Let's see...
You are a romantic.
Smart... but perhaps too smart for your own good, where women are concerned.
you give folks the benefit of the doubt, and that 'doubt' extends well past the zone that most people would cash out and skip.
Because you know you have grown and changed over time, in ways you consider positive, you tend to be too optimistic that others are capable of the same, and so you tend to dismiss or "understand" bad behavior as something borne of injury, or loss, or misfortune or bad habits and hope that they will pull out of it in the supportive circumstance you offer.
This attracts to you women who have dysfunctions ranging from daddy issues to full on narcissism, because you, more than others, will tolerate and have compassion for their suffering, and thus their misbehavior.
At least, that's what my tarot cards say on the basis of the flimsy evidence of reading your posts over the years, which have not generally revealed much of anything about your relationships.
Or... perhaps I am just seeing too much of myself in you.