What Made You Realise You Were Bi Rather Than Just Bi Curious Or Straight?

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When I was about 12 years old, there was this video game character, Jin Kazama (from Tekken 3) who gave me an instant mega-hard-on from the first time I saw him on a games magazine, and then whenever I saw an image and then even when I thought about him. Yet I still found women attractive, a few of them just as attractive.


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It took me more than a decade to fully accept it though :/
Its crazy that to this day no 1 has made any 3d hentai vids bout him or his dad...
 

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After many years of being curious about other guys dicks and later seeing plenty in a dorm full of crazy frat guys I got my wish. I always maintained this fascination. It wasn’t until one day in therapy I discussed with my therapist that I might be attracted to men as well as women? Not sure I tired to date men for the first time. It didn’t go in my favor as I’m sure I made for a very awkward and nervous first date for them. Finally I just chose to find a Grindr hookup to “get it over already”. He came over and went he sucked my dick I went crazy. He was also super hung and I think that moment made me realize this is gonna be a fun journey after all!
 

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I "found" my orally bi-side with my first wife, I've been married twice. We had a couple we were close with and after a night of A LOT of alcohol, we had our first swinging experience. I watched him fuck my wife while I was fucking his. He came well before my wife did and when he rolled off her she begged me to get her off. I ended up going down on her and tasted his cum in her. I have to admit I loved it!

A few weeks later we ended up in the same scenario and this time she came before he did. He was hard as a rock and the last one to cum. The wife jokingly said, "You ate his cum out of me before so you shouldn't have a problem sucking his cum out of him!" That was the first time I ever sucked a cock and NOT the last time. That night I found out I love sucking dick and I haven't stopped since!

THAT is how I found out I was bi....
 

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Recently turned 30 and I'm STILL battling with this, on one hand I don't find men attractive at all I've never kissed a guy but I'm extremely attracted to dicks I love looking at them , sometimes I even picture myself sucking one and having him cum in my mouth.

I love ass also , I'm a sucker for a nice bubble but on a man. I've even fucked a handful of guys, but when they try to get too "close" or intimate it's a complete turn off me.

It's like my mind and body are confused and I get lines crossed easily when it comes to this. I can't figure out what to call myself exactly or what to iDeNtIfy as. (Sorry for the semi rant)
 

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Recently turned 30 and I'm STILL battling with this, on one hand I don't find men attractive at all I've never kissed a guy but I'm extremely attracted to dicks I love looking at them , sometimes I even picture myself sucking one and having him cum in my mouth.

I love ass also , I'm a sucker for a nice bubble but on a man. I've even fucked a handful of guys, but when they try to get too "close" or intimate it's a complete turn off me.

It's like my mind and body are confused and I get lines crossed easily when it comes to this. I can't figure out what to call myself exactly or what to iDeNtIfy as. (Sorry for the semi rant)
Dude dont be sorry I can imagine you're extremely confused. But it's your life take your time trying to figure out who you are and dont let others tell you who you are and place you in a box
 
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Recently turned 30 and I'm STILL battling with this, on one hand I don't find men attractive at all I've never kissed a guy but I'm extremely attracted to dicks I love looking at them , sometimes I even picture myself sucking one and having him cum in my mouth.

I love ass also , I'm a sucker for a nice bubble but on a man. I've even fucked a handful of guys, but when they try to get too "close" or intimate it's a complete turn off me.

It's like my mind and body are confused and I get lines crossed easily when it comes to this. I can't figure out what to call myself exactly or what to iDeNtIfy as. (Sorry for the semi rant)
Don’t sweat having to label yourself. I’m the same way, I dont want to be in a relationship with a man. I just want to be nasty with them.

I consider myself bi just because I do things with. It’s men and women, but it’s only women I’d be in a relationship with or allow to be close to. With men, I don’t care to know too much about them other than sexual conversation. I will kiss men if I am attracted enough to them sexually or if the heat of the moment leads us there. There isn’t much sexually I wouldn’t do, but I’m a submissive oral bottom so, I don’t care to fuck, just be fucked!

Live it up! Experiment and try want your intrigued by. Believe me, I’d rather try something and know I do t like it over having regret I never tried something. As you age these thoughts definitely creep in…so enjoy!
 

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Recently turned 30 and I'm STILL battling with this, on one hand I don't find men attractive at all I've never kissed a guy but I'm extremely attracted to dicks I love looking at them , sometimes I even picture myself sucking one and having him cum in my mouth.

