I know I'm objectively attractive. I've received a lot of validation from strangers in person and online so I have no shame in admitting it or self-esteem concerns there.
I have a profile on Grindr with just my toned torso and some nice pics that keep getting me compliments from strangers. I'll share my face with people I'm attracted to and receive more validation from them when they see me. But there are still many people who I'll have a short conversation with before sharing my face pics that block me after I show them face.
Again, I'm not concerned with my looks because I receive more validation than rejections, but I can't help but wonder that something else triggers this type of behaviors on Grindr. Sure, I might just be full of myself and some people might actually dislike my face, I'm not their type or something like that. But I want to explore beyond not being someone's type as a reason to block them after you see them.
I also noticed this is a pattern of behavior in some countries but not in others. For example in Northern Europe people are more rude and this type of behavior is more normalized. But I'm not from the north, so I can't help but take it as offensive and disrespectful. You agree on swapping face pics, you get the courage to go first and instead of a response like "sorry you're not my type" or "I'm looking for someone smoother, hairier, bigger, thinner etc" you get an immediate block.
This has turned me into a very distrustful person so I don't share my pics first anymore. When someone wants me to go first I simply reply no thanks have a nice day and cut the conversation there and then. It is just as rude in my opinion, but at least it's a response and you draw the line that you'll not go first and you'll not proceed with the conversation. Whenever someone else has gone first I've always given them feedback if they're not my type and what I'm looking for. This is way too much to ask from anyone nowadays unfortunately, but in a world of mean guys I choose to be kind.
I want to hear your experiences here when you've blocked someone who you've found attractive but still blocked them.
I have a couple theories but would love to hear real life stories of your personal experiences. For example:
- You realize it's someone you know and you don't want this person to know you're on Grindr
- You're just collecting face pics for some weird reason. Which could that be?
- You're trying to boost your own self esteem by having strangers validate you and then block them
- You think the guy is out of your league so you block him
- You think it's a fake or someone catfishing you
- You're uncomfortable rejecting someone so you block them outright to avoid going through these feelings.
I'm all ears to hear where you're from and your experiences blocking people and your reasons beyond them not being your type.
I have a profile on Grindr with just my toned torso and some nice pics that keep getting me compliments from strangers. I'll share my face with people I'm attracted to and receive more validation from them when they see me. But there are still many people who I'll have a short conversation with before sharing my face pics that block me after I show them face.
Again, I'm not concerned with my looks because I receive more validation than rejections, but I can't help but wonder that something else triggers this type of behaviors on Grindr. Sure, I might just be full of myself and some people might actually dislike my face, I'm not their type or something like that. But I want to explore beyond not being someone's type as a reason to block them after you see them.
I also noticed this is a pattern of behavior in some countries but not in others. For example in Northern Europe people are more rude and this type of behavior is more normalized. But I'm not from the north, so I can't help but take it as offensive and disrespectful. You agree on swapping face pics, you get the courage to go first and instead of a response like "sorry you're not my type" or "I'm looking for someone smoother, hairier, bigger, thinner etc" you get an immediate block.
This has turned me into a very distrustful person so I don't share my pics first anymore. When someone wants me to go first I simply reply no thanks have a nice day and cut the conversation there and then. It is just as rude in my opinion, but at least it's a response and you draw the line that you'll not go first and you'll not proceed with the conversation. Whenever someone else has gone first I've always given them feedback if they're not my type and what I'm looking for. This is way too much to ask from anyone nowadays unfortunately, but in a world of mean guys I choose to be kind.
I want to hear your experiences here when you've blocked someone who you've found attractive but still blocked them.
I have a couple theories but would love to hear real life stories of your personal experiences. For example:
- You realize it's someone you know and you don't want this person to know you're on Grindr
- You're just collecting face pics for some weird reason. Which could that be?
- You're trying to boost your own self esteem by having strangers validate you and then block them
- You think the guy is out of your league so you block him
- You think it's a fake or someone catfishing you
- You're uncomfortable rejecting someone so you block them outright to avoid going through these feelings.
I'm all ears to hear where you're from and your experiences blocking people and your reasons beyond them not being your type.
