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Sparked by an earlier conversation, what do you think makes a great hug? Please do share. Some of us may need to upgrade our skillz. :tongue:
A great hug is never half-arsed. :smile: You squeeze more tightly as you know somebody longer and feel closer to them (but don't squeeze so hard as to hurt them). Lighter and shorter hugs are best between relatives, longer and tighter hugs are for very close friends :biggrin: And always make sure the other person wants a hug... some people are just not huggable.
A hug is something special. Inside a hug is somewhere you can feel safe and protected, comforted and cared for, loved and wanted.
To give a hug is an honour. You can show someone how much they mean to you and how much you care for them.
The best hug envelopes. Body contact is important. The more... sexy the hug the more contact... starting with the upper body and perhaps moving down if approriate.
Pressure is important but tight squeezing a no-no, as MB says.
There again, no pressure can be dissappointing to the recipient. A bit like a limp handshake.
A gentle rub on the back is appropriate, a hand to the head to hold closer is lovely.
As the hug ends, a hand to the cheek, to cup and stroke gently allows eye contact which reinforces the message of the hug.
I'm a good hugger, though the boobs can get in the way.![]()
There's something in a simple hug
That always warms the heart;
It welcomes us back home
And makes it easier to part.
A hug's a way to share the joy
And sad times we go through,
Or just a way for friends to say
They like you 'cause you're you.
Hugs are meant for anyone
For whom we really care,
From your grandma to your neighbour,
Or a cuddly teddy bear.
A hug is an amazing thing -
It's just the perfect way
To show the love we're feeling
But can't find the words to say.
It's funny how a little hug
Makes everyone feel good;
In every place and language,
It's always understood. And hugs don't need new equipment,
Special batteries or parts -
Just open up your arms
And open up your hearts.
There are degrees of hug depending on the situation and how well you know the person.
Ideally, it should be unhurried, firm, but not crushing, full body, either with or without back rubbing depending on whether or not it's for reassurance/security or comforting.
You change the level of body contact depending on who you're hugging. A quick "arms around the shoulders" hug is what I use for some one I don't know well or don't like but have to be seen to be hugging. They're pretty insincere, or at least not very friendly.
Full-on close, firm hugs for me are reserved for five people, my partner and some of my closest friends.
Other people get something in between the two depending on who they are and how I feel about them.