View_From_Below: [quote author=Max link=board=meetgreet;num=1080624653;start=40#51 date=04/17/04 at 01:33:15]
About the moral traits you mention ... if we hope that our daughters become reliable, noble, etc. etc, as well as our sons -- how can they be specific to masculinity? Surely any woman we truly admire would need these qualities every bit as much as a man.[/quote]
Yes, that's another way of looking at the point I was making. That is, a number of answers earlier in this thread seem to be asserting that the only meaningful indicators of "masculinity" or "manliness" are traits such as reliability, keeping one's word, taking care of one's own, dependability, etc. But as you say, wouldn't we hope that our daughters would also be reliable, keep their word, etc.etc? That doesn't mean we hope they'll be masculine.
Those are not exclusively masculine traits (though they
do carry a little more weight somehow with regard to how we judge men versus how we judge women). In philosophical terms, these traits are
necessary to "masculinity" or "manliness," but are not
sufficient.
So the question then is: if these are necessary characteristics but are not sufficient, then what other characteristics do we unconsciously look for when we say "now
that's my idea of a manly guy"? And among those other characteristics? I maintain that it is
impossible that we don't consider physical traits -- how men "look," how they carry themselves, how they behave, and so on. Those
do go into our routine unconscious assessment of the "manliness" of those around us, whatever other things we also weigh. We should be forthright in naming them, and in noting which ones we pay attention to particularly.
In the past, of course, being "good" might have implied a very different set of virtues (which is of course at root a totally masculine word!) for men from the ones prized in a woman. Much less so these days, I think.
Also a very good point. The moral or behavioral qualities prized in men were probably very different in earlier ages from those prized in women -- but we have moved nowadays to a sort of blurry set of admirable qualities common to both sexes. It might be very instructive to look backward, if we could, and see whether we have lost or gained by this.
As you point out, the "vir" in "virtue" is the same root as the "vir" in "virile" -- "virtues" (literally speaking) were exclusively masculine qualities. I don't know what the equivalent term for feminine qualities was (if there was one).
VFB