that my brother is such a horrific flake. I let it go just earlier today. My brother was drugged up and asleep on the couch, my mother and I taking care of Amelia.

    It just made me sad because she only smiles at me, and she hardly ever smiles at him. He's so uninvolved and nothing I have said has made a dent.

    Some people are so set in their ways it kills them and their families.
     
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    Ever since I was a child, I've had vivid dreams about being a singer. I couldn't even carry a tune in a bucket but I still dream about it. I know it ain't gonna happen but I don't think I've really 'come around', I still have my little fantasies.....

    I suppose if I'd had opportunities when I was younger, things might have turned out differently.....

    But I'm 33 years old now and to quote TISM: "If You're Not Famous At 14, You're Finished".
     
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    That I was hansome and hung like a mule.:biggrin1:
     
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    I've always been very reality based but when my mother was dying of cancer I convinced myself until the day she died that she was going to be OK. It was a coping mechanism for me during a very difficult time.
     
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    I think the biggest lie I told myself was that I was really in fact straight. That caused untold amounts of depression, self loathing, and erosion to my soul.

    The other lie I frequently tell myself is that everything is all right and I don't need to do anything, things will eventually work themselves out on their own. It has been like a bus driving off a cliff each time. I try to head things off at the pass or nip these things in the bud but I'm naturally lazy so it is a huge challenge in my life.

    When there are so many problems it can get very overwhelming and I easily retreat into apathy and feeling helpless which compounds the problem of taking action or getting help.
     
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    From looking at your details, its seems as though you have not fully accepted that fact that you are gay. There is no shame in fully admitting it and no shame in being gay. It does not define you, people are defined by their actions and personality, not sexual preference.

    As for the second thing, the best thing to do is to put things in perspective. Granted not everything needs to change in one's life, but there are things that people would like to be better. I recall from somewhere that in order to overcome lazyness you must struggle. A little bit everyday makes a huge difference and eventually you can become the kind of person who takes action and not wonder what could have been.

    Well thats my take anyway.
     
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    "They're not laughing at me, they're laughing with me."
     
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    What I never lie to myself. Rolling eyes.....
     
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    I keep telling myself I have to stop wasting time and to stop looking at horny stuff. I know straight away it's not gonna happen.
     
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    What lies have you told yourself?
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    And why do you think you did it for the amount of time you did? And what made you come around

    On a personal level no complaints

    Global and the biggest damn lie ever was me convincing myself the World is an OK place, it will get better
    Stupid me.

    what made you come around?
    of course speaks for itself
    NEVER
    assholes like this Norway killer just hours ago...never
    enz
     
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    That I'll stop running up HUUUUUGE debts on eBay.

    I've been telling myself that lie ever since I joined eBay three years ago, but I still run up in one week more than what I earn in three months!
     
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    Thanks Twisty for the rundown on why my life sucks.:redface:
     
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    I just told myself I would post something really witty in this thread
     
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    ................What lies have you told yourself?
    And why do you think you did it for the amount of time you did? And what made you come around?


    I Lied that i hate the Norway Killer









    I Triply HATE the asshole....
    i came around to hating him more, when i read he should not be executed

    Yeah would take a miracle as he is a Norwegian citizen, what miracles did almost 100 souls have.?
     
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    "I can stop masturbating anytime."
     
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    I'll do it later.
     
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    I am sorry if that came out wrong. I had only the best intentions writing that message. I am sorry if I offended you.
     
  20. earllogjam

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    No offense taken. :wink:
     
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