What makes a guy a good fuck?

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I often hear women differentiate and describe their partners or hook ups as having good dick (regardless of size), or being a good fuck/ he fucks good.

So, what makes a guy a ‘good fuck’ or good at fucking specifically?

Is it primarily stamina and rhythm? Hard and deep? Spontaneous and experimental positions? In contrast what makes a guy bad at fucking?

On that note, when it comes to cumming or as close to cumming as you can get from penetration alone... what position(s) and rythym do you prefer or can get you there?
(consistent ‘pounding’, slow and deep, fast and hard, slow and hard, deep grinding... anything consistent for more then 10seconds etc)

I appreciate you women that somehow stick around on this site! Hopefully my questions are somewhat bearable compared to some others
 
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I can only answer for myself and what I personally like because as you may or may not know we're not all turned out with the same cookie cutter NOR do we have a hive mind.

So, for me what makes a person good at sex is an eclectic mix of chemistry, timing, communication and technique.
My biggest sexual organ is my brain so seduction is important and oft missed portion of the equation.
Be an active listener AND remember.
Be able to take direction without ego.
KISSING.

But really the art of seduction, in my mind at least, is a dying art.
A man who is clever and sincere in his seduction will have me wet and desirous
before we get naked.
He'll have me lip locking, getting a rodeo wrap on his tie, shoving him against a hard surface,
dropping to my knees and ripping his fly open.....
He'll have me pulling him down onto the floor, ripping open his shirt in a hail of buttons and have me mount him in the hallway before we even get to the bedroom.
Breathless, crazy desperate sex that has me cumming long and hard within a only a few hard strokes and then
have them roll one into the other until the floor under us is drenched.
Has my tipping my head up at the ceiling and howling while I shred his pecs with my nails.

Seduction is a powerful, wonderous thing and more than repays the effort put into it.

My $0.02 worth.
 

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Sweetie, you're going to get yes and no on all of your questions. All of my lovers have been absolutely wonderful, but some have been more absolutely wonderful than others. And not every lover was absolutely wonderful each and every time. But OK sex is better than mopping a floor, so I'd rather have OK sex.

You are focusing on purely physical things and ignoring the metaphysical. Remember, the brain is the most powerful sex organ on a person. Make love to my mind as well as my body. You may be five inches below, but you're miles long in my head.
 

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Is it primarily stamina and rhythm? Hard and deep? Spontaneous and experimental positions? In contrast what makes a guy bad at fucking?
See how you think it boils down to this part? The great lays don't do that. The great ones are obviously about to be great before I even part my thighs.

This is highly subjective. For me, the best playmates are intuitively tuned into me, and I hope they feel I'm tuned into them too. They are paying close attention, and we have good non-verbal communication. They see how I respond to each touch and it informs them how else to touch and where. They are able to surprise me, especially at first. There is no such thing as a great lay who isn't a fantastic kisser. In my book, a great lay enthusiastically eats pussy like an expert who has been starved. He has a way of making my spine tingle just by saying my name when we speak. He can control the encounter without upsetting me, and I take him seriously because he knows how to make me want this.

By the time we get to intercourse, it's not about positions, speed or the size of his dick. It's simple. He's paid attention. He's figured me out. A great lay knows what I need at the moment. A great lay picks the right angle, and rubs the right spots on damn' near every stroke, and he gets those spots at the right speed, applying the right pressure. He knows when to tease and when to deliver. And if he doesn't know right away, he quickly figures it out and adjusts.
 

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There is literally *one* word to keep in mind: communication.

There is no specific position that *always* works, no speed of thrust, no combination of tactics... This isn't a sport where points are kept and notes are taken. It's a shared experience.

What makes a man a great lover? When he's paying as much attention to my body as I am his. Listen to me, and tell me what is wanted of me. Do it with words, do it with your body.

This is how my man and I have Earth shattering orgasms on a regular basis.
 
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I definitely don’t think it only boils down to only ‘techniques’! Foreplay, mental arousal and communication are obviously (or maybe not so obvious ) the most important components. I was just hung up on specifically hearing stuff like “he knows how to fuck”, “his dick game was strong” or the opposite, “I was so turned on, he was so attractive, but when it came down to it he was bad as sex/ fucking”. That’s why I posed the question the way I did. To me those phrases, hopefully understandably, seem like it had more to do with how they were fucking.

I guess what I was looking for or needed to see was your last paragraph @AlteredEgo. It’s has more to do with intuition and reading her cues.

I feel stupid now. I apologize lol, carry on!!
 

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I definitely don’t think it only boils down to only ‘techniques’! Foreplay, mental arousal and communication are obviously (or maybe not so obvious ) the most important components. I was just hung up on specifically hearing stuff like “he knows how to fuck”, “his dick game was strong” or the opposite, “I was so turned on, he was so attractive, but when it came down to it he was bad as sex/ fucking”. That’s why I posed the question the way I did. To me those phrases, hopefully understandably, seem like it had more to do with how they were fucking.

I guess what I was looking for or needed to see was your last paragraph @AlteredEgo. It’s has more to do with intuition and reading her cues.

I feel stupid now. I apologize lol, carry on!!
Please don't feel stupid! It was a good, solid question, which is why it drew sincere answers from women who wanted to help.

I think a more precise and we're from me, for your clarified question would be that if we must focus in purely the physicality of the intercourse itself, what makes that good is contact with erogenous zones within my vagina. Making that contact correctly will require that he has some idea where they are, and checks in with me, preferably non-verbally, to see if he's finding them, and if I'm getting enough friction and pressure. I will move my body helpfully, so he should watch for that, and I get loud and shrill when it's right, and deep and gutteral when I climax. So, he should be listening for that and following the movement of my body. If I get still, it means I think he's not paying attention to what I'm doing and that I'll get hurt if I move too much. Unless I'm about to come. I also get still and very stiff right before climax. It's just attention and communication, and hitting the right spots the right way as a result of that.

But for me personally to think of a man as a fantastic lay, I'mma need the whole package, from seduction to taking care of me as we roll apart.
 

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If he keeps hurting me, he isn't very good at it, as far as I'm concerned. A man should pay attention, and not hit that spot again. One little out-of-bounds spot in the whole vagina! You know where it is because the second you hit it my hands are on your belly and I've retreated a bit.
 

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Stupid-knows better and yet still does what doesn’t work.
Ignorant - doesn’t yet know.

You, OP, are no longer ignorant. It’s up to you if you are stupid.

Edited to add:

As for what I think makes a great lover, playfulness. We explore, and don’t have any goals.
It could be cracking jokes, one running joke with my lover is how I must absolutely hate oral sex. Usually delivered while I’m on my knees and he’s trying to delay an orgasm 10 minutes in.
Yes, jokes to delay orgasm are acceptable!

Our communication and timing hit bumps. The willingness to laugh and roll with it smooths over the dumb little things on both sides.

I tried a hook up once. We were together 14 years. Must have impressed one another.
 
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There is literally *one* word to keep in mind: communication.

There is no specific position that *always* works, no speed of thrust, no combination of tactics... This isn't a sport where points are kept and notes are taken. It's a shared experience.

What makes a man a great lover? When he's paying as much attention to my body as I am his. Listen to me, and tell me what is wanted of me. Do it with words, do it with your body.

This is how my man and I have Earth shattering orgasms on a regular basis.
Agree 100 percent, how it is between my man & I.
 
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