What opened your bi side?

[motorcityboy]

This website

Welcome to opening up to your bi side
It’s a great and fun place to be

 

[openfall]

I have been wondering if there is anything specific that opens up a straight guy to be bi. It seems like you hear a lot of guys realizing this side as they've gotten older. As a gay man, my attraction to guys has always been present.

Did you always know you like both sexes? Or, did you start experimenting with gay or bi porn and like what you see?

This is a really interesting topic and the responses just show how diverse male sexuality actually is.

First, I have to confess to not actually physically experiencing sex with a man. But I can describe what led me here and to consider myself beyond straight.

I had always considered myself 100% straight. I grew up in a religious environment and had my own well defined sense of sexual morality. This was problematic, girls dumped me because I wouldn't have sex! But I was very romantic and believed if I was patient the right girl would come along... What happened was at 24, alone in a foreign country, an older woman, recently separated from a 12 year relationship, was determined to corrupt me. I conceded to some sexual activity, felt guilt ridden, ended up marrying. Years of very tense and unhappy marriage followed. I discovered she had mental health problems, then physical problems, she was very needy. Sex was sporadic and then stopped totally.

Meanwhile, I had grown out of my narrower conceptions of belief and grown into a new found appreciation of my body. It was liberating. I had no-one to enjoy this with though. Then I discovered some of these online video chat rooms. What I liked best was not just wanking to girls doing stuff but the interaction with me 'performing' too. I started to broadcast myself but found most of the people watching me were guys.

The thought of guys wanking with me was exciting. But I wasn't yet sure I'd enjoy sex with them. Then I started interacting with trans women on the platform. They seemed to enjoy our mutual wanking and they turned me on loads. I get hard on just thinking of some sessions with me wanking imagining sucking cock & giving anal. Then to my surprise I found myself liking the thought of all out sex with some of these trans women.

But over a few months, I also began enjoying more my interactions with some of the guys would would watch me. There was one guy who had a gorgeous cock and really would have loved to taste him in my mouth...

Finally, I realised that actually I like some guys as much as anyone else. There are girls and trans people I find very attractive and some I don't. Maybe now with me it's like I find more women who turn me on than trans people, and more trans people who excite me than men. But the men I find attractive, well, I'd happily enjoy passionate sex with 100%

It's important for me to think that at the end of the day we're all human. The mutual pleasure of sex is important to me. It's life affirming.

 

[figgnewton]

I always identified myself as a gay man, since I was at a very younger age.

My breakup with my BF in 2007 (I was 22 or 23 years old at that time) left me terribly hurt I did not plan on seeing any man afterwards and I took the chance to focus clearly on my education and job; I did not want any distractions.

By the year 2009 (and I really did not date any man all that time, although I still knew I had feelings for men), in the gym I met this pretty girl with whom I became friends and I used to help her in her classwork (she was studying something similar to what I had studied).

Anyway, many many months later I found myself sexually attracted to her.

This is a very brief of how it happened with me, but I might share my life story with details because there is just so much more to why exactly my sexual feelings took that turn.

So far so good, more of the story please.

 

[b7ib l 2eir]

So far so good, more of the story please.

Thanks for your interest.

Honestly, I have two things that always cross my mind.

First, I was only 8 years old when a family relative (he was 14 years old at the time) and told me to do things to him; like grab his dick, even suck it.
It started like that and I did not understand a thing of what was going on.

We kept doing this for some years and as I grew up and discovered myself, mainly I remember well when I turned 12, I knew how to enjoy this thing more with him.

We remained together till I became 18 years old, but never had anal sex. Although he tried many many times and he wanted it so much, I never enjoyed it.
Back then Gay sex was a very obscure thing; I don't think there was even any gay porn video to get from everywhere and internet was not yet of a thing; but there was this string bond between us both.

When we grew up, he started dating girls and I was kind of alone till I went to University, nd there I went into a relationship with my classmate and we stayed together for 4 years and we only engaged in soft sex.

I was madly in love with that guy and he was also, at least the first to years. He never touched me at first; he did not do any oral sex to me and I did not mind any of that.

I had this hope that slowly slowly we will reach a time where he will accept what is happening between us both and he will ask for more and want to try more.
He used to treat me in a very good way and our parents were all friends with each other.

