What makes some people controlling?

[dolfette]

Slight difference between being a brat and being abusive, no?

isn't that what a brat is?
a child who tries to control the adults through manipulation, tantrums and deception?

 

[ConstantComment]

isn't that what a brat is?
a child who tries to control the adults through manipulation, tantrums and deception?

Perhaps some people see bratty behavior as charming to a degree.

 

[Drifterwood]

Perhaps some people see bratty behavior as charming to a degree.

Not where I live.

But I don't want to blame the parents necessarily.

 

[D_Gunther Snotpole]

The whole middle child karma of being a diplomatic peacemaker and subordinating one's own wishes to the collective has really marked my life especially at work.

Is that what it is?
I think I'm a fellow sufferer.

 

[B_hijack]

I think often it is people who were once controlled; or people who can't deal with the uncontrollable issues in life and use control issues in their personal life to offset the vertigo they feel from the outside world.

^ what he said. I think they are trying to re-empower themselves.

I also think that people are naturally exploitative and will often claim power where it's available... especially in the bedroom. I've had more than one friend become pussywhipped. When they have to call their wives to tell them that they'll be 10 minutes late coming home... well, that speaks for itself. If I hear "I'm sorry, honey" one more time...