What made your best lover " your best lover "?

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So I'm trying to up my skills and would like some pointers. What made him your best lover? Upon my research it seems like the most important part is the communication and foreplay but very little to do with the actual penetration part of sex. I can see how this could be possibly true since when it gets to the penetration portion and no matter what position your doing it seems to be just an in and out motion. So what was it they made your experience memorable? Thanks in advance for the tips ladies!
 

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There are so many elements to what has made him my best lover, so I will try my best to capture him. He is my best friend, so the communication and respect is huge. We share a level of honesty and openness that I have never had before. I can say anything to him and I know he won't judge me. He knows me better than anyone ever has. That connection is the most important part, I think, because it enables him to be so intimately in tune with me. He reads me so well in a sexual situation, that I sometimes feel as if he's reading my mind. I've asked him, and he says he listens to my sounds, my breathing, my motions, and I'm sure tons of physical responses. When you add this to his personality as a lover...his turn on is giving his girl pleasure...it's an explosive mix.

Now for the more physical and mechanical aspects of sex. Of course being good at foreplay is essential. But he takes it to an entirely new level. He is spontaneous and unpredictable. He will sneak a hand up my skirt in public. When he kisses me, I can feel the energy fueling his desire. And he looks at me with these eyes that just seem on fire. I love the flash of a glint in his eye that makes me know he has something planned for me, and I must wait. When we are alone, foreplay covers all the senses. He pays attention to all parts of my body and uses his fingers like no man I've ever known. And let me be honest, if you're not completely ravenously into oral sex, it's really not worth it. He's got that perfected to an art too.

I really don't agree with your assumption that the penetration part is not a big factor. It's a huge part of it. Penetration takes finesse and a great deal of intuition, especially for him, as he has a big cock. It takes patience and restraint to build the trust needed to let go and experience new levels of ecstasy when you are aware that this man can hurt you. It's never about "just an in and out motion", as you say. You have to be aware of your angle, and what spots you are stimulating. He was very precise about learning which spots feel the best, so then we could let go and just fuck with abandon. I do believe that being hung is a big factor in why he is the best. But it's not the most important factor... Possibly important enough that I wouldn't want to go back to average, though.

Oh, and his stamina is high. He can last for hours, cum multiple times and fuck for days in fun new exciting places. I'm sure there's more. Long answer, I know, but that's the minimum I can say to describe my man when he's fucking :)
 

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Unselfish, confident, intuitive, smart, endowed, open. He knew what I wanted or needed when I wanted it or needed it.
 

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As I am about to write this I know I am going to sound so sappy, but here goes. It wasn't/isn't about what he did/does in the bedroom at all; for me it is about the man that he is. His kindness, humor, commitment and passion for all things he does, carries over into the bedroom.
 

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I think this really nails it. Unselfish is wanting to make it great for me, confident is being assertive and not tentative, intuitive is reading my body language. A lot of making sex great is about timing. And it's also why it usually gets better the better you know each other. For me endowed plays into it as in a bigger guy can sometimes get away with less skills in other areas, but for it to be really great it has to be more than that.

Unselfish, confident, intuitive, smart, endowed, open. He knew what I wanted or needed when I wanted it or needed it.
 

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One thing I can add to Paige's story, which I completely agree with, is that he and I share a difficult history. We've both been terribly hurt by people in whom we've placed our complete trust. We respect how beautiful and fragile trust can be, and we each do our best to deserve each other's trust.

And here's a weird thought: I'm grateful to his past lovers. I'll be honest and say I don't think I would have wanted to know him when he was just starting out in his road to learning about lovemaking. Some very patient women trained him well in using his natural and overabundant "talent." Bless you, dear ladies. I'm able to reap the fruit of your labors.