What signals do you send to women?

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I just got a laugh reading these responses! At 55 and with the same woman for 33 years I don't have much to add except mixed signals never works! That is what I used to do way way waaaayyyyy back in the day!!!
 

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It's a great game! I've always relied on constant eye contact, gentle touches and asking her about herself - and listening. Then I try and get her somewhere I can kiss her.

Being a bit less subtle, a male friend once said "if you can get your fingers on her clit, you're there!"
 

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eye contact, smile. try to be helpful,, hold a door open, pick up something they dropped, light their cigarette if they smoke. and as corny as it seems, a short line about the weather. "it's really coming down." "it's really windy today. etc
if you have seen her before, "I like your hair that way" "you look great today(evening)!" you can't just throw these statements out there, they have be true. the gal's hair can'at be mussed up, and she can't be wearing raggedy sweatpants.

little things that break the ice, that get things going, if she is interested in you, she'll respond unless extremely shy.

I once told a gal I had seen in this bar before, that her hair and outfit looked great together. I got a thank you, a little peck on the cheek. 2 hours later I was balls deep.
 

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Amazing thread really. I wonder if any of it helped you. I've never given off the signals the guys were talking about people writing books about....interesting. I don't play with my hair or do unnecessary things with my body or outfit, and I sure don't respond to 'a man walking' into a room. Well, okay, if it's a Clint Eastwood look alike, sure. lol

I liked the one or two that suggested you simply make eye contact with someone you are interested in and smile. That would be nice to me. Straight forward yet still kinda respecting the person. But, I'm off topic, you asked guys for advice on signals.
 

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As far as i can tell i send a few signals. Nice guy (the bad kind), crazy (as in tin foil hat), highly sexual (aka cheater), intellectual (i wish), low self confidence (which might be a tad true) and nerd. I also somehow send out the signal of having a small peen and no life goals.

These are things i've been told but i'm pretty sure it changes from woman to woman. I'm about as keen on signals as i am on proper grammar so further investigation needs to be done lol.
 

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Im blind to signals. Have been since I graduated high school. No biggy Ive come to except that.

However. That got me thinking.


1. What actions do you perform to let a women know your interested. No smartass 'I just tell her' answers im looking for refinement and subtly here.

2. What type of signals do you give off in general, or rather what signals do you think you give off.

Look them full in the eye, and dwell there when they speak. Its okay to let your eyes roam, to their mouth, ears, hair... when close up... as to looking at their body, its okay to let them catch you gazing at them as they, say, go off to the ladies room or such...

Find an excuse to touch them, lightly, protectively, expressively.


If pursuing a woman you see often... either on a date or trying to get a date...

Take the time, before you see them, to wash your car, inside and out... put on flattering and stylish clothes, bathe, brush your teeth... Its fine to look causal... but if she tends to dress nice, you want to give her the impression that she won't ever be embarrassed to have her arm in yours.
Women read such things as you wanting to impress them... as you putting effort into thinking about what would please them. They like to see EVIDENCE that you think of their needs, desires, comfort, and pleasure, when you are Not around them.

Get nice shoes.... I don't mean fancy, but ones that are not cheap, that fit the occasion or venue, and that are in style.... still not sure how they do it... but women can tell a lot about a man ( and other women ) by the shoes he wears.


Be honest... and, initially, be quiet. Do not tell everything about yourself immediately, but allow for a period of discovery... intrigue her, make her want to know more about you by giving her just a little... she will agree to a date, just to satisfy her curiosity.
Ask her about her, and don't act interested... you have to actually BE INTERESTED.

DO NOT volunteer stories, or talk about your former girlfriends, wives, exes, Mother, etc. Being beside her should chase any thought of any other woman completely out of your head.
However... if she asks about former relationships... be honest, but brief. And avoid expressions of blame. Only much later, after she has decided that she is definitely interested and the two of you are dating to see if it might work out... only then can you be more forthcoming about prior relationships... but, again, only if she asks about them.

Pay attention to what she says... remember it. A slight mention of her favorite drink, or liquor, for example, might result in you ordering a drink for her that shows her you pay attention... Or she might mention her favorite color, or style of men's clothes...and you wear that color or style next time you run into her.

For example... if she mentions her birthdate... memorize it and, when you can do so unobserved, make a note of it.

Another great tip... make sure you arrange for her to see you in your milieu.
Surrounded by your friends and acquaintances... If she likes your friends, that's great... if she doesn't, then its probably doomed anyway...
but more importantly... seeing how you relate to and interact with those who like and care for you... to co-workers, long time buds, female friends, tells her a lot about your character, nature, and likability.


Do not play at the friend game. You must give her the impression, from the git go, that you find her fascinating, attractive and desirable and that you are interested in exploring the possibility of a romantic relationship. You do this by all of the above.
( if you are out to get laid, only, then never mind... )


Oh, and one last NEW tip for the New times...

DO NOT FUCK WITH YOUR PHONE WHILE SHE IS TALKING.
If it rings, beeps or boops, kill it in your pocket, and tell her to go on.
 

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What signals do you send to women?

In my case, what signals do / did women pick up from me, without putting them out.
Had quite a few earlier on
One Aussie in particular, would take NO for an answer, despite me proclaiming Gay, her persistemt behaviours were almost boardering on being diabolical, fortunately she was a beautiful kind hearted person, as well
So i couldnt be downright nasty to her .. all ended well, no sex involved ha
Luckily to some degree i was older and mature enuf to handle it, would have been a diificult scenario for a younger non experienced gay / guy.


havta admit, too much to read and of no real interest, in this thread..?