I know this guy well by now- there's just no way in hell he was trying to score underage dick, that one I can't let pass.
I never thought for a second that this was Danny's motive either. However, sadly, as I wrote in the other thread, masquerading as a nineteen-year-old:
"...opens up all kinds of possibilities for that person to befriend other teens at the site under false pretences (which is somewhat akin to a just-over-18 version of 'grooming', in my mind, at least)."
It's less about Danny's motivation, and more about the
possibilities that having
any forty-something guy pretending to be a nineteen-year-old opens up. And if LPSG
finds out that that is going on and turns a blind eye to it, it really doesn't say much for our integrity as a site that cares about and looks out for its (younger) members.
I'm
certainly not trying to launch any kind of anti-Danny campaign with my posts on this or the other thread; I just think we need to be careful that people don't come away from the site with the perception that it's
ok to masquerade as a teen, or that it's
ok to come back after hurting a lot of people (some of whom seem only to be learning about the full scale of the DMW deception with the latest turn of events). In both cases, it's less an issue of
motivation than of
effect... and although we
all make mistakes, sometimes the best idea is to move on in life to something new, rather than returning to the place in which one made those mistakes, where resentment is likely to linger on both sides (on the part of some members towards the previously-banned-subject,
and on the part of the previously-banned-subject towards those who banned him/her). That doesn't make any of us especially perfect as human beings, but a lot of this argument is less about "forgiving" than it is about "forgetting"... with the latter motivating our negative actions and reactions on a far less conscious level, and inevitably making things uncomfortable for members and returnees, no matter how much forgiveness we muster.
*sigh*