At the age of 58, after 31 years of marriage and nearly 32 years of living together, my wife finally got up the nerve to talk to her gynecologist about "our" problem, my 6.25" girth. She said that she was very emotional about the talk and the years of trying to deal with "her" problem, in all that time she had never told any doctor or gynecologist (male and female) that intercourse was painful for her and she has seen many doctors and gynecologists. The girth issue is something we finally realized last fall was probably her source of pain during intercourse. After trying intercourse one more time, she had said, with tears, "Maybe you are just too big for me!" So I measured and looked my size up on the web and well, here we are. Sex was always painful for her and consequently we only tried intercourse once or twice a year. Early in our courtship and marriage we had what I thought was successful intercourse but she told me later that she just endured the pain, then for many years we tried to find out what was wrong with her. She feels better now that her gynecologist assured her that she is "normal" and that I am the one who is abnormal, or "big". Then she asked her gynecologist if surgery was available to reduce my girth! Luckily her male gynecologist told her that wasn't a very good option. He encouraged her to continue with the dilation stretches, that I have mentioned in other threads, she had stopped for various reasons and for various lengths of time because of minor surgery and vaginal infections. He did tell her that she may not be able to reach her goal of acommodating me and that we may need to learn to live with that, of course that is what we have been doing for over 30 years already. But she has started her dilation program again and her goal is to be able take me comfortably.