What makes you bi?

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Well Im 90/10 too but I dont consider myself Bi-sex! My 10% is there for unknown possibilities. You should never completely close yourself off to those.

I dont understand all these 50/50 types. Some of them prowl around here like dogs on heat getting excited about Male flesh! Whats that about? Dont get it, never will.

I dont trust them TBH. If u cant be honest about your sexuality on an anonymous Adult site like this then there really is no hope!
 

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What makes me bi? Probably being sexually attracted to men and women. However, I am a monogamous bi when I am in a relationship...(and if I weren't bi, Xcuses pictures would make me want to consider it hehe)
 

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...I dont understand all these 50/50 types. Some of them prowl around here like dogs on heat getting excited about Male flesh! Whats that about? Dont get it, never will.

I dont trust them TBH. If u cant be honest about your sexuality on an anonymous Adult site like this then there really is no hope!
Your post sounds like you're saying because you don't understand it, it's therefore not real, and dishonest. If their attractions are equally applicable to both men and women, then 50/50 IS being honest. This argument is almost a stereotype, but it does seem to be the case that a woman can say she's bi, or "used to be" a lesbian, but if a man has ever even notices another man is attractive, he's a closet homo, denying the truth. It's also a common complaint of bi men that they "don't fit in". That is, gay men "don't trust them" (which is why your identical quote, caught my eye), and straight men think they're really just gay.

I don't speak Swahili, but just because I don't understand it, I don't deny that it's a "real" language, or even further, that it just doesn't exist.
 

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I see 50/50 as a very clinical split. I do believe that people can enjoy sex with both genders, absolutely. But EQUALLY? I cant imagine. Your fantasies must swing more one way than the other. Thats what I believe. I dont pretend to understand it. I dont trust things I dont understand. Simple as that.
 

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Your post sounds like you're saying because you don't understand it, it's therefore not real, and dishonest. If their attractions are equally applicable to both men and women, then 50/50 IS being honest. This argument is almost a stereotype, but it does seem to be the case that a woman can say she's bi, or "used to be" a lesbian, but if a man has ever even notices another man is attractive, he's a closet homo, denying the truth. It's also a common complaint of bi men that they "don't fit in". That is, gay men "don't trust them" (which is why your identical quote, caught my eye), and straight men think they're really just gay.

I don't speak Swahili, but just because I don't understand it, I don't deny that it's a "real" language, or even further, that it just doesn't exist.

Excellent comments about people refusing to accept the reality that some of us are truly bi.

I for one do not like to describe myself in terms of the site's percentage system. I am bi through and through. I feel that my interest in women is 100% of what it is for any straight man, and that my interest in men is 100% of what it is for any gay man. To describe myself as 50% straight and 50% gay just wouldn't seem not to do justice to my sexuality.
 

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When I was single I was a lot closer to being a 50/50 guy. For a while I had more sex partners of the same sex than the opposite. But now i met a amazing woman who accepts me fully and I will always be true to her. But still fantasy and flirting is a reality of my life, therefore the remaining 10 percent.
 

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novice_bottom and bi_mmf.....thanks for understanding!

Until I found this site, I had never allowed myself the freedom of expressing
my inward feelings about both males and females, and it is only because of
the anonymity that I have here at lpsg that I can. It is not something that
I do in the real world.

The problem with being BI is that most refuse to accept the fact that a BI
can find females and males EQUALLY attractive and sexually exiciting. I
don't hate them for this for their thinking is caused by many factors, and
they have the right to believe as they do. I just hope someday it will change.

I do not understand why I am able to feel equally attacted to both sexes, but I
just do and accept it. I have felt this way since I was about 7 years old, long
before I knew there was a name for my feelings. It was not something that
I learned, but something that I just was, so I must assume that I was born and
pre-programed as a BI before birth. I am not unhappy being BI, and would NOT
change if I had the chance to be either Straight or Gay.

BIs and Gays used to be in the same closet, so to speak, and were shunned
and treated as equal pariahs and sexual deviants. But then, Stonewall took
place in 1969 and since then there have been tremendous strides made in the
educating of the populace about Gays, the old "Gay medical condition" has been
resended, Gays are accepted more and more every year, and today Gays are
even being allowed to marry in some places around the world. They have come
a long way, and it is easier to "come ouf of the closet" today. I am very happy
for them and hope it will happen for us in the future.

But BIs are still in hiding....as I am in the real world, living as a straight man and
professing being turned-on ONLY by women. My straight friends and colleagues
know that I was married and that I am a father and have no idea that I am equally attacted to men as I am to women. If they knew, I am sure that I'd be rejected
by them in social settings as well as in business.

Xcuse...yes I do swing from one to the other....sometimes I am more into
women, and other times it is men. And, yes, sometimes it is both! Do you even
think about who you are attracted to and why? I doubt it.....it just happens and
you react.

I don't think it is any different for a man to be excited about one girl and then if
he sees another that he finds even more exciting and exotic at the time...goes
with his feelings and switches to her. You say you don't trust a man who swings
from a desire for a woman to a desire for a man, but you'd trust one that would do
the same from woman to woman. Why? Is it any more unbelieveable for a man to
go from one woman he finds exciting, to a man he meets who he finds even more exciting? I don't see the difference. But, I accept your right to feel the way you
do for you are wired to feel that way....just like I am wired to feel differently.

Personally, my emotions are just emotions, and they have no rules to follow as to
whom I find attractive...be it a female or a male. I absolutely hate labels and would
prefer not to state that I am 50% Gay/50% Straight, but I am given no alternate
choice. So, for me it is completely honest to state that I am 50%/50% as, I am
sure, as honest as your 90%/10%.

I hope that someday that no one will ever need to label themselves or will need to
explain their private sexual desires.....such as Straight, Gay, or BI.

It's just plain demeaning!!!!
 

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What makes me bi? Probably being sexually attracted to men and women. However, I am a monogamous bi when I am in a relationship...(and if I weren't bi, Xcuses pictures would make me want to consider it hehe)

I'd actually agree with this comment.

I'm attracted to both genders because I can find elements of desireability in each. That doesn't mean I run around, fucking everything that moves (regardless of popular stereotypes):wink:

What makes a person bi, is their preferences. Being openminded (which is what I prefer to call myself) means realizing that you don't mind whatever possibilities may come up.
 

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What makes me bi? Probably being sexually attracted to men and women. However, I am a monogamous bi when I am in a relationship...(and if I weren't bi, Xcuses pictures would make me want to consider it hehe)

EXACTLY!!!......that's the way it should be...and personally I would not
have it any other way!