From what I heard, most women who will endure it only do so to please their partners.
I have heard
some women say that - but
most? I'd like to see your evidence for
most.
Women don't have prostates, so there is very little there for them to like about it. If they get off on it psychologically, say as it's taboo, then they'd have reason to do it, not just to please the guy. Because women don't have any mechanism in there to gain pleasure from the experience, you're unlikely to find many who are willing to allow you to roam up their back passages. Reality ain't a porno, folks!
Find an adventurous chick if you're into it, or an accommodating one, but keep in mind that if she's not in it for the taboo, she's just doing it to please you, and that's not a positive thing to put a person through. Anal sex can be painful, and if you aren't getting anything out of it, that fucking sucks!
I do notice and appreciate the last line of your post - and that it contains an 'if' - and you are right, if a person (male or female) gets no enjoyment from being fucked in the ass any associated pain would, indeed, suck.
However, as pointed out already, anal sex can be very pleasurable for women:
Um, we may not have prostates but we still have a bunch of nerves back there. It -can- feel good to some women physically. I personally don't "get off on it psychologically" at all for being "taboo".
I get off both on the physical sensation and the 'naughtiness'.
Can't speak for all women, but your assumptions do no apply to me at all. I love anal sex because it feels physically pleasurable - from the stretch at entry, the depth, his stroke, the pressure of being filled, which includes pressure to my vaginal walls. Plus, my deep spot/cul-de-sac also experiences similar sensation from anal with the right angle.
I've also engaged in impromptu/heat of the moment anal... no biggie.
Me too. I can tell when I'm empty and when I'm not, if I'm not I don't do it. Simple as. And ditto on getting the deep spot hit from the other side of the wall. Yummy!
As Fay said, we have a whole bunch of nerves there. As FLAG said, anal can stimulate our deep spots through the shared anal/vaginal walls.
And in additional to these, some women can reach orgasm through stimulation of the perineal sponge.
There's plenty of physical reasons to like anal for women who enjoy these kinds of stimulation.
Not so much the ps for me - it's all about the deep bits.
Yep! Well said Faydreh!
Though I'm a little confused atm, cos I asked my bf about why he loves it so much (we haven't had anal, but he said he really likes it) and he said it's cos of the 'power' that he gets....that's quite offputting for me. I don't want to be an object to give him 'power', this just seems degrading to me?
[...] but later on I realised that he really just did it cos he wanted to degrade me.
I guess this has left me with the feeling then...do guys just want to do this to degrade us? I'm confused.
Well - you can't say all guys do or don't - I guess maybe some guys do, but I would say most don't. I think there's a big psych factor for guys too, the naughtiness of it - but there's also the sensation, a tighter grip on the cock but maybe less restrictive depths?
That is how I like it. Sure ease it in at first, i dont wish to tear but after the first couple of thrusts I love my arse to be fucked as hard as possible. My fav position is on my back with my knees pushed back into my shoulders.
Yeah - I'm with you. Nothing like a good hard ass fucking. Sometimes the first penetration can be a little uncomfortable or, if I don't manage to relax that muscle, actually painful - but I'm very used to Hick's cock in my ass and the mechanics of relaxing to let him in so pain is rarely an issue. Even the first time we did it though, when I wasn't used to anything as girthy as his cock in my ass, we managed a vigorous one. It's just such a good sensation for me.
Also, when I'm on my back Hick will often hook one of my legs over his shoulder and get his thumb into my pussy and stimulate my g-spot. It is heavenly - makes me cum in two different ways at once.