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The reason why I answered the way I did was because of my life experiences. I am a people person.....always have been always will be.
In my extended family there are people that tend to be brutally honest 24 / 7......and even though that may be our first reaction or first response......it may be a better idea to hold the tongue and think about what you say and how this person might respond to it before it is blurted out of one's mouth.
I have just seen that brutal honesty is not always the best way to go 24 / 7.
Not everyone can handle brutal honesty be it male or female. I think you need to learn to read people and only give brutal honesty to people that ask for it and seem genually appreciative of it. Obviously the girl the OP was talking about was feeling negative or down and made a negative comment about herself. It probably would have been the best thing to not have responded at all. Just ignore her. Like the old saying......if you don't have anything good to say.....don't say anything at all. (Unless you know the person can handle whatever your brutal honest opinion is.....)
From what I could gather the OP was asking us what he could do to get his friendship back on track with this female friend that he liked a lot.
To me it sounds like Phil is saying that he should just say this is me, I am brutally honest with my opinions and if you don't like it .......you don't have to be my friend anymore.
And that is an option that he could take.......
But what I gathered is that the OP didn't mean to hurt his friend. He wishes that he could undo what he said.
Anyways I just wanted the OP to know that I am there with you.......I have spent most of my life learning how to control my tongue......so I don't share my brutal honest opinion with someone that I care about and that might not feel so good about their self afterwards. I just believe there is a way to share things that we really have to share......It is a lot in how we word things.
And women are not the only ones that can be sensitive to brutal honesty. I am sure males can be offended just as well.
It is too bad that this couldn't have been turned into a funny joke. That is what I like about people that are not serious 100% of the time. They can get away with a lot more.
Start practicing some jokes and see if you can get your friend to laugh...to get her mind off of the fact that you told her that she is not so smart..... You can choose to laugh or cry......in life......I prefer to laugh. Maybe she will too.
In my extended family there are people that tend to be brutally honest 24 / 7......and even though that may be our first reaction or first response......it may be a better idea to hold the tongue and think about what you say and how this person might respond to it before it is blurted out of one's mouth.
I have just seen that brutal honesty is not always the best way to go 24 / 7.
Not everyone can handle brutal honesty be it male or female. I think you need to learn to read people and only give brutal honesty to people that ask for it and seem genually appreciative of it. Obviously the girl the OP was talking about was feeling negative or down and made a negative comment about herself. It probably would have been the best thing to not have responded at all. Just ignore her. Like the old saying......if you don't have anything good to say.....don't say anything at all. (Unless you know the person can handle whatever your brutal honest opinion is.....)
From what I could gather the OP was asking us what he could do to get his friendship back on track with this female friend that he liked a lot.
To me it sounds like Phil is saying that he should just say this is me, I am brutally honest with my opinions and if you don't like it .......you don't have to be my friend anymore.
And that is an option that he could take.......
But what I gathered is that the OP didn't mean to hurt his friend. He wishes that he could undo what he said.
Anyways I just wanted the OP to know that I am there with you.......I have spent most of my life learning how to control my tongue......so I don't share my brutal honest opinion with someone that I care about and that might not feel so good about their self afterwards. I just believe there is a way to share things that we really have to share......It is a lot in how we word things.
And women are not the only ones that can be sensitive to brutal honesty. I am sure males can be offended just as well.
It is too bad that this couldn't have been turned into a funny joke. That is what I like about people that are not serious 100% of the time. They can get away with a lot more.
Start practicing some jokes and see if you can get your friend to laugh...to get her mind off of the fact that you told her that she is not so smart..... You can choose to laugh or cry......in life......I prefer to laugh. Maybe she will too.