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DC, it sounds like you had a decent upbringing, my folks were strict with us to a point (which was a damn good thing), there was times that we had to pick a switch (no fun at all), but the worst punishment for us in the summer was picking cotton by hand for 1 hour, now that was pure hell, but not as bad as having to find the right switch.
I can still hear my folks and grand parents say, "that there was nothing wrong with a good ole fashioned switchin on the butt, that is way the Good Lord put that extra paddin there" when we did get a switchin, it was never more than 3 swats, and it was always on the butt, and that was always a last resort.
back then, when we were watching tv (only one tv in the house and that was the family set), when the clock hit 9:00 my dad would look at the clock and look at us, and we knew it was bed time and we best get our butts in action, lol.
to this day, I think that the worst punishment for us kids was when my mom would make us kids watch Little House On The Prarie, damn, that was nothing but pure plain and simple TORCHURE, LOL.
parents these days are hung up on having material things for themselves and kids, that they have to both work full time jobs, so they don't have the time to spend with the kids, teach the kids, and correct the kids when they do wrong, help them when they have a problem with school. sad very sad.
I get so tired of hearing that raising a kid today is different than it was back then, the basics have never changed no matter what decade we are in, the kids need the basics that only a real parent can give them, attention, guidence, understanding, correction, praise, protection, and the one thing that only a mother and father can really give them, and that is that special hug when they really need it.
I can still hear my folks and grand parents say, "that there was nothing wrong with a good ole fashioned switchin on the butt, that is way the Good Lord put that extra paddin there" when we did get a switchin, it was never more than 3 swats, and it was always on the butt, and that was always a last resort.
back then, when we were watching tv (only one tv in the house and that was the family set), when the clock hit 9:00 my dad would look at the clock and look at us, and we knew it was bed time and we best get our butts in action, lol.
to this day, I think that the worst punishment for us kids was when my mom would make us kids watch Little House On The Prarie, damn, that was nothing but pure plain and simple TORCHURE, LOL.
parents these days are hung up on having material things for themselves and kids, that they have to both work full time jobs, so they don't have the time to spend with the kids, teach the kids, and correct the kids when they do wrong, help them when they have a problem with school. sad very sad.
I get so tired of hearing that raising a kid today is different than it was back then, the basics have never changed no matter what decade we are in, the kids need the basics that only a real parent can give them, attention, guidence, understanding, correction, praise, protection, and the one thing that only a mother and father can really give them, and that is that special hug when they really need it.
DC_DEEP said:Kotchanski, you always make excellent points.
My mom did give us the occasional swat on the butt, but only when we deserved it, always with an explanation of why (not just why we got a spanking, but why we were in the wrong) and never excessive. Haha, "the talk" was always worse, much worse, than the spanking. The last I can remember of that was around age 6 or so; once we were old enough to start developing some reasoning skills, that's how she managed. We were also given such responsibilities as were age-appropriate. And we were allowed more freedom and privilege as we demonstrated that we could handle it.
I still remember the talk I had with mom when I started high school. She told me, "I have tried my best to teach you right from wrong, and you seem to have learned well. From now on, I won't set a curfew for you. But remember this: if you do things that you know are wrong, and you get caught, you are responsible. Do not ever call me from jail to bail you out. I will not." And the thing is, she meant it, and I knew she did. That was enough to keep me on the right path.