What made you transition from straight to bi?

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  1. tallmanluke

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    Aside from the prepubescent gay fondling I've never touched a dude. I like playing with my asshole, and I've never been "grossed out" by a guy... but when I watch gay porn I don't get turned on. It's about as good as jacking off without porn at all. When I watch MMF I get super turned on, about as turned on as when I watch MFF.

    You know when you see a *fine* ass bitch and you can feel your dick instantly swell while your mind goes through the 37 different positions you'd put her in? That's never happened to me with a guy.

    I love pussy, I love tits, I love female ass, I love women. I could never give up women. That being said I can't help but think there is some fun to be had that I'm missing out on.

    I have a feeling I might be more bisexual than I give myself credit for.

    What happened to make you consider trying dick?
    What was your experience? Details are good. :wink:
    Did you stay straight, or turn bi? Maybe even gay? I know sexuality isn't black & white, but guess how you may have changed.
     
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    dude i know exactly what you mean. i consider myself straight and have been for all my life. my last year in high school and now in college, i've noticed some sorta change, i dunno. I love women, love some ass and tits, they def turn me on. but for some time i've also been really turned on my mmf. i'm not sure what i think, but i've kinda realized the possibility that guys are starting to turn me on. overall i think, even though i still have the stronger attraction for chicks, i might have a slight attraction to men. i think i might be bisexual
     
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    me too...i say we get together and tag a willing girl. i think it is very hot to fuck a girl with buds and a great bonding experience. would like to do it more often.
     
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    So do I .
    I've felt that my viewpoint of a gay matter is slowly changed to being more generous and understandable. However, gay acting or a porn, itself makes me feel sick still now. But yet I believe, over there beyond my world, there must be somehing nice that I'm missing and I've never experienced. Since I had an anal penetration by my lady, I've had this faith and sometimes begun to imagine gay sex, how it feels like or what it is like,..... But I'm afraid to become a gay. They might have so much difficulties in this unfair and prejudiced world.
     
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    In my opionion talking about sexual orientation is a little difficult because of unclarity according term definitions. For me, I split my sexual orientation into two parts: emotional and purely sexual.

    I consider myself as emotional straight because I've never had feelings for a guy and as far as I can foresee, I won't ever have. On the other hand, considering my sexual activities, I am attracted by the sight of a penis and the idea of touching/jerking off/sucking off another cock (although haven't made any experiences still, but probably would take a possible oppertunity). Therefore I consider myself as sexually bi(-curious).

    Maybe you should take this point into account as well ;)
     
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    That's true frutte, although I see relationships differently than a lot of people. My relationships with women are pretty much emotionally involved friends with benefits. We are never exclusive... well I'm not anyway. They always know about the other FWB.

    If I started having sex with guys, they could definitely fit into my polyamorus nature.
     
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    You are only gay if you want to be gay. I firmly believe that MOST men at some point in their lives begin to wonder what it would be like to have sex with other men. The stigma of "being gay" is what keeps us from acting on our impulses. Also when we think about the potential of "going all the way" in M2M sex, it might scare the crap out of us, as in "man, that must really hurt!"

    Well to engage in M2M sex, you are still in charge of your own labels, and whether you are "going gay" or not depends on the exclusivity you attach to the sex act, whether with men or with women. I certainly enjoy going both ways, but it is one helluva lot easier to arrange sex with men than it is to pursue the ladies with their pussies made of gold. So for this reason I am mostly with guys, because to be frank, I NEED the sex, but I don't need relationships. On the other hand, I would jump at the chance for an all-out satisfying fling with a truly sexually active woman.

    As far as any discomfort during the M2M sex act, it can be avoided with care and proper handling. I love to bottom, so for me, getting fucked by a man is very fulfilling. I don't label myself as a gay, and there are many gays who DO not, WILL not bottom. I can offer the view that being fucked with a male cock is far preferable to being fucked by a woman with a rigid dildo, when she doesn't really know what she is doing.

    As far as porn is concerned, I was also never turned on by M2M fuck scenes until I was fucked the first time. Even now, watching guys fuck forever without cumming is just unrealistic, so it can get pretty boring. I am most excited by views of entry, which most gay porn treats far too lightly for my taste.
     
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    I don't like most gay porn, so I understand. The thing I am most interested in is sucking and being sucked. Don't need to kiss and don't care to top or be topped.

    Each of us has their own levels.

    My first started out as a jo session in HS. I had never touched another cock, so one night I just went over and started stroking hi, one thing lead to another and soon his cock was all the way in my mouth.

    Unfortunately, when it was my turn he said there is no way I am getting that thing in my mouth, so I had to be satisfied with him finishing me off with his hands.
     
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    I think that a lot of girls (including me) can also fit into this category. I could never be with a girl forever. The main reason? She wouldn't have that huge dick to pound me with every night!! But do I think it would be fun to enjoy some mmf and mff action? hell yeah! That is on my to do list before I die! haha. Also I think it would be fun to have just girl on girl with a guy watching. So, I have to say, I think that most people feel the same with you and are curious. I woudln't call myself bi. Because I could never just be with a girl. I have to have a man in the equasion somewhere! haha. I think that even those who never ever would admit it are curiuos to some point about sexual encounters with the same sex. Its just normal! :)
     
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    I had my 1st taste of bi when watching pron with some friends.

    Picture this scene...

    They are on a boat, one guy shagging a women from behind, in walks another dude, nothing special.. he whips his cock out, comes up behind the other guy and starts grinding on him....

    From a semi, I go to rock hard, look around at the other guys who are laughing their asses off, I laugh too, but also realise just how turned on I am by this.

