what should I do about this?

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  1. asianvirginboy

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    FYI. This is a 2 part question. So where to start? I’m 21 yrs old and I still have yet to be in a serious relationship (to make it somewhat embarrassing, I’m still a virgin :redface:). It’s not that I fool around or anything but it’s because I can’t seem to find a guy who is interested in me. I wouldn’t say that I’m the hottest of guys but I’m nice and sweet according to most of my friends. But the thing is that whenever I fall or have strong feelings for certain guys, they either are straight and single or straight with girlfriends. Sometimes I just can’t tell but assume they’re straight anyways. So what do I do about this? Should I just give up on guys or is there a way to figure this out?

    The 2nd part is regarding a dream that I had last night. I rarely have this type of dream and it’s rare for me to even remember it in detail! So here’s the deal-I had a dream of one of my close guy friends. We’re not best buddies (I assume) but we’re close enough that we’re ourselves and comfortable in talking anyway we want to each other. But back to the dream-he was in my dream and keep in mind, he’s like only one of the few guys friends that I ever dream of (thinking back, I think he might be the first) and what happened was crazy. I dreamt that we had sex and it was raw sex might I add. I have never dreamt of having sex with any of my friends before & he was the first to be in my dreams, having sex with each other and then for me to remember every detail? That has honestly never happened before. So what should I do? Should I just ignore what happened & pretend it was all a dream? Or does this mean something? I'm confused. I mean I do have a crush on this guy I had the dream of but I know deep down, he would never love me back the same way *sighs*


    What is everyone’s opinion on these 2 questions? Any thoughts, comments, suggestions are welcomed. This is the one place that I can always turn to for help & hopefully you of you can give me the answer that I am looking for.

    Thanks everyone,
    AVB
     
  2. AM_092

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    1. You should never give up on looking for someone! I understand how you are feeling. I've been in one relationship and now that I'm single, I do miss being able to spend time with a special someone. But since you've never been in a relationship, would you say it's just curiosity? It is upsetting sometimes when you go out and see happy couples together and you look at yourself and wonder why you're still single. I don't go to gay clubs or have a group of friends who can match me up with their gay friends. I just don't meet gay guys very often, and so I really can't blame them for not being interested in me when I'm not putting myself out there completely. Do you feel like you've done everything you can, but still not finding someone? And about straight guys, I suppose you just need to look for the right clues. If they are interested, you'll know ;-)

    Hang on to your virginity! I wish I did... Lose it to someone special!

    2. I don't give advice on dreams! A dream's a dream. If you have a crush on someone, you should know. You don't have to ask your dream's opinion.
     
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  3. D_Tim McGnaw

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    Dreams mean nothing in terms of your waking life, they have in some cases subconscious meanings which have little or nothing to do with their actual subject matter . Ignore it and move on.


    As to you're first question, well that's just a matter of time. If you keep falling for straight guys it could be because you don't socialise enough with other gay guys in which case my advice would be to get yourself out there more, and meet other guys who are likely to fancy you as much as you fancy them.


    It's not at all unusual, and certainly not shameful, to be a virgin at your age, and don't feel like you have to fuck the first guy who's even interested just to lose your virginity unless you're happy doing that.
     
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    Stop trying to find someone. Just be open and live your life. Eventually you will meet someone
     
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    If you keep falling for straight guys maybe you need to branch out and try some new social areas? Perhaps find a bar or gym or some place that is known for being "open" or just being a place that welcomes the gay community? Try that and see if you dont have a few dates. And dont worry about the virgin thing. When its right for you, you will feel it. Each person has their own gauge of what is comfy. I would wait for comfy. Nit just the first dude to come along . Good luck to you! Hope you find what your looking for .

    And in regards to the dream? Just a dream. Think nothing of it
     
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    I agree with everyone. Don't worry about losing your virginity save it for the special one.
     
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