What makes bad boy bad?

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Ladies what makes bad boy bad? what makes good boy good? can please give us tips on both. One expert was asked by woman how she can satisfy her BF and he told her in the bed you have to be like slut in the kitchen you have to be like his mother.
 

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I think you are referring to the Madonna-whore complex.

In Freudian psychoanalysis, a Madonna-whore complex is a psychological complex that is said to develop in the human male. The term is also used popularly, often with subtly different meanings.

According to Freudian psychology, this complex often develops when the sufferer is raised by a cold and distant mother. Such a man will often court women with qualities of his mother, hoping to fulfill a need for intimacy unmet in childhood. Often, the wife begins to be seen as mother to the husband—a Madonna figure—and thus not a possible object of sexual attraction. For this reason, in the mind of the sufferer, love and sex cannot be mixed, and the man is reluctant to have sexual relations with his wife, for that, he thinks unconsciously, would be as incest. He will reserve sexuality for "bad" or "dirty" women, and will not develop "normal" feelings of love in these sexual relationships.

Popularly, the term is used to describe an unsatisfiable desire by a man to have his wife or other female partner exhibit both of these mutually exclusive traits. This introduces a dilemma where men may feel unable to love any women who can satisfy them sexually and are unable to be sexually satisfied by any women who they can love. Alternatively, the term is to describe or attempt to justify the behavior of men who pursue multiple women as a way of fulfilling each of these needs. A popular example was seen in an episode of the widely popular Sex and the City TV series in which one of the main characters, Charlotte York, cannot satisfy her husband which causes good friend Samantha Jones to suggest "Madonna-whore" as a possible reason to their sexless marriage.


<H1>The Madonna/Whore Complex: A Primal Theory Interpretation</H1>
 

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I think you are referring to the Madonna-whore complex.

In Freudianpsychoanalysis, a Madonna-whore complex is a psychological complex that is said to develop in the human male. The term is also used popularly, often with subtly different meanings.

According to Freudian psychology, this complex often develops when the sufferer is raised by a cold and distant mother. Such a man will often court women with qualities of his mother, hoping to fulfill a need for intimacy unmet in childhood. Often, the wife begins to be seen as mother to the husband—a Madonna figure—and thus not a possible object of sexual attraction. For this reason, in the mind of the sufferer, love and sex cannot be mixed, and the man is reluctant to have sexual relations with his wife, for that, he thinks unconsciously, would be as incest. He will reserve sexuality for "bad" or "dirty" women, and will not develop "normal" feelings of love in these sexual relationships.

Popularly, the term is used to describe an unsatisfiable desire by a man to have his wife or other female partner exhibit both of these mutually exclusive traits. This introduces a dilemma where men may feel unable to love any women who can satisfy them sexually and are unable to be sexually satisfied by any women who they can love. Alternatively, the term is to describe or attempt to justify the behavior of men who pursue multiple women as a way of fulfilling each of these needs. A popular example was seen in an episode of the widely popular Sex and the City TV series in which one of the main characters, Charlotte York, cannot satisfy her husband which causes good friend Samantha Jones to suggest "Madonna-whore" as a possible reason to their sexless marriage.


<H1>The Madonna/Whore Complex: A Primal Theory Interpretation</H1>


Interesting. But I don't think that is what he was talking about.

But then again, his first sentence and his second one don't seem to go together to me.

I have a theory that bad and good boys do not exist. Only boy who knows what women want and boy who does not. Boy who can play and boy who can't. And midrange boy and all somewhere on that spectrum.

Some guys are inherently just plain assholes too I guess.