What Really Matters to You?

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How do you separate the wheat from the chaff in life?

How do tell the difference between the two?

What does your wheat consist of?
 

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How do you separate the wheat from the chaff in life?

I used to think that being cold and distant meant that I was actually safer. The truth is, the more open and sincere I am, the better able I am to separate the wheat from the chaff.

How do tell the difference between the two?

Those who are sincere will respond in kind, those who are not turn away. It's remarkable. You know who you can trust, you know this even if they burn you that they do so against their better judgment and will come to regret it.

You know when love is real even if you don't want to admit it.

What does your wheat consist of?

Love, respect, and sincerity of character. Of these, I'll disagree with the Bible and say the greatest of these is love because the greatest of charity is backed by love. I'm surrounded by people who have gone out of their way to visit me, call me, or even just wish me well in a thread and each was an act of charity accepted with the most humiliating awe. I've cried over how fortunate I am that people care even this much for me than I ever have over my fear of the future. Facing death makes you face life just as clearly. There's no fooling yourself, no pretending. Earl my very dear friend, it's all about love. Spend a day walking around being grateful for every second of the love being given to you by people who love you, and for the chance to live it. You'll see what I mean. Maybe there's more to it, maybe not. I will let you know if I find out more.
 

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Don't sweat the small stuff. Don't worry about what may or may not happen when you have no control over it.
 

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mickey's rules for life

1. embrace joy where you find it. don't fret the why.

2. full frontal snog every experience.

3. close your eyes and jump.

4. be kind to the small and fuzzy.

5. keep favorite books until you find someone to give them to.

6. socks don't need to match.

7. a kiss is better than hello.

8. done is done. learn don't lament.

9. candy isn't a sin.

10. don't be clumsy with other peoples' hearts. be daring with your own.

ML

those are the important things. everything else is distraction.
 
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Health, peace of mind, friends/family, future plans (career/ job, etc.).

I work out what's important to me in terms of aims n goals, and things I value and want to spend my time doing (incl. time for family, important commitments etc). Plus I work out what time/energy is available - and then just prioritise things. If something comes up that's a waste of time and doesn't move things forward at all, then I say no, lol. :D

There's not usually time for all the things I want to do, or think I ought to. So usually saying yes to one thing means refusing to do something else.

It helps that I'm a control freak who always needs a tight grip on everything, lol.

In terms of people it's usually fairly easy to tell ppl who are genuine friends, and ppl who really do need ur help. Also, being friendly, kind and fair is important - but not normally that easy to do hahaha.
 
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It says in the Bible some where: "Do not judge yourself by others." I can only be myself. I am not here for a pissing contest and living inside the glass bubble of ideas people may have about me, is a choice I refuse to make.

I am learning to let go of things and I am also learning that saying "no" to the trappings of the ego, can be very empowering.

Let go of resentments, judgments and in the process be kind to people. Those that remember your kindness before your mistakes are the ones you want to keep around.

Be true to yourself. Gnothi seauton

If your best isn't good enough, those that don't appreciate it are not worth the bother or the time.



 

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I saw this thread early this morning before I went to work. I have been thinking about it most of the day and it's not so much what I am going to post but how the list has changed over the years.
Now at the top of the list is the health and happiness of my partner and myself.
Living each day to the fullest advantage and casting aside any past regrets.
Taking heed to the lessons that I've had to learn and knowing how to adapt them to tomorrow's challenges.
 

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Making only decisions that serve you in some way and with which you can live. No regrets in this way.

The health of my family (partner, children, parents, close friends).

Being loved and appreciated for who I truly am, unconditionally.
 

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How do you separate the wheat from the chaff in life?

How do tell the difference between the two?

What does your wheat consist of?


Thanks for bumping this thread Jase. It's been a long time and it's taken me a while to really think about this and come to any meaningful conclusion. My answer...I don't know.

Here's what it all boils down for me.

Prosaic and cliche as it may be, what matters most to me is the ability to enjoy life to the fullest, everything else is chaff.

- Eat nutritious delicious, vitality giving, wholesome meals made with love and care.

- Sleep soundly and restfully a good 8 hours every night and wake up fully rested for a new day.

- Peace of mind, to live every day without angst, anger or fear.

- Being open to new things and learning and growing every day.

- Finding and sharing the best of myself with others.