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Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by The Dragon, Sep 12, 2007.

  1. The Dragon

    The Dragon New Member

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    I wonder what the men on this site would think of this...
    I "had" a very good male friend and we had a standing dinner date
    every week. He was very charming and we would share what had gone on
    in our lives for the week.
    We enjoyed kissing and touching but had to that point never made love.
    Well, a month ago we had another dinner date and we went back to his place where we enjoyed a bottle of wine, we started kissing and and one thing led to another and he carried me to his bed and we made love.
    The second it was over ...I mean that the sweat hadn't even started to dry, he turned to me and said "can I call you a cab??" and I was broomed so fast that my feet hardly touched the floor!!!
    He didn't call the next day...in fact he "fell off the face of the earth" until 2 weeks later when he rang on Friday afternoon for a date on Saturday night!!!
    I'm upset and as mad as hell!!!

    Dorgonfly
     
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    B_Think_Kink New Member

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    Classic fuck and chuck.. he probably had another date... Let him go.
     
  3. wldhoney

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    He is obviously looking for sex again, and if things go as before he will know that he does not have to foster any type of intimacy outside of sex. He has little skill at the finer points of casual sex.

    You state he is a very good friend. If it were me, I would let him know that, as I was unimpressed with his "dismount", sex would no longer be on the menu. It sounds as though the type of sexual relationship he is looking for is not one that will make you feel good about yourself.
     
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    wow, that is perfect, and textbook.. the only thing he messed up on was taking you to HIS place.
     
  5. The Dragon

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    it's not so much the sex, it was his foul manners after the fact!!!
    I'm not some impossible princess that needs a man to fall down and worship at my feet, a simple thankyou would have sufficed.
    Needless to say there will be no repeat performance and the "friendship"
    is finished.
     
  6. dcwrestlefan

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    the guy is a dickhead. tell him to take a hike.
     
  7. SpoiledPrincess

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    Why not give him a chance, maybe he felt a bit disorientated that after a friendship that had lasted a fairly long time it suddenly changed pace totally?
     
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    No class, not a gentleman and in the end, certainly not a friend.
     
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    That was plain rude...he could have at least waited through cuddling to ask you if you wanted a cab. You deserve better!
     
  10. Osiris

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    I don't know. I'm inclined to see it like SP. The friendship had been just friends and true his "call you a cab" manner after was foul, but maybe that was his way of keeping either of you from feeling you had to "be in love" after that.

    You two should talk and see what you want the relationsip to be. Is it Friends? Kissing Friends? FWB? Love?

    I had a situation happen pretty close to this and it came down to the person was afraid to have that talk right after that sexual encounter. It took her 3 weeks to call me she was so scared. We ended up married. At the very least give the talk a chance. You don't want to pass up love if it has a chance.
     
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    What ever happened to people having manners? I'd be pissed too!
     
  12. Osiris

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    And rightly so. I'm saying it may have been fear and/or nerves though.
     
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    Fear or nerves do not give anyone the right to be so boldly rude. I hope he at least offered to pay for the taxi...
     
  14. The Dragon

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    Nope, he didn't offer to pay for the taxi!!!!
    I like to think he had a nice time and I was able to give him pleasure,
    he did get to cum three times in an hour.
    There seems to be some people you just can't please.
     
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    Well said! No more nookie for him and stop fucking your friends dragonfly20.

    Your frequent use of the phrase "making love" says to me you have over romanticized this in your mind so that it is so much more than he ever intended. You two had sex, you fucked, you did not make love. He waited two weeks to call because he is not in love. When he did call he was merely feeling you out to see if you were open to being his booty call girl.

     
  16. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    That's BAD! The guy's got issues. Small cock? lol.

    But seriously...I could never imagine doing something like that. I like to lay with partner, so they're nearby when the bell rings for round two.
     
  17. The Dragon

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    I wrote "make love"ather than fuck because it's a nicer word,
    I feel uncomfortable using base language.
    No I don't think it is or was love
     
  18. SpoiledPrincess

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    I don't feel he tossed her aside, my gut instincts say that after a fairly long friendship which didn't involve full sex he was a little shaken, from what the OP says he seems to be a guy who normally has good manners, and while there's no excuse for his bad manners they don't seem to be his norm. Talk to him.
     
  19. TheRob

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    that sucks and he dosn't sound like a very good friend
     
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    I've hooked up with friends before and never had the urge to kick them out of bed. The only time I ever encouraged a girl to leave my bed was a few years ago - I was seeing this 22 year old girl who was a bit of a firebrand, and after we had sex one night she decided to pick a fight with me, saying she wasn't sure why she was there with me, etc. So I said "OK, then go!" She left, and thought about, we ended up together for a couple more months after that . . .

    I would say talk to him, but it sounds to me like he avoided you long enough to hope he wouldn't have to talk about it - probably not worth the effort.
     
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