Sup guys--I have this dilemma. I've recently ended a long term relationship with a woman, and I'm seriously interested again in getting involved with guys. Something casual, probably, until I get back into the swing of things, I guess. But there's this thing. I'm a bottom in my sexual relations with dudes. I like the role, I have no problem doing it. It's what I like. But I'm finding it hard to meet "tops". What I mean is, virtually EVERY guy I meet immediately assumes I'm a "top". I'm a 6'2/225 thick solid athletic guy, masculine. I'm a regular guy--I love sports and talk about them all the time; I'm not shy about letting people know that I'm BI; but when I meet other guys, here's what happens: gay guys tell me I seem str8 and end up hoping to fulfill some "landing a str8 guy" fantasy; and str8 guys who wanna fool around tell me I'm they kind of guy they can envision being "submissive" to--sucking MY dick or getting fucked by ME. I'm all for "versatility"--though as i once heard someone say, "versatility" is really another way of saying "bottom" because so many guys are shy to admit to being bottoms. I don't know, just what I heard. I'm not necessarily proud of this but I'm not as well-versed in "gay" life as I am in "straight" life. Is there some way I can learn to better express to a guy what I'm interested in? Do you just come out and say, "I'm looking to get fucked and suck you dry?" Is there some signal "bottom" guys send out for "tops" to get the message? Is it my build and demeanor? Are there "top" guys out there who aren't intimidated by a tall solid dude who wants to bottom? This may sound ridiculous to some of you out here. But this is a real concern, Something I never have to deal with, obviously, when i'm with a woman. We're usually looking for what we end up doing. :redface: Thanks for any advice you can give me.