What turns you on more?

[D_Hanky Philler]

I've always wondered what turns people on more. Is it the genitalia? Body language? The body itself? Personality? Money... ect.

Now, I'm not talking about preferences. In general what attracts you to your mate? or partner.

my boyfriend has Irish and Italian descents. His dick is average and he looks 5 years older than his real age due to stress. He is not in top physical condition and he has a temper problem.
Now I'm not saying I'm perfect either but I he doesn't believe me that I am physically and emotionally attracted to him. its hard to explain. but does anybody else feel like this?

 

[TheRob]

sometimes I'm attracted to a girl and I can't figure out why, it's sort of maddening at times

 

[mandoman]

I've always wondered what turns people on more. Is it the genitalia? Body language? The body itself? Personality? Money... ect.

Now, I'm not talking about preferences. In general what attracts you to your mate? or partner.

my boyfriend has Irish and Italian descents. His dick is average and he looks 5 years older than his real age due to stress. He is not in top physical condition and he has a temper problem.
Now I'm not saying I'm perfect either but I he doesn't believe me that I am physically and emotionally attracted to him. its hard to explain. but does anybody else feel like this?

Sound like the human condition to me.

 

[D_JohnQPubic]

An average-looking person with an amazing personality is waaaay hotter than a gorgeous body on a jerk. JMHO.

 

[LaFemme]

Personality all the way. An average or even slightly unattractive looking man (at first sight) can become smoldering to me once I get to know him. It's his confidence, his attitude, his sense of humour, his outlook and his own perception of being sexy that turns me on.

 

[D_Natalie Attired]

hmmm...... well i can surely tell you its not money,personality is definitely a turn on and his ability to make fun of his self once in a while. i would say more but Lafemme basically took the words out of my mouth. well said btw!!!

 

[hctib1]

Personality -- I love a guy who can make me laughh and feel good.

 

[D_PIOuiohIYGIY]

Personality all the way. An average or even slightly unattractive looking man (at first sight) can become smoldering to me once I get to know him. It's his confidence, his attitude, his sense of humour, his outlook and his own perception of being sexy that turns me on.

Couldn't agree more!

 

[irox19]

I completely agree with LaFemme and Queenie.

 

[Serial Kisser]

A good looking man attracts me initially. The personality is what either makes or break it.

 

[MrToolhung]

A good looking man attracts me initially. The personality is what either makes or break it.

Well said!

 

[MrToolhung]

I voted on personality although a dude's cock can be a deal breaker at times.

 

[closetfreak]

A good looking woman attracts me initially. The personality is what either makes or break it.

Exactly

 

[MadCock]

Body Language is the bate

Personality is the hook

 

[Serial Kisser]

Exactly

Hey... I didn't say woman.

 

[closetfreak]

Hey... I didn't say woman.

A good looking person attracts me initially. The personality is what either makes or break it.

better?

 

[B_subgirrl]

Personality!!! If I think he's good enough to fuck, I'll love his cock too.

I couldn't give a fuck about money.

I'm definitely not visually motivated. In my whole life I've only met/seen 4 guys I wanted to screw based purely on appearance.

Body language I see as being part of personality.

 

[TheRob]

Personality!!! If I think he's good enough to fuck, I'll love his cock too.

I couldn't give a fuck about money.

I'm definitely not visually motivated. In my whole life I've only met/seen 4 guys I wanted to screw based purely on appearance.

Body language I see as being part of personality.

what did the lucky 4 have in common

 

[B_subgirrl]

what did the lucky 4 have in common

Not a lot.

Two of the four were very much my type physically. Short dark hair, dark eyes, shortish.

The other two were very tall Viking types, one of them blonde, the other blondish.

They all had facial hair. That's the only thing all four had in common.

 

[anoushka]

Personality all the way. To some extent, it influences body language, and the body itself (in terms of lifestyle/fitness)...but more than anything, it is the lens through which sexuality is focused and directed.