When we reached our fourth year in University, I noticed a couple of change in his attitude.
You know when friends sit together to play cards, drink, whatever and they start discussing things. Once the debate was about gay men; being gay was a huge taboo and insult over here.

However, I was shocked how he spoke about gay men, and he went on defending that it is not as bad for a top man as much as it is a big shame for the bottom.

It was like he was trying to consolidate his own feelings, convince himself that as long as he has never engaged in sexual activity himself, he was still a heterosexual.

That night when I went back home, I did not feel any shame, but I realized I was very naïve, stupid to keep hoping that something will ever happen and I perhaps realized that he was just taking advantage of the time together.

He probably don't have to go and engage in any sexual sin with a woman, since also that was not something very easy to do; but he has this stupid friend who is willing to cater to his sexual needs.

Within a week, my attitude changed towards him.

There was that night when I was having a sleepover at his place and while he tried to amend things, like he started giving me massage and tried to excite me, or better say seduce me, so that I may probably give him a blowjob; every touch from his hands gave me the creeps. I was so cold.

Then he told me, "You know, what we did before; believe me, I did all this for you; because I care about you."

So I told him, "Really?"

He assured me he did and said, "because you are different from every body and you are my best friend. So do not ever feel you need to ask if you ever feel the need to touch me."

Deep down I was laughing; my mind was saying things like Is this guy really serious, he thinks me so stupid (although I have been for 4 years now).

Anyway, I told him, "So do you want me to touch you now?"

He replied, "If you want to."

But I asked again, "I do of course. But what about you? Do you want that?"

He remained silent for some minutes, I remember the moment very well. Then he said, "Yes, I want."

There I put a devilish smile, I had him naked, tuned on the lights, stood in front of him, grabbed my camera and took a picture of him and told him in a very old blooded voice, "BUT I DON'T..."

Then I grabbed my bag and left back to my house.

He never dared to even make an eye contact with me.

There I took the decision that I better focus on my final studies before graduation and then concentrate on finding a good job.

And after graduation is where I met that first girl and where me sexual desires for a woman kicked in.

I know I have sexual feelings for men because it is something I learnt since childhood; I believe my heterosexual side was still waiting for its chance to exist, and it started with that girl.

More to come later, if anyone likes.

 

[figgnewton]

Okay. More info.

 

[18wheeler]

Hard to say. When I was in high school I never even considered being bi until wrestling with my best friend and saw his hard on, and didn’t even hesitate to explore.

After that I pushed the feelings back for 2 decades and now am married and have 4 kids. Yet. I yearn for time with a man now more than i Care to describe. It drives me insane.

 

[Luvcutdick]

Thanks for your interest.

Honestly, I have two things that always cross my mind.

First, I was only 8 years old when a family relative (he was 14 years old at the time) and told me to do things to him; like grab his dick, even suck it.
It started like that and I did not understand a thing of what was going on.

We kept doing this for some years and as I grew up and discovered myself, mainly I remember well when I turned 12, I knew how to enjoy this thing more with him.

We remained together till I became 18 years old, but never had anal sex. Although he tried many many times and he wanted it so much, I never enjoyed it.
Back then Gay sex was a very obscure thing; I don't think there was even any gay porn video to get from everywhere and internet was not yet of a thing; but there was this string bond between us both.

When we grew up, he started dating girls and I was kind of alone till I went to University, nd there I went into a relationship with my classmate and we stayed together for 4 years and we only engaged in soft sex.

I was madly in love with that guy and he was also, at least the first to years. He never touched me at first; he did not do any oral sex to me and I did not mind any of that.

I had this hope that slowly slowly we will reach a time where he will accept what is happening between us both and he will ask for more and want to try more.
He used to treat me in a very good way and our parents were all friends with each other.

When we reached our fourth year in University, I noticed a couple of change in his attitude.
You know when friends sit together to play cards, drink, whatever and they start discussing things. Once the debate was about gay men; being gay was a huge taboo and insult over here.

However, I was shocked how he spoke about gay men, and he went on defending that it is not as bad for a top man as much as it is a big shame for the bottom.

It was like he was trying to consolidate his own feelings, convince himself that as long as he has never engaged in sexual activity himself, he was still a heterosexual.

