Hey Gang - So what do you tink about this? Many of you were very supportive and vocal in your thoughts re. my distressing interchange with my parents re. my birthday and holiday time spent with them and I thnk you for your iput (How Do You Make People Go Away). I have not communicated with them since I told them my honest thoughts on their behavior. I received packages at my house today including great antique pieces and money. So I received calls from them this afternoon as though nothing was ever amiss and I thanked them for their thoughtful and generous gifts. They continued to chat about the most banal things. So I decided to address the rift and spoke directly to my mother about the fact that a simple phone call would have been appropriate. She said nothing. I addressed the psychotic Chirstmas gathering and told her I would be willing to spend a few hours for Christmas dinner on Christmas day and was amused by her response which was: "that is a lot for a driver to manage in one day. Besides the weather might be bad." I live two and a half hours away one way. So add that up and its 10 hours of drive time for a high day of family togetherness which was previously the stated objective. I would like to think that there might be some merit to be honest and let the chips fall where they may. I would be content not seeing my family on Christmas and am happy to let them know that while I appreciate their efforts on my behalf, I do not appreciate their bad, controlling behavior. But then again, we would like to think many things about being honest with our families. For the moment, I just may be home free on Christmas! (I can hope).