What Made You Realise You Were Bi Rather Than Just Bi Curious Or Straight?

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Fuck 'em, that's their problem.

Tbh I have had far more shit from gays than I've ever had from straights, but there we go, so much for inclusion.

I always work by the maxim, "People who are easily shocked should be shocked more often."

Don't apologise for who you are.

I don’t apologize. It’s just awkward. There are days I wish I was fully straight or fully gay. But I’m not. As hard as I try either way, I can’t stop feeling horny for both sexes. I don’t understand it and I gave up trying long ago. When I did, I became a much happier person. That said, i think more than anything I confuse people who don’t know me very well. They think I’m gay and then look confounded when a i find a woman attractive.
 

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I don’t apologize. It’s just awkward. There are days I wish I was fully straight or fully gay. But I’m not. As hard as I try either way, I can’t stop feeling horny for both sexes. I don’t understand it and I gave up trying long ago. When I did, I became a much happier person. That said, i think more than anything I confuse people who don’t know me very well. They think I’m gay and then look confounded when a i find a woman attractive.
As I said, that's other people's shit. It doesn't have to be yours too. :)
 

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For me I'm still in the stage of understanding if I'm bi or straight with a dick obsession. It's all new to me. What was the turning point for you to accept it?
It was when I concede to let another guy fuck me while my girlfriend and his gf watched.
 

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Tbh I have had far more shit from gays than I've ever had from straights

I've said this exact sentence to different friends on separate occasions.

I've told them I think bi men can experience both biphobia and homophobia because if a straight person were to say anything derogatory towards me because of my sexuality, they'll do so with the same venom as they would if they were saying it towards a gay man. They wouldn't go easy on me because I also sleep with women and they focus purely on the fact I sleep with/have relationships with men. It's homophobia.

But in reality I've had far more negative experiences within the gay community and obviously they aren't behaving that way because I sleep with men, it's purely because I'm bisexual which to me is biphobia.

We aren't talking about anything severe thankfully. Mostly the odd gay man approaching me, asking if I'm straight then giving me the hand to the face, sneering and walking off once I've told them I'm bi. It doesn't bother me, I just think they're a prick.
 

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May have posted this before in a similar thread but. As a teenager I’d never once looked at a man in a sexual way. In the locker room everyone was a bit shy so no one ever flaunted. But one time, one of the guys stripped off completely. I turned and saw this huge uncut cock dangling over the edge of the bench as he sat down. Can picture it to this day. I think my jaw must have dropped and I almost came on the spot. Was quite confusing as a relatively young man but it obviously awoke something primitive.
I don’t have a huge attraction to men but when I see a huge cock, it sends my heart racing like nothing else. Being in a relationship with a woman makes this very difficult and I’m constantly fighting the urge to find a big cock to suck.
 

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I've said this exact sentence to different friends on separate occasions.

I've told them I think bi men can experience both biphobia and homophobia because if a straight person were to say anything derogatory towards me because of my sexuality, they'll do so with the same venom as they would if they were saying it towards a gay man. They wouldn't go easy on me because I also sleep with women and they focus purely on the fact I sleep with/have relationships with men. It's homophobia.

But in reality I've had far more negative experiences within the gay community and obviously they aren't behaving that way because I sleep with men, it's purely because I'm bisexual which to me is biphobia.

We aren't talking about anything severe thankfully. Mostly the odd gay man approaching me, asking if I'm straight then giving me the hand to the face, sneering and walking off once I've told them I'm bi. It doesn't bother me, I just think they're a prick.

"All men are brothers - hence war."

:p
 

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I knew after I got naked and showered with a friend in an over-sized shower. We both became erect and after showering we progressed to talking about sucking each other.
After we sucked each other, feeling the hard dicks in our mouths and the spray of cum, along with taste, we both were hooked on m2m sex and sex with women. I enjoy oral giving and receiving with women and men to this day.
 