    A few months later I bought my 1st bit of bi pron on VHS (lol) from an ad in a paper. I watched that tape to death.

    My fave pron action is always MF or MMF, not a fan of FF or MM.
     
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    "turning bi or gay"??... you were made that way (and if male, most likely straight OR gay)

    You just grow and learn and get enough confidence in your sexual "self" or you don't.
     
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    I find myself jacking off to shemale and gay porn more than straight porn recently.
     
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    You can't "go gay" or "go bi". You are the way you are from birth. The way you think is imprinted in your brain from the time you're born. It is possible, however, to be swayed to gay or bisexual. But it is impossible to turn gay or bisexual.
     
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    Getting shit-face drunk! Freshman year in college, two decades ago.
     
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    This topic comes up again and again. To me it's really about emotion ultimately. We guys are super good at disassociating our sexual behaviors from our emotions. That's one reason women can't understand us. Personally this whole issue became clear to me when I had an actual relationship with my best male friend. Then all these questions about gay, straight, bi, bicurious became mute. I feel that any of us can fall in love with any other person depending on the situation. Expressing our feelings for that person may or may not be sexual but the actual connection is the thing that sets the definitions aside. So I think most of us are bisexual but on a continuum, depending on the situations we find ourselves in, and who we feel some intimacy for.
     
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    I didn't mean to label things so much. Maybe I should have phrased the question differently.

    For all the guys who have only had sex with women and can't imagine it any other way, what made you try sex with a guy? How far did you go?
     
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    As Hung Jon said, "So I think most of us are bisexual but on a continuum, depending on the situations we find ourselves in, and who we feel some intimacy for."
    I started in HS with the"experimentation" stage. Just plain getting off with a friend when I slept over or he came to my place. But, once was just not enough. I got fixated on it-even though I was dating girls. I did not go to more than necking with girls, but could not keep my hands off of my buds-if they let me. So it was the j/o's and the bj's and a general attraction to guys.
    Then, came the pressure to marry-in my late 20's. So, I did. But, I have always found certain guys more attractive to me--even though I fathered 2 wonderful kids. I would " stray" from time to time and hook up with a guy.
    Now, divorced/widowed I am compulsive about sucking cock. This site gives me so many attractive views in the galleries and I fantasize. I am older now and shy and not very aggressive in pursuit. But, who knows? Maybe that guy will come along and I can service and worship his cock?
    I can't say I am str8, nor can I say I am gay--but my inclination is toward men now-after years of being with a woman. I guess that is why I define myself as "bi."
     
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    Hung Jon, I completely agree with you. It is not about the labels like gay, straight, or bi; it is more about who you are emotionally attached with. Right now, I have a big crush on a guy with whom I can spend the rest of my life. His name is Kenji. Since I saw him for the first time at school, I knew that he's the one I had been waiting for my whole life.
     
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    I don't agree with this sentimentality. There may, in fact, be genetic influences that factor into play, but you cannot deny the role that a person's life has had on their sexuality. Claiming the way you think being imprinted on your brain from the time you're born ignores the whole nature vs. nurture dilemma.

    Bottom line: You are not what you are from birth; you just are what you are. And this means you could "go gay" in an instance if you suddenly realize your "soul-mate" turns out to be another man/woman.

    It's generally good advice to just disregard any strict distinctions between what it means to be "gay" and what it means to be "straight" anyways.


    Added Bonus: A rant. Yes!
    - I want to implore everyone to stop arguing for genetic factors determining sexual orientation. Unless you're a geneticist/psychologist/curious, it really should NOT matter. Whether sexual preference is a choice or something you are born with (and I guarantee, it varies from person to person, and most likely is a mixture of both stemming from thousand of variables), it is what it is. I get depressed when I hear so many people argue in favor of the genetic claim that "you are born into your sexuality" as if to defend homosexuals, as if this gay gene is a license for somebody because a choice to be that somebody is not enough. Often enough, this is subtly a claim that "they/we can't help, they/we were born like this, it's not our choice." The bottom line: sexual preference should be defended as a choice, and not as a factor that cannot be helped. I support this claim with two arguments: First, falling back onto a 'gay gene' would imply that there is a cure for homosexuality, or that parents can determine that their children will not be gay, or even the worst-case-scenario, genocide (sure, not in America, but what about elsewhere? Where unsuspecting people are slaughtered for carrying a gay gene?). Secondly, it denies the philosophical rights of freedom from a realm of preference, instead of just a physical difference to the "rest of society." Okay, thanks for reading, rant over.
     
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    This original question opened up some good discussion regarding personal views about sexual orientation. I see a number of arguments supporting my own view that most of us are not gay or bi or strictly hetero, except through our behavior, yet not emotionally.

    Many of us have likely played around when we were young, simply being curious about sex, and since our closest companions were of our same sex, we got into near or real sexual contact, like circle jerking, touching, etc. In some cases our curiosity might have led to actual oral sex, and even further.

    I think that I am like so many men who stopped fooling with other guys about age 12, and committed to a purely hetero existence. I fell in love with a real woman and raised a family, and am still in love with that person.

    As others have said here, sexual behavior, at least in men, CAN be separated from emotional attachments. I can receive sexual satisfaction from sex with other men, yet have no emotional attachment to those men whatsoever. I also do not need to loathe myself or my sexual partner after the act(s), because I have accepted who I am and what my sexual needs are. I could form a longer term relationship with another man, simply to ensure regular sex, but I cannot see myself forming any emotional attachments.

    So to answer the original question, I actually INTENDED to cross over sexually, because the opportunities were much more frequent. I have no guilt feelings about it, and I do not identify myself as gay or bi. I just need and enjoy my sex. It is a very important part of my life.
     
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