What Shaped Who You Find Attractive?

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What shaped who you find attactive today?

  1. Childhood memories, experiences, imprinting

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    13.6%
  2. First loves and crushes

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    23.5%
  3. Friends influences

    3 vote(s)
    3.7%
  4. Family - mom, dad, sister, brother influences

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    4.9%
  5. Celebrities and Idols- movie, TV, music stars, sports figures

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    3.7%
  6. Popular Media-fashion mags, tv shows, movies, advertising

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    1.2%
  7. Adult Media- porno, nudie mags, videos

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    6.2%
  8. Current fashion trends, lifestyles, music

    1 vote(s)
    1.2%
  9. Lovers and Spouses influences

    1 vote(s)
    1.2%
  10. I have no clue

    33 vote(s)
    40.7%
  1. earllogjam

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    Not everyone has common tastes in who they find sexually attractive. Where does it begin? Beauty and attraction have changed over the ages and different for everyone I imagine. I think mine began with my first lover at 17 shaped who I find sexually attractive. Most of my sexual partners have some qualities of my first love and I think subconciously I try to seek out people who look like my first lover. Early imprinting I suppose.
     
  2. Onslow

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    Most of who I am was shaped by who I began as. At the start there was a basic individual with a soul and the matters of day to day life shaped that soul into a new shape and gave it an ability to react according to situations which it met up with.

    Who I find attractive is constantly changing although to some mind soaking level continually remaining steady. I have always prefered some meat on the bones--a portly man makes a much nicer profile in the moonlight than does a twig of a man. In general the preference has been towards L'Oreal because I'm worth it. --oh wait, I just got zapped into a commercial retrospective with Meredith Baxter Birney.

    My preference has been towards older men or at least men of my own age. This goes back several years and was the case even when I was 6 years old and staring out the back of the station wagon at the gas station owner in some backwater town by the name of Lufkin--we were leaving town so I never saw him again.

    My next interest was the gym teacher when I was 7 or 8.

    Then I got involved with an older man (it's a rather unfortunate matter and should have soured me on older men but it didn't). MY first entanglements in the romantic world were with older men. The first was 15 years older, the next was 20 years older and so on it went and then there was Ray who was a mere 7 years older (8 on certain days of the year siince his birthday fell earlier than mine on the calender). Only Baby Bear was younger and that was a matter of 4 years difference.

    As I aged I realized limiting myself to only older was reducing the field and I noticed men closer to my age were often sexy as well. These days, it would be safe to say that I still like the older gents (well not too old) and some whiskers helps and a few extra pounds--shows they enjoy life,, and a goodly amount of body hair is a plus but not required.

    As strange as it may sound, penis size has never been the primary feature for attrraction--the attraction towards people is a combination of the aforementioned physical (age/body size/hair--face and body) and who the person is. Their personality and spiritual being (even drunk I felt this way).
     
  3. ManlyBanisters

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    Interesting topic..

    One of the 'have no clue' brigade here.. In men I tend to go for tall and dark (what a cliche, but true) but there have been exception, including a rather short (5'3) blonde - but that didn't last... I think I go more for emotional characteristics than looks because when I fantasize a situation I impose a character on the object of my fantasy more than I concentrait on imagining the minutiae of physical detial. Dependibility, fidelity, a certain amount of introspection - actually now I think about it I'm describing the opposite of my dad (in terms of his relationship with my mum, he was dependable for me). I also have a tendancy towards those who are quick to temper, which I am myself, but I cannot stand a 'Yes' man. Hung helps, but MrBanisiters is the first properly big guys I've been with for any significant length of time - so I think that's something he's changed in me (literally and figuratively). He's also tall, dark, faithful, dependable, introverted (not always in a good way, but mostly) and a bit firey. I guess I hit the jackpot.

    With women I like blondes, natural blondes - all the females in my family are brunette and we were always very unconcerned about nudity - as a result I just can't see a brown bush as sexy.. black women are great, blonde blondes are great, redheads too! Hubba hubba - my first time with a girl was a redhead... happy memories - but for me white skin + brown bush = turn off. I've never had a relationship with a woman in terms of wanting to be / trying to be monogamous - it was always a 'buddy fuck' kind of thing so I can't really say in terms of emotional traits what I think I am drawn to.
     
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    My first serious boyfriend was a tall lean irish guy, 'black irish colouring' bright blue eyes, long dark eyelashes, pale skin and black hair, god he was gorgeous. This is the type I prefer now. Every man I've ever dated had dark hair.
     
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    I don't know what shaped who I find attractive. The men in my life have all seem to be so different in physical apperance.

    So it seems that there are other variables at work when it comes to my chosing what attractive and what's not.

    I do know that I prefer dark hair and light brown eyes. I just think that look is extremely sexy.

