What Red Flags/dealbreakers Did You Overlook?

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Another thread inspired by perusing the so called "other side" that is the AAW section..
For men that are currently in relationships, marriages, or whatever arrangements with women, what red flags/dealbreakers that she displayed did you overlook/work through to establish a relationship that survives/thrives to this day?
Personally it occurred to me that if I had practiced the selectivity to turn down or pass up girls and women that had anxiety and/or depression or displayed childish behaviors, my only relationship/sexual experience would have been Las Manos twins, various fleshlights and whatever sex robot is on the horizon; that dealing with undesirable qualities was basically par for the course in experiencing actual humanity on any intimate level.
What is worth fighting through or is the need to fight through something a deal breaker for you?
 

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my biggest regret when it comes to women was that i wasn't able to find or run into another male who would be willing to mentor me in how women really are as a species of the opposite sex. i had to learn the hard way through trial and error which caused a lot of headaches and even misplaced broken hearts on my part and the many women that i inflicted upon on the way.

also, i had needed mentoring on how to be a man and what it meant to play that role as a man (whether it was being a dominant male or not)... basically just what it meant to be male and how to behave towards women in that manner. of course there's so much dynamics involved so i won't get into detail here but the point is that it would have been nice to have a sincere teacher along the way.

if i would have any advice for the young males growing up in this day and age, i would tell them to quit chasing ass and start chasing excellence in self, career, and life. women will just magically show up in due time and then you can have your pick. also, decide what you like or want in a woman and stick to those guns in absolute. never settle as it will only cause misery in the long run. be willing to stay single as long as it takes or forever if that perfect woman (to you) doesn't exist.

so to answer the OP: for me, at this point in my life, if a women doesn't meet my list of criteria then it's a deal breaker, period. i'm not saying i'm god's gift to women but i know what i want and won't settle. life's too short and one wrong women will fuck you over for the rest of your life, trust me on this; i know too many guys stuck in relationships that eat away at their souls daily but cannot or will not leave due to circumstances that they cannot control or too deep to get out.
 

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i would tell them to quit chasing ass and start chasing excellence in self, career, and life. women will just magically show up in due time and then you can have your pick.
I concur with the quitting of chasing ass, but the women that magically show up once another achievement has been unlocked are suspect...what's that saying women love on social media about not being able to be with me at my worst meaning you dont deserve me at my best? Im just always wary of those who show no interest in building a house until the plans are laid and the foundation is set.
 

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I concur with the quitting of chasing ass, but the women that magically show up once another achievement has been unlocked are suspect...what's that saying women love on social media about not being able to be with me at my worst meaning you dont deserve me at my best? Im just always wary of those who show no interest in building a house until the plans are laid and the foundation is set.

of course this will happen. it's called "hypergamy" and it's in women's nature to do this... the beauty of it all is that when the time comes for you to take your pic, you should have enough knowledge and know-how about women to sniff these gold-diggers out of the rest. it's not that hard... good women who are feminine and want to be the woman in your life do exist; they're out there.

chase excellence, learn who you are and what you want, and also learn about women too... then when the student is ready, the targets will show up. :)