Recently turned 30 and I'm STILL battling with this, on one hand I don't find men attractive at all I've never kissed a guy but I'm extremely attracted to dicks I love looking at them , sometimes I even picture myself sucking one and having him cum in my mouth.
I love ass also , I'm a sucker for a nice bubble but on a man. I've even fucked a handful of guys, but when they try to get too "close" or intimate it's a complete turn off me.
It's like my mind and body are confused and I get lines crossed easily when it comes to this. I can't figure out what to call myself exactly or what to iDeNtIfy as. (Sorry for the semi rant)
I can relate. I have an extremely strong, powerful bi identity. I love asses of both genders. I'm really not that turned on by boobs. But even in my wildest fantasies when I'm doing anything sexually with a guy there's always a woman there to share the experience. So, for me, one-on-one solo sex with a guy is a turnoff, but if a woman is there getting hot while I'm making out with the guy, I'm all in to have sex with both. But she's got to be there, physically and emotionally, as I cue off of her excitement, which gets me excited, which, in turn, gets her even more hot.
So accept your bi identity and try and discover what conditions you'll enjoy doing (first in fantasy-space, then in reality) when you have sex with a male, or (if at all) want to have love for a male. You may not, and that's OK.
Your bisexuality is yours to decide what it will be and which boundaries will be your limits. Once you decide what those are you can seek others that will honor those boundaries (you must learn to tell them, however as they can't read your mind) . But your emotional life will be fulfilled.
Best of luck.