What Percentage Do You Find More Attractive Then Your Partner Or Last Partner

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1.I would like to know what % more or less do you find physically attrative then your partner or last partner.
( and if you want question 2 ,3)
2. And what % would other people your partner and that of you attraction wise
3 was your atraction to partner like 50% physical and 50% personality/status income etc.? or more like 25-75% for example or 60-40 (mostly phychically) etc.

If answered only question 1 I would already be happy and thankfull.I think question results could help to know how picky or nor picky most are( and what is realistic) and how rare selected partners generally are to find.
 

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Ok there is attraction & there IS attraction/ connection. One is a superficial thing based simply on a physical reaction, the other is getting to know someone that might be completely " different" from any " type" you might have had in the past.
For my current & I there wasn't upon 1st meeting.
But the 1st time we touched/ held hands we both felt the undeniable connection, which grew into friendship & then LOVE.
Now we find each other off the charts " attractive" in every way....which can't be broken down into percentages....my previous & my current have no comparison !
 
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Ok there is attraction & there IS attraction/ connection. One is a superficial thing based simply on a physical reaction, the other is getting to know someone that might be completely " different" from any " type" you might have had in the past.
For my current & I there wasn't upon 1st meeting.
But the 1st time we touched/ held hands we both felt the undeniable connection, which grew into friendship & then LOVE.
Now we find each other off the charts " attractive" in every way....which can't be broken down into percentages....my previous & my current have no comparison !

Ok. I understand for you.
 
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You want a ration of intellectual, emotional, physical attraction?

Thinking like that from the beginning is reductionist.

Now, looking back, and trying to be objective, I would say that with my guy, I already new him to be funny, and kind, since I interviewed him for the paper 11 years previously. I’d had him on the stage at the venue as well, and I’d gone out to see his smaller weeknight gigs.
So, I already had a sense he was a good person.
When we reconnected in 2017, we got to talking. The relationships of 2006 were over, both single. Neither looking.
Something was there. He had some of the physical characteristics that catch my eye: longer hair, on the leaner/thinner side, easy smile, and none of my deal breakers. Although he’s a little more muscular than I’m used to, it’s from his work, not gym time.
I should say here, I have many musician friends. I’ve never dated any. It was sort of a limit. Keep reading.

He puts out an energy that was attractive. We couldn’t stop talking.

We talked before his show, during the set break, while he was breaking down, walking to his van, in the parking lot for an hour. He walked me to my car, we still kept talking (I hadn’t talked that much in months. My throat was so sore the next day), until he hugged me goodnight. No quick squeeze. In my hippie world we call them heart hugs*. At one point, he said, “do I have to let go?” I said no, and he kissed me.
Lightning struck. I was a goner.
Two years later, I’m still a goner. I know his flaws. Some bug me, but I know what’s him and what’s me. And we still can’t stop talking.


* A heart hug is based on some research that longer hugs make people feel more about the person they are hugging. I was taught about them in a bar in Arkansas by a guitarist from California. “ no, no, you have to hold longer so your hearts communicate.” So very Northern California. It’s really a 20-second rule to let oxytocin let down.
 

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What % roughly do you find MORE psychically attractive then your partner?. I forgot the word more in question 1, i see now.
I don’t understand why this is even important? Everyone has different taste. Everyone has different personalities. A persons physical attractiveness can increase exponentially if they have a great personality and there is a good connection with them.

And what does the % even mean... what if I lived in a tiny town and there were 4 men in it? It I found one guy more attractive than my partner (I do not have one) then that would mean that I find 25% more men attractive than my partner. See the issue here? And there are many.
 
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I don’t understand why this is even important? Everyone has different taste. Everyone has different personalities. A persons physical attractiveness can increase exponentially if they have a great personality and there is a good connection with them.

And what does the % even mean... what if I lived in a tiny town and there were 4 men in it? It I found one guy more attractive than my partner (I do not have one) then that would mean that I find 25% more men attractive than my partner. See the issue here? And there are many.


I did mean just psychical attraction in question 1. And I know there is personal opinion , that why I said to you in question 1.
Taller women put more empahises on average on height and have on average a taller parter then a short women has because she finds its more attractive ( on avg again)
But there is also a general form of attraction. You probably find if attracted to males brad pitt more attractive then your neighbour..

You could live in a tiny town, but people in small towns will visit other towns too right.
 

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There’s no way I could put a percentage on attractiveness. Men I’ve dated don’t look alike at all. They are attractive to me, not necessarily traditionally good looking. I’m very much into clever, funny (kind of a smart ass), respectful, really kind guy. His eyes do it for me. And his hands. Artist’s hands.
 

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I did mean just psychical attraction in question 1. And I know there is personal opinion , that why I said to you in question 1.
Taller women put more empahises on average on height and have on average a taller parter then a short women has because she finds its more attractive ( on avg again)
But there is also a general form of attraction. You probably find if attracted to males brad pitt more attractive then your neighbour..

You could live in a tiny town, but people in small towns will visit other towns too right.
Oh great, another man telling women what we find attractive.

I’m a short woman (158cm) and don’t care how tall a man is, as long as he’s taller than me. I’ve seen many many tall women with shorter men also.

How do you know that I wouldn’t find my neighbour more attractive than Brad Pitt? Because he’s not a celebrity? Or a multi-millionaire? I don’t care about those things. And I find plenty of men more attractive than Brad Pitt.

If anyone finds other males more attractive than their partner (as in complete attractiveness; personality and physically), then there is clearly an issue in the relationship. Are you trying to justify why you think so many other women are more attractive than your partner? Or the other way around?