That night when I went back home, I did not feel any shame, but I realized I was very naïve, stupid to keep hoping that something will ever happen and I perhaps realized that he was just taking advantage of the time together.

He probably don't have to go and engage in any sexual sin with a woman, since also that was not something very easy to do; but he has this stupid friend who is willing to cater to his sexual needs.

Within a week, my attitude changed towards him.

There was that night when I was having a sleepover at his place and while he tried to amend things, like he started giving me massage and tried to excite me, or better say seduce me, so that I may probably give him a blowjob; every touch from his hands gave me the creeps. I was so cold.

Then he told me, "You know, what we did before; believe me, I did all this for you; because I care about you."

So I told him, "Really?"

He assured me he did and said, "because you are different from every body and you are my best friend. So do not ever feel you need to ask if you ever feel the need to touch me."

Deep down I was laughing; my mind was saying things like Is this guy really serious, he thinks me so stupid (although I have been for 4 years now).

Anyway, I told him, "So do you want me to touch you now?"

He replied, "If you want to."

But I asked again, "I do of course. But what about you? Do you want that?"

He remained silent for some minutes, I remember the moment very well. Then he said, "Yes, I want."

There I put a devilish smile, I had him naked, tuned on the lights, stood in front of him, grabbed my camera and took a picture of him and told him in a very old blooded voice, "BUT I DON'T..."

Then I grabbed my bag and left back to my house.

He never dared to even make an eye contact with me.

There I took the decision that I better focus on my final studies before graduation and then concentrate on finding a good job.

And after graduation is where I met that first girl and where me sexual desires for a woman kicked in.

I know I have sexual feelings for men because it is something I learnt since childhood; I believe my heterosexual side was still waiting for its chance to exist, and it started with that girl.

More to come later, if anyone likes.

Yes, please do share more !!!

 

[TrynBi]

Hard to say. When I was in high school I never even considered being bi until wrestling with my best friend and saw his hard on, and didn’t even hesitate to explore.

After that I pushed the feelings back for 2 decades and now am married and have 4 kids. Yet. I yearn for time with a man now more than i Care to describe. It drives me insane.

That’s a tough spot to be in friend. I’d never condone cheating on your spouse, but perhaps your relationship is open and honest enough to share your yearnings with her in the hopes she blesses your curiosity cravings. That’s a long time to yearn.

When I tried my first cock, I fell head first into that world hard. I was looking for dick to suck almost nightly I enjoyed it so much. Then I moved to a very secluded area of the country that I was unable to find anybody for almost 9 years. I maybe found one dick to suck during this time. It was early 90s and no guys in the chat rooms I found that were close by apparently.

I can tell you the cravings don’t go away and they only get stronger. Crossing my fingers you live your dreams out soon!

 

[18wheeler]

You’re 100% correct. The older I get. The stronger the desire is getting. It’s to the point it’s eating away at me.
That said. I’m not sure my marriage is THAT open and honest....... I just don’t know.

 

[TrynBi]

You’re 100% correct. The older I get. The stronger the desire is getting. It’s to the point it’s eating away at me.
That said. I’m not sure my marriage is THAT open and honest....... I just don’t know.

Only one way to find out.

 

[Southlincsnudist]

I kind of grew up with it

 

[beachboii]

I think it was always there as a form of curiosity even before I acted upon it

 

[bi2]

My first mm encounter was circumstantial ............. and continued from there. Now classifying myself as 50 / 50 my gay encounters started young but I still didn't consider myself bi or gay for a few years; that was because I do not have emotional connections with men, just women.

I have no regrets enjoying discreet physical sex with other men. I never had a mm encounter that I can remember that was going to lead to an emotional connection.

A lot of my fantasies while having hetero sex were thinking of other men I was physically attracted to enjoying mf sex. I have had a good hetero sex life; let's call the mm experiences a "booster".

I think porn on the internet has helped many men benefit from both sides of sexual experiences. Born too soon I think.

Great post.

I suspect a lot of bi guys are like this.

I enjoy the physical sex with a man, but have never had an emotional connection or feelings with one and vice versa too with my partners. (not that there is anything wrong if someone does or do, everyone is different here)

This probably makes the sex hotter, charged and more raw if anything.

