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where did you get that from???What do you mean, "controlling"? You mean wanting to be in a faithful relationship? I don't believe that is controlling, I believe that is just the way relationships should be. I don't want to share my man, and I don't want my man to want to share me.
my sis left her husband 6 months ago.I am always interested in how controlling manifests itself. The panoply of maneuvers can be fascinating.
and they never seem to be in control of their own emotions...prone to tears and tempers. they are out of control so they seek a sense of control by fixating on their spouse.And has anyone found that control-freaks do not often control their own lives with the same level of detail. It is not just about them being generally controlling of everything, but about them being controlling of OTHERS.
Avoidance?
What makes some people controlling?
* narcissism (If I am right, and of course I am, then anyone who disagrees with me must be wrong, so it is my duty and my right to direct and control such lesser, mistaken people.)
I had a g/f who was very insecure so in order to feel safe she would try to control everything and everyone around her. And if I (or others close to her) didn't support her crazy controlling activities, she would become either super angry, act out a lot or cry to get her way. She was the only person I ever knew who did this, and it didn't take me long to get out of that relationship. When I did got away from her, she would call me and my friends any time of the night or day, and complain about what a horrible person I was, how I abused her emotionally, and then abandoned her. It seems she had a long history of controlling behavior in her past. I met some of her exs and they all said that even though they felt sorry for her, they really could no longer deal with her need to control them completely and in every aspect of their lives. I've always felt sad that I couldn't do anything to help her.
steer clear of those ppl. :sly:
I'd actually say it was lack of ego, though.