In terms of sexual relationships we often talk about what makes a man a good lover:size,stamina,use of fingers,oral skills and the ability to give his partner an orgasm. However,I was wondering what makes a woman a good lover ? Some might say her oral skills but that's just one aspect. Also,when you are having sex;whether it be with someone new or a regular partner do you focus upon your "performance" in the same way a man might ? Or are your concerns centered around your partner and if he'll be able to satisfy your needs ?