I guess I view sex with men as an opportunity to indulge in sexual fantasies that I have, as I take on a very submissive bottom role. The men I have been with, view me as an outlet for them sexually as well, so everyone is comfortable with the expectations and needs of each other. That is we come together for sex and sex only. If I happen to stay the night, its almost always most likely because Im too tired to drive home. The irony being is that almost always it leads to more sex when I am fast asleep.

 

[TrynBi]

Great post.

I suspect a lot of bi guys are like this.

I enjoy the physical sex with a man, but have never had an emotional connection or feelings with one and vice versa too with my partners. (not that there is anything wrong if someone does or do, everyone is different here)

This probably makes the sex hotter, charged and more raw if anything.

I guess I view sex with men as an opportunity to indulge in sexual fantasies that I have, as I take on a very submissive bottom role. The men I have been with, view me as an outlet for them sexually as well, so everyone is comfortable with the expectations and needs of each other. That is we come together for sex and sex only. If I happen to stay the night, its almost always most likely because Im too tired to drive home. The irony being is that almost always it leads to more sex when I am fast asleep.

I agree! I have been with many men and lots of them several times. But it has never led to a relationship outside of just sex. We tend not to hang out together or do anything with each other other than get each other off.

I tend to enjoy more interacting with strangers more than a regular man. And usually when we both get off, we both are just ready to go on with our normal lives. It’s a mutual unspoken thing. Being an oral sub, I sometimes don’t get off until I get home as I want to please the guy and have had some who once they get off. Tell me to leave! sometimes they want time to leave with cum in my face or clothes. They won’t let me clean up. They want to humiliate me by sending me into the world with their cum on me as a badge of honor. I get even more excited when this happens.

 

[deleted5199391]

I was already bi, just needed to pull off some habits that society imposed on me.

 

[maxmax25]

I was already bi, just needed to pull off some habits that society imposed on me.

And have you been successfully in pulling them off?

 

[deleted5199391]

And have you been successfully in pulling them off?

Yup

 

[maxmax25]

Yup

wanna share? ;-)

 

[CURIOUS_8]

This is a really interesting topic and the responses just show how diverse male sexuality actually is.

First, I have to confess to not actually physically experiencing sex with a man. But I can describe what led me here and to consider myself beyond straight.

I had always considered myself 100% straight. I grew up in a religious environment and had my own well defined sense of sexual morality.
It's important for me to think that at the end of the day we're all human. The mutual pleasure of sex is important to me. It's life affirming.

Amen brother!

this site

Porn and being single

this site

A good friend with a big cock showed it to me at his house Good times.

A very spontaneous leap of faith

About 5 years ago

porn for sure

Got to say my interest in men was always there growing up, but it was not until I got my first blow job by a guy that I really became bi. Had several by girls, but that man on man interaction and the pleasure I derived from that first experience sealed the deal for me

A gay friend offered me a blowjob, but I resisted and did not accept for the first time.

When I accepted, I liked it.

I wouldn't accept being bisexual, even though I always had my mouth full of water when I saw a cock in porn.

When I was younger I was attracted to guys and girls but guys more, then once I joined the army I hooked up with a buddy in the barracks.after that I was hooked.

My first mm encounter was circumstantial ............. and continued from there.

I have no regrets enjoying discreet physical sex with other men. I never had a mm encounter that I can remember that was going to lead to an emotional connection.

A lot of my fantasies while having hetero sex were thinking of other men I was physically attracted to enjoying mf sex. I have had a good hetero sex life;

I think porn on the internet has helped many men benefit from both sides of sexual experiences. Born too soon I think.

Man these comments / responses are amazing to read.

I've shared that a lot of str8 guys share their private shit with me for various reasons.

This is the jest of what I get from their m/m hookups.

& tell the gay brethren looking for the Bicurious hookups, quit acting like a bitch & heed what the Bicurious are telling you in a nutshell:

let's call the mm experiences a "booster".

circumstantial

It's an usually an unplanned event, that turns out to be a huge ego booster for Bicurious guys.

 

[CURIOUS_8]

I kind of grew up with it

I was already bi, just needed to pull off some habits that society imposed on me.

You’re 100% correct. The older I get. The stronger the desire is getting. It’s to the point it’s eating away at me.
That said. I’m not sure my marriage is THAT open and honest....... I just don’t know.