I love ass also , I'm a sucker for a nice bubble but on a man. I've even fucked a handful of guys, but when they try to get too "close" or intimate it's a complete turn off me.

It's like my mind and body are confused and I get lines crossed easily when it comes to this. I can't figure out what to call myself exactly or what to iDeNtIfy as. (Sorry for the semi rant)
Hey, it takes time to figure this out. Don't rush or stress yourself. It's life. Do what makes you happy.
 

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Each year it's not about realizing I'm bi rather than straight, it's realizing how much MORE bi I am becoming!

When I get arroused, even from straight porn, I find myself wanting cock and cum... and my prostate aches to be stimulated by something inside me. Less and less do i want to even fuck anyone.
 

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Each year it's not about realizing I'm bi rather than straight, it's realizing how much MORE bi I am becoming!

When I get arroused, even from straight porn, I find myself wanting cock and cum... and my prostate aches to be stimulated by something inside me. Less and less do i want to even fuck anyone.
If you dont mind me asking how are you viewing that. Are you comfortable or uncomfortable with how you're beginning to feel.
 
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If you dont mind me asking how are you viewing that. Are you comfortable or uncomfortable with how you're beginning to feel.
I don't mind feeling this way, but i am ftustrated i can't act on my desires because of the hetero relationship i am in..
 
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I’ve always sort of known. I am equally turned on looking at naked men and women. It changes sometimes though. The majority of the time I enjoy women and straight porn but sometimes I like bi or gay. I am not romantically interested in men and during the normal day to day routine I don’t find myself looking at men or thinking about them in any way really but I do notice women. The human form is attractive regardless of gender.
 

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I’ve always sort of known. I am equally turned on looking at naked men and women. It changes sometimes though. The majority of the time I enjoy women and straight porn but sometimes I like bi or gay. I am not romantically interested in men and during the normal day to day routine I don’t find myself looking at men or thinking about them in any way really but I do notice women. The human form is attractive regardless of gender.
This is me, word for word.

I would add that (though perhaps it's only me) while the number of men that turn me on are fewer compared to the number of women, I get more turned on for men than women, at least most of the time.

For example, I only have like a handful of gay porn actors that do it for me, whereas I can jerk off to dozens and dozens of female porn stars, but I think that I get harder for the handful of men I do like. Can anyone else relate?
 

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I was curious for several years up until 2009, chatting online, camming and getting turned on by gay porn. Around that time it finally dawned on me that I had to try it out, it was an urge I couldn't fight. Then I went from zero to hero in a short space of time, from sucking cock to having my ass fucked. I was like a fish on a hook, reeled in well n truly! Only regret is not trying it sooner.
 

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Each year it's not about realizing I'm bi rather than straight, it's realizing how much MORE bi I am becoming!

When I get arroused, even from straight porn, I find myself wanting cock and cum... and my prostate aches to be stimulated by something inside me. Less and less do i want to even fuck anyone.
Do you have any dildos? Prostate massagers? The best orgasm I've ever had was a hands free one.
 
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Recently turned 30 and I'm STILL battling with this, on one hand I don't find men attractive at all I've never kissed a guy but I'm extremely attracted to dicks I love looking at them , sometimes I even picture myself sucking one and having him cum in my mouth.

I love ass also , I'm a sucker for a nice bubble but on a man. I've even fucked a handful of guys, but when they try to get too "close" or intimate it's a complete turn off me.

It's like my mind and body are confused and I get lines crossed easily when it comes to this. I can't figure out what to call myself exactly or what to iDeNtIfy as. (Sorry for the semi rant)
I can relate. I have an extremely strong, powerful bi identity. I love asses of both genders. I'm really not that turned on by boobs. But even in my wildest fantasies when I'm doing anything sexually with a guy there's always a woman there to share the experience. So, for me, one-on-one solo sex with a guy is a turnoff, but if a woman is there getting hot while I'm making out with the guy, I'm all in to have sex with both. But she's got to be there, physically and emotionally, as I cue off of her excitement, which gets me excited, which, in turn, gets her even more hot.

So accept your bi identity and try and discover what conditions you'll enjoy doing (first in fantasy-space, then in reality) when you have sex with a male, or (if at all) want to have love for a male. You may not, and that's OK.

Your bisexuality is yours to decide what it will be and which boundaries will be your limits. Once you decide what those are you can seek others that will honor those boundaries (you must learn to tell them, however as they can't read your mind) . But your emotional life will be fulfilled.

Best of luck.