What makes a person "gay"

[Ringtail]

So what makes a person "gay"? Is it strictly physically being with someone of the same gender? Or do you have to experience "love" for that individual? If your a women and you "love" men would you still be able to physically be with another women if a man didn't satisfy you without being gay? and vice versa for that males.

Give me all your long hard deep thoughts. :tongue:

 

[Ringtail]

:3 also ifthe mods would be so kind as to move this over to the "Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy" section (as i have no idea how to) i think it would be better served there

 

[Remington]

My opinion, if a person prefers & is getting off to, pursuing, and/or engaging in sexual acts with only the same gender, then they're gay.

To me, "love" has very little to do with sexual preference and practices. I know plenty of people (myself included) that can have sex with someone without loving them.

 

[Remington]

Double post. Sorry.

 

[aqua-illusion]

If someone choose to have "romantic feelings" or "loving relations" with the same sex, and of course for most/some people sex comes with love so it's like a neat little package! hahaha.

Also, you have to be IN-LOVE with that person for it to count, because loving someone isn't the same thing. I love my family and some of my friends, but I'm not IN LOVE with my family and some of my friends.

 

[crescendo69]

"Gay" means sexual attraction to same gender only.

"Bi" means sexual attraction to either gender.

"Straight" means sexual attraction to opposite gender only.

Next question..

 

[Brick7]

Regarding the original question:
What makes a person "gay"
A person is gay because they are born that way.
Asked and answered.:biggrin1:

 

[MickeyLee]

"Gay" means sexual attraction to same sex only.

"Bi" means sexual attraction to either sex.

"Straight" means sexual attraction to opposite sex only.

Next question..

throwing gender in the mix gives you a whole new set of definitions.

 

[sexplease]

that's way too broad a topic/statement and much to narrow poll answers.
Hormones plays a big part. nurture, nature - another part.
and besides, life and its boundaries change to exist and so must definitions and descriptions.

 

[Bbucko]

Hmmmmmm...the word gay is in quotation marks in the title, and Ringtail puts them around both gay and love in the OP. I think that he's looking for a sociological answer rather than any discussion of sexual orientation.

I think I'll pass on this one.

 

[xmarksbreakdownx]

I'm not sure how to explain it, but it's more than sex. Think about it, men have sex with women all the time with no emotions attached at all.

 

[deleted724068]

im gay. i am all the above. i love men. gay, straight or bi. a man is a man no matter of there sexuality. know.your gay is something you just know, dont know how to explain it. its the same way guys know if they are straight.
shouldnt this question go out to the straight people on this site too? what makes you straight?

 

[D_GlennFeckless]

From a purely sexual point of view, identity is self defined. Genetics may play an enormous part in attraction, but if attraction plays a limited role in one's sexual activity, acts of self-definition win. I.e. if you are genetically predisposed to attraction to the opposite sex, and you choose not to go against that to get your jollies, then you can rightfully call yourself straight, and vice-versa. If, OTOH, you decide on a little physical fun "outside the box", you've overridden genetics.

I am not attracted to men but thoroughly enjoy sex with them, thus I've chosen to sexually define myself as bi, and act on that.

If we're talking about social roles, that belongs in a different section.

 

[pepinogrande]

Definitions:

Love:

"To want the very best for someone ELSE" ( Thomas Aquinas)

Sexual Orientation:

The result of chromosomes 8,9,10 and 56 already discovered genes. The fetus determines which hormones, etc, that it needs for development and he is gay, straight, some mix, between the 2-4 month of development within his mother's womb.

By the time a child is born after a 9 month gestation: he has been gay, bi, straight for approximately 6 months.

Our job as parents, teachers, et al: is to accept this wonderful child however G-d made him and love him, sustain him, assist him in becoming a solid, loving citizen who assumes responsibility, supports himself and aids those with less.

 

[Ringtail]

Hmmmmmm...the word gay is in quotation marks in the title, and Ringtail puts them around both gay and love in the OP. I think that he's looking for a sociological answer rather than any discussion of sexual orientation.

I think I'll pass on this one.

:3 THIS

Sexual orientation in the end (in my opinion) comes down to the individual and there hormones you will do what you like at the end of the day irrigaurdless of someone elses views on it, but what from a societies view (secifically all of yours) makes a person homosexual?

 

[OCMuscleJock]

"Gay" means sexual attraction to same gender only.

"Bi" means sexual attraction to either gender.

"Straight" means sexual attraction to opposite gender only.

Next question..

well in a general vague definition of the terms....

SOOO much more to sexual preference than just the attraction or act.

 

[deleted692552]

In my honest opinion, all the following happening towards another guy; having very deep feelings, thinking about them constantly, checking that person out constantly, and sexual activity(if sexual activity does not happen soon, it should/will eventually).

For me, I have this attitude and behavior toward guys completely.

When it comes to a female; I may compliment them, I may perform sexual activity(which can be just as satisfying in a different way), but I truly have zero interest at the emotional level and do not wish to live together with one as a couple either.

 

[davidjh7]

I have commented enough seriously on this topic enough in the past, so time for an old joke on the subject.
"My mother made me a homosexual"
"Really? If I gaveher enough yarn, would she make me one, too?" :biggrin1:

 

[B_thenakedgardener]

i was all ways told 75% are born gay and 25% are sucked into it

 

[hungboy18]

I personally, just so I don't speak for anyone else, believe (now I feel like I'm on a pageant) that having sex with a person of the same sex doesn't make you gay, it probably means your bi, unless you're really open minded and used an available mouth/ass, imagination can take over, things happen, I wouldn't mind.

Now if a guy feels exclusively sexually attracted to another guy then he's gay, that's it, he's gay, even if he has sex with women, in my opinion he's still 100% gay, unless at some point he starts to feel something. Sex and feelings are two separate things that work together.

You're born gay or straight or Bi (which by the way has been proved to be true, there are bi people, but I suspect some are just open minded, extremely smart and horny, sexual beings).