    Hugs and Kisses,

    Karmen
     
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    Missed one!
    I find atractive what i donot have now!
    Got a tall bf with loads off hair and now into bold guys!

    Strang but true
     
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    very interesting

    my first girlfriend, first sex partner and first love was 5'6, brown hair, dark olive skin, biig breasts (especially for a 15-16 year old), but didn't have a gorgeous ass.

    These days, i don't have a real preference...but if a girl has a nice booty, god..i can't keep my eyes off her. As for blondes, brunettes, redheads, i don't have a preference and I think girls of all ethnicities can be beautiful. I'd date anyone as long as they're caring, compassionate and we click. I'm seeing a girl now, kinda, whom im not all that attracted too, but I wanna get to know her...and im just going with the flow of things at the moment, i never look seriously for anything cuz then im not likely to find it but a little affection from a female wouldn't hurt right now :( i miss cuddling lol

    feminine qualities i find attractive

    -the young, innocent look (but my age of course and developed) lol
    -niiice bum/hot curves
    -smooth skin
    -pretty eyes and nice full lips
     
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    It's really difficult to tell with certainty, but looking back I guess I could've been influenced by "first loves/cruches", and I voted for that option... because my very first "crush" I can remember was curvy so to speak (as much as a girl can be at that age)... my first girlfriend had a large booty (it's funny to mention it, but for being 13 or 14 it was very noticable on her)... my first girlfriend I had sex with was again very cury, large booty, very large beautiful breasts... from then on, I can fairly say that 95% of all girls I find attractive are of the same type...
     
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    the chick i liked had HUGE TITS, and she was only like 10 or 11 lol.

    anyways, i be looking at big breasts with big eyes ever since.
     
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    shallow and dishonest poster.






    basically, one quality is needed for me, "to be attracted to", thats it. fuck specifications, or types etc, that will sort its self out in the "am i attracted to formula", anyways thats criteria 1, and the only criteria i use. i dont think i could ever ever ever even imagien having a gf i wasnt attracted to.
     
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    I arrived on this planet well before TV. I would say that the people that I saw as a youth and teen ager while I attended school. TV finally came around when I was seventeen. By then I had formulated what I thought looked nice.
     
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    Interesting question - I just have no idea about the answer though!
     
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    I have seen so much crap in my life and continue to do so. But I have to thank my parents for giving me an environment where love and care for our fellow travellers has deeply affected my psyche.
     
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    lol what makes u say that
     
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    I would have to say it's a combination of a) Celebrities and Idols- movie, TV, music stars, sports figures, and b) Popular Media-fashion mags, tv shows, movies, advertising. I grew up in the 70's so Sam Elliot, Clark Brandon, Parker Stevenson, Tom Selleck, and the Marlboro Man all figured prominently in my fantasies. The common thread . . . all are tall, have chest hair, and usually portrayed nice guys on television or in the movies.

    Every man I have dated has been at least 6' tall, most have had blue eyes. I hate to sound shallow, but that is the physical type to which I am attracted. Never been a big fan of blondes, but a tall guy with dark brown or black hair and blue or green eyes makes me weak in the knees everytime. :05: :flirt:

    As a mature adult (most days :tongue:) what I seek now is of course based more on what is inside than outside. If a man isn't smart, kind, honest, funny, patient; etc. it really doesn't matter what he looks like. I'm not interested. That said if a man has the afore mentioned personality characteristics and is 5'9" I am not going to throw him by the wayside. Nice guys are way too hard to come by to ignore a man just because he doesn't meet the parameters for being "just right" that have been in the back of my mind since the fifth grade.
     
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    At my age I'm lucky if I can remember my way home! Seriously, although I voted that it was nudie mags that shaped what I find attractive today, I'm not certain that it was the photos in those magazines that necessarily shaped my taste in women, specifically women with big tits. Perhaps those photos served more as a reinforcement of what I liked then and still like today.
     
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    Hmmm, nice unique topic. While all types can be beautiful i've always had an eye for girls with dark hair/olive skin. I really don't know where my preference comes from so i voted no clue.
     
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    LOL!

    One thing I have to say for you, you definitely have great taste in men! LOL!
     
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    I first liked a boy that was my age. It did not matter who, as long as they were my age. That was

    when I was like 8-9. All of the other guys were teens and older. Then when I hit 10 years old. I had

    no choice in the matter. Their were no boys my age, they all moved:eek: . So, I liked the older guys.

    They just did not like me back.

    But, when I got into Jr high and high school. I liked who was cute with LONG hair. The color of hair

    did not matter. Just having long hair got a second look from me. I don't really know why. I always go

    crazy for a long haired guy.

    I had a few stages of types of men. Red head, Italian's, super model looking guys. But, I just know a

    man with a Nice butt gets me and a cute face with it.

    So, all men in general have something about them that makes them Hot. I really don't have a types

    anymore.
     
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