What to do when can't get hard during sex?

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I am having some issues on and off with getting and staying hard. I think it is blood pressure related and am slowly getting it taken care of. I think anxiety has a little bit to do with it. I have now had this problem 4-5 times during sex. Usually i can make myself hard no problem. These times i could get hard once, then i went soft from breaks in stimulation and couldnt get hard no matter what. Two girls noticed. Ive seen a dr don't have any obvious problems other than bp and had a bunch of tests done.

Any tricks ican do to get over it? It seems if i concentrate on it, it doesnt happen, ive switched to do something else or focused on the girl, but sometimes that didnt work.
 

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No tricks, buddy...I've never had a problem. But would be nice to have some 'tricks' in my tool belt should the need arise (hahahahaha...I honestly didn't mean to write that).
 

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If you can get your cock semi-hard enough to put into her cunt, you can get hard by fucking slowly at first. Always works for me if I want to do a woman again just after i've cum.:wink:
 

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This happened to me a few years ago. Dude, if you think it might be anxiety-related, it probably is. This 'temporary impotence' thing happens to the majority of men at some point in their lives, and from what I've heard (and based on my own personal experice) it normally happens when you get with a new girl for the first time. Basically, any amount of adrenaline in your system from nerves will murder your sex drive. So there's a few things you can do:

1. Quit spanking the bishop for a week or two.

2. Propranalol (a prescription beta-blocker that kills adrenaline so you never get nervous of anything. Doctors hand it out like asprin if you tell them you suffer from panic attacks)

*or if you're desperate*
3.Viagra.
 

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2. Propranalol (a prescription beta-blocker that kills adrenaline so you never get nervous of anything. Doctors hand it out like asprin if you tell them you suffer from panic attacks)
Beta blockers like propranolol will reduce some of the physical manifestations of anxiety, like racing heart, shaky hands, etc. They don't reduce psychological anxiety (although the physical symptoms can reinforce the psychological symptoms so the patient may feel less anxious overall). Unfortunately, they can also cause sexual dysfunction, so they might not be a great choice in this case.
 

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I've been having the same kind of problem over the last couple of months. met a new lady friend the first time we did it we were both slightly drunk and i didn't have any problem getting an erection even after i had orgasimed at least a couple of times (amazing nite).
However the next couple of times we met up i got hard during foreplay, but totally lost my erection when it came to penetration, at least once i went flaccid whilst inside.
As u guys can probably imagine i was getting totally freaked out by this,
I can now put it down to anxiety thinking about it in hindsight.

She had told her friends about my size :) and they had commented on it to me between our 1st and 2nd meeting, so probably had something to live up to

I was totally falling for her, something she told me she didn't want and it was just about the sex ( Which the more i tried the less i was able to do it)

I have since met another woman and not had the slightest problem in getting or keeping my erection
 

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try doing a few hundred Kegel exercises a day. they are easy to do, watching tv, whatever.
If he has issues with high blood pressure that's not gonna help. It probably won't hurt either but it's not going to get rid of his problem.:frown1:

Have her give you a hand job untill you are fully hard and then switch to intercourse. You can fracture your penis having intercourse with a simi hard penis if you are careless.
I don't like that solution. Only because if he goes from hard to semi- hard she may not have noticed. He may not want to call attention to the problem by pulling out and having it get softer in her hand. Also, from experience I can tell you, that once the sole focus of both parties becomes getting him hard, he won't get hard. :redface:

It's kinda like how I can never pee in a doctors office, even if I have just consumed 32 oz. of soda. The second they hand me a specimen cup I become the sahara desert. :frown1:

This happened to me a few years ago. Dude, if you think it might be anxiety-related, it probably is. This 'temporary impotence' thing happens to the majority of men at some point in their lives, and from what I've heard (and based on my own personal experice) it normally happens when you get with a new girl for the first time. Basically, any amount of adrenaline in your system from nerves will murder your sex drive. So there's a few things you can do:
1. Quit spanking the bishop for a week or two.
2. Propranalol (a prescription beta-blocker that kills adrenaline so you never get nervous of anything. Doctors hand it out like asprin if you tell them you suffer from panic attacks)
Never heard of that, but I wouldn't recommend it as he didnt say he had panic attacks.

*or if you're desperate*
3.Viagra.
Viagra doesn't have to mean desperate. He mentioned problems with high blood pressure. That is the culprit and must be addressed, it's clearly not his libido. The problem is the meds that fix blood pressure and some heart problems cause erectile dysfunction. :mad: Talk about the cure being worse than the disease. :irked:

Convince her that Häagen-Dazs is better especially
Toasted Coconut Sesame Brittle. Cease all attempts at sex and head down to the store :smile:
I prefer their White Chocolate Raspberry or the Rum Raisin. :wink: