What should you say?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by crewserve, Jul 20, 2010.

  1. crewserve

    crewserve New Member

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    How should you ask someone that you have worked with for a few years, side by side, that you want to have sex with them. Or should you even make an attempt to try in fear that it will destroy your working relation.
     
  2. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    I wouldnt say anything tbh.......or maybe you could drop hints.
     
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    Don't do it. Life is so much easier when your personal and professional life are separate.
     
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    Unless you have an idea that the feeling is mutual, i'd leave it alone.
     
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    I agree with everyone thus far... leave it alone.
     
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    Don,t do it. It will ruin your friendship
     
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    I'm usually one who believes in being straightforward about this stuff. NOT AT WORK, however. Too much is at risk if that person takes it wrong and accuses you of sexual harassment.
     
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    Don't mix work and pleasure unless you're an escort/prostitute.
     
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    try levity, like asking what they think about the old saying:
    don't shit where you eat, or, in reference to work, should that be, don't eat where ya shit.
     
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  10. crewserve

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    The funny thing is..she is always talking about her sex toys...even showing me..and of course her piercings..all of this combined on a regular basis can drive you insane
     
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    If your conversations are already that sexual, just bloody ask her! Be prepared for all the shit that may go along with a workplace relationship though.
     
  12. crewserve

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    I think I will under the condition that we are in agreement that it is just sex
     
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    OK, many years, side by side. Fun talk, fun times. Sometimes she confides in you, sometimes you in her. She cries, you lend a shoulder. That's a good thing.

    Then you hook up. You have fun, she has fun. You're satisfied. She's in love. She will become dependent on you to continue that relationship. You're ok with that... for now.

    Pretty soon she'll become more dependent, or vice versa. I'm thinking it will be her. Or she'll grow tired of you. You're not what she thought.

    So you split up.

    You're working side by side again. But it's quiet. Very quiet. And you pray that it will remain quiet. But it won't. Trust me, it won't.
     
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    sounds like you might have been there before
     
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    Not me, but a few of my best friends were. This never ends well. Two of them quit their jobs, and one lost her job with some made up stuff. Why does the girl always lose?
     
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    As long as you're not enlisted or an officer and she's not an officer or enlisted (you know what I mean)... or as long as you're not in each other's chain of command, or blah blah blah, go for it.
     
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    I dont know..but it always seems that way
     
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    I've been in that situation and in my case I made it clear I was interested but made it very clear I wasn't interested in anything other than a one time deal. I got lucky and it worked out.
     
  19. crewserve

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    I guess it can work then
     
  20. avg_joe

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    I told my co-worker, who hit my butt a couple of times, that I want to check his package, and he let me do it after I urged him several times. You've gotta have a courage to ask your co-worker. Otherwise, he won't notice your feelings towards him.
     
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