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Interesting thread. Love the honesty. They are many real bisexual men. It's not fake news! And it's not about being in denial about being completely gay (although that can happen).

How can someone really know what you like sexually anyways? And why would they care? Ask yourself that.

Yes, some men are very, very gay with hardly any sexual attraction to women at all. But that is just a minority of men.

I'm friends on here with two bisexual men. Yes, everyone, I can tell you that they both love pussy, just like your car mechanic down the ride. I think the one, though, only likes romantic relationships with women, however. They both are also very aroused by big dicks - I can swear to you!
 

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Interesting thread. Love the honesty. They are many real bisexual men. It's not fake news! And it's not about being in denial about being completely gay (although that can happen).

How can someone really know what you like sexually anyways? And why would they care? Ask yourself that.

Yes, some men are very, very gay with hardly any sexual attraction to women at all. But that is just a minority of men.

I'm friends on here with two bisexual men. Yes, everyone, I can tell you that they both love pussy, just like your car mechanic down the ride. I think the one, though, only likes romantic relationships with women, however. They both are also very aroused by big dicks - I can swear to you!

Interesting thread, interesting discussion.

It reminds me of my first same sex experience. After shagging him multiple times in his room he shared his opinion that "I was gay and didn't know it" and "welcomed me to the team" i.e. team gay. (He was proud and happy to have "converted" me knowing it was my first time with a guy--which I relished.) I took it all with good humor but neither confirmed or denied any sexual preference. Flamingly effeminate he was a guest at the hotel where I worked in college. A one time thing I never saw him again.

The next guy and I had a secret affair. We were in our fourth year as classmates at uni. He knew I had girlfriends and made no comment or inquiry about my preference. He was out. Everyone knew he was flaming gay. I appreciated his discretion. He appreciated me between his legs.

The point is I've never been out as bi. I advertise no preference because I don't have one outside the individuals to whom I'm attracted who are attracted to me.

Identity creates in-groups, out-groups, cliques, discrimination, walls, prejudice and closed minds.

There are better ways to think and be.:cool:
 

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The advice in this thread is fantastic. But each of us travel a different road. Keeping asking questions and consider all advice. But at some point you just move forward.

My first step was realizing that when I was watching porn many years ago, I was focused more on watching the guy’s cock than the woman who was giving him a blowjob.

Eventually I took another man’s cock in my mouth. I thought that was it. Then a guy fucked me in the ass—I was reluctant but it was my choice. It hurt a little but he knew what he was doing and ultimately it felt amazing. The same guy kissed me. Something I felt was definitely not for me. That is still a mental block for me, but the memory of that kiss is hot.

Then I met a dominant man who completely took control of me. He was not handsome or buff and his cock was very average. But his confidence as a man took me to another level. All he wanted was a blowjob, but he was so inside my head he could have done almost anything.

Don’t overthink it. Find a way to have a real experience and keep an open mind. If it feels good and you enjoy it, live life and have sex with men.
Thank you for share this need to here it I been at crossroads myself.
 

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My best high school friend and I were both into wrestling for our high school team. We both did pretty good, with him probably being a bit better than me. I was a weight class up from him, so we never had a match, but my guess is we would have been equal.

One night we got wrestling around in my parent's basement. I threatened to de-pants him and I did. If he would have wanted to resist, there is no way I could have gotten his pants off and see his cock! He allowed me to do the deed. All I did was look at it.

Going back, I would have played with it and made him cum! Too stupid at the time to read what was possible and right in front of my face. Regrets are a bitch and jerk material these days!
I had opportunities like this and let them slip away as I was too afraid to go there (some societal others me dealing with past sexual abuse). It really is a shame that we can’t allow ourselves as men the ability to really love one another and show that love through giving pleasure. There is something truly special about two men bonding and loving one another. It’s a beautiful thing.
 

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What Made You Realise You Were Bi Rather Than Just Bi Curious Or Straight?

When i was (age). When I had a cock in my ass and eating my girlfriends pussy at the same time and realizing that I loved both.