OK, so let me illustrate a real-live scenario about trying. There is a guy, we will call him “P.A.”. When it comes to women, he is very adamant and vocal of what he likes and is attracted to regarding skin tone, height, breast size, etc. He is not rude, but when asked about what he likes, or is asked about a certain actress/model/etc., he will make it clear that he is not attracted to her, or sexually arouses him as she is not fit that mold.
There is a girl in our social circle, we’ll call her “Y.T.” She is by no means homely, very nice personality, sense of humor, etc., but does not fit AP’s physical specifications of physical attraction.
On a few occasions PA mentioned to us guys he was interested in asking YT out. We were kind of surprised, but encouraged him to do so if he was interested in her. On a few more occasions, subject of attraction came up in our group, and again PA, clearly stated what he thought of women’s beauty and what he liked. Few weeks passed we all went out and. AP finally asked YT out. YT was kind of taken off guard, as she was not ever expecting it from PA. YT inquired, if he was serious, and why. PA stated he found her fun to hang out with etc. She replied with something in the lines of: We’re already hanging out, what more are you looking for? He kind of pushed it, but kind of ended there.
On a few other occasions after that it was commented on some celebrities, and again stated his preferences. Few weeks after that, we all went out, and PA asked YT out once more. She graciously declined and he pressed a little more and inquired why not. She stated that they already spent time with the group, have fun, and hang out. She then went to mention that she was surprised about him asking again, and what does he want or expect. He stated again that he like her sense of humor, personality, talents, etc. She stated that he has repeatedly mentioned what he finds attractive in a woman, and how she does not fit that mold, so in the long run, what can be expected of the relationship. She gracefully turned down his request.
Do you think she was right, or wrong in declining him, and why? Should she have done otherwise, why?
So lets flip this over. If women joke, mock, insinuate, make reference to, etc about size and make those innuendoes about what they prefer, what is the difference on why a guy would try if women already stated beforehand that he is not what they want?
