What opened your bi side?
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I guess i always knew. Byt the first time i saw/read a porn magazine was the proof. I found myself staring at the guys and fantasizing about being in-between the two of them. Being the youngest of six also the fattest, my self-esteem was pretty low. I dated a few girls in school, but that was just a short time. As i got older i daydreamed more and more. Like others after cumming i always felt guilty and ashamed. There was know denying that i was interested in guys. But that first kiss, holding onto each other are tongues tying knots. Yep i knew without a shadow of a doubt. I liked men. I love my wife and the life we have. Which makes me feel worse sometimes for wanting to be with men. But that first magazine made me realize i was not straight and never was.
Dont feel guilty.
I only felt guilty in my younger days. Not really knowing what i was feeling. Now not so much. While i dont broadcast my sexuality, if someone ask i will be honest. If someone doesn't like me for what i do behind closed doors so be it.
I hide it from everyone. If I want a bj or give a bj thats my business. I dont desire a male relationship. Guys just know how to push all the right male buttons.. Women have all the right physical parts to play with. Females = drama , males just get off. Now if I could only meet a women who knows what buttons to push or a very passable pre op trans gender.
And how awesome it is that you recognized it.
I was at a gay fuck party this past week. I haven’t cum so hard in a long time. Dudes know how to fuck and know what feels good. Would I date any of these guys? Nope. Would I eat their asses? Hell yes.
- bi2,
Loved your post, I hope it helps others as it helps me.
I agree. I dont have any desire whatsover to be in a male relationship, neither does my fuckbuddy. So why even consider the remote possibility of complicating my life by telling others who dont need to know?
Its no ones business. We are two consenting adults, that hookup, fuck and go our seperate ways. One hour a week or fortnight is what we spend together. The ENTIRE time its pure physical sex the moment the door closes behind me till I close the door behind me and leave.
Sure there are times I might spend the night with my fuckbuddy. However, thats only because he wants to either fuck/bj again later that night or next morning whenever he is ready, we fuck. During that period where we dont and I stay over, Im usually chillng watching TV or a movie or surfing the net, while he works in his study. At night, after sex, we normally just sleep afterwards, no pillow talk or any small talk. Sometimes I will just sit on my phone, till Im ready to sleep, he normally falls asleep after he fucks me, so it works for us well.
- bi2,
Nothing wrong with that, its a bi board, all types are respected in here.
Be happy with what you are.
- bi2,
Nothing better than a hot fit female body to fuck her brains out.
- bi2,
My fuckbuddy is married but in a sexless relationship with his wife, who like you, loves and loves his family very much.
If anything, Im happy for him, as he has his emotional needs met by them.
For him, Im just a physical outlet, a release for him, we have sex then move on. Mind you, he considers himself "straight". He is also very much an Alpha Dominant Top Male. So I respect his choices and to be honest, I dont care what he thinks or views of himself. When we have sex, he does love to control, dominate, humuliate and make me feel submissive and feminine, it probably helps him justify the sex we have, ie like as if he is with a woman, without being with one, which he would consider cheating.
I love feeling this way with him lol, so its a very much win win for both of us.
The bottom line, is that after the sex, we are both satisfied and the fact that we keep hooking up means we are comfortable with everything that we do and want.
I could use that too. Would be nice, i did before, the wife actually found out. Turned into a huge fight. Thats why i hate it. If she allowed me to play it would be easier. I guess it is what it is for now.
- bi2,
Im fairly sure my fuckbuddy's wife doesnt know, but he once told me, on some level she may have suspected, not with a woman but with a guy. He told me once, that she considered being with a woman in any manner as cheating, which he agreed with. I think MM sex, gives him that freedom in his mind.
With our arrangement, I guess its drama free, no stress or anxiety, its simple, easy and convenient. I only communicate with him via third party messaging and it doesnt show up on his phone, he has to actively check his phone and open the app if I message him.
Our messages are also discrete, like "5pm tonight", which he deletes and my response is 99.9% times "yes". which he also deletes lol.
I think if there was any drama, issues or strings attached on either end, we wouldnt be hooking up with the ease and frequency in which we do. Not to mention there is strong roles we take up with one another and while equals outside of sex, I very much prefer and he does still take up a dominant controlling aspect of it. By that I mean he decides when we have sex and what time and if I should stay the night. It works well for us, because I guess because I want to always please and enjoy doing that, he enjoys what he has with me.
- bi2,
lol.
The understanding didnt happen overnight. It took time and it took each of us knowing what we could and couldnt do, while straddling the boundaries without really crossing them. Well at least in regards to him with me.
The power dynamics are interesting with us, we both insist its the other that really holds all the power. Not that it is a competition or something either of us want, as it implies there is some what strings attached to our sex.
For me from my point of view, the sex, role play and fetishes we have completely satisfy me and has me craving and coming back for more. There is no games between us, I have no problem telling him that. Similarly he tells me how much he enjoys fucking me and interestingly loves how he can be so dominant, aggressive and physical with me. If you one that wants to give and the other that wants to receive, it makes for good chemistry.
- bi2,
What do you mean long term?
The two of us? Its not something we ever have discussed. Im happy to continue seeing him and him vice versa, we have been hooking up for two years now. During the pandemic, there was a time where I couldnt see him as he had extended family staying with him and I was hanging out for MM sex. I never actively searched for it, however, he was kind enough to farm me out to a friend of his. We had a wonderful time too during those few months.
Yes, so i had a similar situation with a guy i met off squirt. I only want a sex buddy. He was gay and said he was looking for the same. It didn't take long for him to try and make something more out of it. Which of course brought it to and end. It sucked because we had a pretty good time at first. I will never understand why guys go on hookup site looking for a ltr, but that another question.
Do you think it works better you both being bi. Are you also in a straight relationship too. Sorry dont mean to pry.
- bi2,
Your questions are fine, dont worry.
There is always going to be exceptions to any statement, however from my limited experience, I think bi guys are better when all things are considered because like you, they are just after the MM sex, without complications, NSA, no dramas. They want intimate emotional relationships with women only, they do not seek that with a guy.
With a gay guy, much like a guy with girl, the inevitable question, of "where is this going?" is going to eventually happen.
Bi guys also prefer privacy and discretion and do not outwardly want the world to know their situation. Its personal, private and no one elses business.
With my fuckbuddy I think it works well for a variety of reasons, because its purely just a physical outlet, a release for both of us. We dont seek any emotional connection with the other. We get those needs met by women, which we both want and need in our lives.
As my fuckbuddy and I have this mindset and the fact that he gets to undertake certain roles and fetishes with me and I enjoy exploring them with him, makes us work well. We both express concerns for the other intially, if any feelings, romanticism or committment was being sought and fortunately neither one of us felt any desire whatsoever. So essentially, no one is feeling like being "used".
I have had straight relationships over the time, I have been with him and I have enjoyed the best of both worlds.
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