What type of person are your ?

are your reserved or exuberant?

  • reserved

    Votes: 10 55.6%
  • exuberant

    Votes: 8 44.4%

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This is pretty much me. I come by it honestly. My mother was 10 times as gregarious and social as I am.

That's where we're different! My Mum and Dad are pretty well reserved. I kinda came out of nowhere getting in people's faces with a smile. Dad is an old cowboy who puts his head down and gets to work. And Mum's a proper British woman (hah!) who loves to gossip among friends. But when it comes to meeting a stranger she'll go so far as to give a nod.

I think part of it comes from growing up on a farm and ranch in the boonies. Meeting outside people was a thrill to me!
 

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I just love reading you, I'm glade to know you so much better.

You know what, your so right, I'm spiritual, marginally enlightened, free thinker too, I do love reading on stranger personality and I'm always extroverted in public, except, when I'm not into it and I could say that it's most of the time.

It's so important to be and experiment all the emotion possible, just like a rainbow. No label could match me, no sir!

I'm so chameleon on my emotion that I could be a great actor, but I'm not... Why?!

I don't like label! and I don't like to define myself to just one aspect of me, but many years ago, I asked my friend what type of person I was, and my friend described me in many ways, but one thing came out, I was a bit close up and I could see it coming, I mean I do love spending more time alone then been at party's.

That did make me think, After that, I changed my game, I came out of the closet, like people say. I begun to go out a lot, party a lot, even dancing. I'm a great dancer!

Now, what label could match me.... None ! I don't care about label. But I know deep down that if I was confronted to choose to be extroverted or introverted, I would choose most of the time introverted.

That, in my own view, (not others) I see myself as a introverted. And that is not a label! it's knowing myself.

Now, I do try to know people on a forum that I go everyday, maybe it's my extroverted side talking, but it's very difficult to know someone without eyes contact, I'm asking how do you see yourself. So I can put ground on a starting conversation.

I'm so very glad that you connected with my question, I can now exchange a conversation with you, your not a "name" on a list anymore. Still, saying that you don't want label, and your every emotion at every given moment, is like saying that your everything and saying that your everything is like saying that your nothing because you don't give me feedback.

The only thing I can say at this moment, is that your a very talkative person for saying not much.

But I'm so glad that your communicate! Thanks. :)


Well, if you think its not much that I said, then you probably didn't understand what I was getting at.

Some concepts are more difficult to explain than can be conveyed in a tweet or bumper sticker.
And I suppose my verbosity is attributable to the fact that I think that its generally foolish to just throw out unsupported statements as if they are facts, when they are really an argument for a specific perspective. And you can't forward a valid argument without some support in the form of reasoning, evidence, or analogy. And that takes some discourse.

The conclusion my argument supported is that people respond differently to different situations, and that often the character of their responses are unrelated to their external surroundings and have more to do with an internal state that is temporary and ever changing, but not necessarily evident to observers.


I think your own analysis of yourself is incorrect... because you strive to apply a label to yourself that misses the mark. You disagree that the label represents you, yet you conclude by shoving your Mint Chocolate Chip self into the Vanilla carton, and in doing so you simply endorse other's misunderstandings of why you behave the way you do.

An alternate analogy with trending traction would be be suggest that what you wrote is no different than a man who is Bisexual, agreeing to be categorized as Gay. If observed having sex with another man he might 'appear' to be gay... that particular activity might seem gay... but is that the best descriptive to pin on him? Or is there a better label that speaks more to his real internal self?
The Gay and Straight communities are only just now coming to a grudging acceptance that maybe such a thing as bisexuality really does exist... but for decades, bisexual people were PRESSURED to choose either one or the other and effectively admonished that there was no third option.
What is the psychological effect of forcing someone to think of themselves as something they aren't? Because that is what arbitrary reductionism does to people. It changes the way they see themselves and in doing so, limits their choices.

Thus... part of why I feel it is important for people to demand a label they feel is more accurate is essential to being treated respectfully and having your own being validated by those around you. ( and perhaps, your actions better understood and so accepted ) A better label contributes to a more fully realized life.

Your description of yourself, as far as I can see, is Not of a person who is introverted. It is better described by the term "Introspective".

An introspective person has no problem being alone.... they are not 'shy'- they are content within themselves- and yet they really have no problem being with others... they may appear to more superficial personalities to be 'closed off' but that is simply because more superficial personalities would not relate to the inner life of the introspective, and so the introspective rarely share that with them.
But not being able to understand someone else does not mean they are closed off. It can mean you simply don't "get" them because you lack common ground.

Even when being gregarious, an introspective person remains personally reflective... as if observing their own interaction with others.
It doesn't mean they are not enjoying company; they simply have a different dimension to the experience of enjoyment than those who are more stimulus driven.

I am wholly in favor of stereotyping, generalizations, and categorization. We all seek to be stereotyped in the ways that might make others think of us in the way we wish to be thought of... that creates association with the kinds of people with which we wish to associate.
And we all take exception to stereotypes that we feel MIS-label us.

I think the OP poll creates a false dichotomy. I don't think its possible to choose either label without doing ourselves a dis-service.
 
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I can be either, it's entirely context specific. Extremely limiting poll is extremely limiting. Among people I know I can be comfortable with and won't offend, I'm pretty exuberant. I tend towards being a blunt person, because I think life is too damn short to bullshit people. I will be generally quiet/reserved with people I do not know, but still blunt.
 

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Thanks Phil, I just love the way you think. It's just a shame that english is not my first language, I would love to argument with you. I did understand what you where saying, I do agree on it. Your right on all account.

I am wholly in favor of stereotyping, generalizations, and categorization. We all seek to be stereotyped in the ways that might make others think of us in the way we wish to be thought of... that creates association with the kinds of people with which we wish to associate.

Here, you express exactly my feeling. But I disagree with that part :
I don't think its possible to choose either label without doing ourselves a dis-service.

This is just a forum on the Internet, I'm not asking you to question your authenticity, You could answer your state at a given moment if you wish so. In the end It's just an elaborate way to establish association and communication between person who do no have other ways to share personality trait, then asking out of the blue.

It's true that my poll is pretty limited, I could have put the 300 personality traits, or just a couples, I decided to just put 2 opposed one.
The goal is still the same, communicate and associate.

I'm sorry if I give you the feeling that I just don't get you, I really love the way you write, with all the right word. It's just hard to argue in a other language.

Thanks, Wish you good
 
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Thanks Phil, I just love the way you think. It's just a shame that english is not my first language, I would love to argument with you. I did understand what you where saying, I do agree on it. Your right on all account.



Here, you express exactly my feeling. But I disagree with that part :

This is just a forum on the Internet, I'm not asking you to question your authenticity, You could answer your state at a given moment if you wish so. In the end It's just an elaborate way to establish association and communication between person who do no have other ways to share personality trait, then asking out of the blue.

It's true that my poll is pretty limited, I could have put the 300 personality traits, or just a couples, I decided to just put 2 opposed one.
The goal is still the same, communicate and associate.

I'm sorry if I give you the feeling that I just don't get you, I really love the way you write, with all the right word. It's just hard to argue in a other language.

Thanks, Wish you good


Its not a matter of not getting me. I was saying that if you think i spent a lot of word to say very little you might not have understood the ramifications of the point I was making.

And when I used the word 'get' i was referring to the folks you mentioned who described you as closed off.
A person who is NOT introspective, who lives by external stimuli, is not going to 'get' that you are not closed off... you're just lost in reflection. That you live more by an internal stimulus than an external one.


As to this Just being a forum... I see a thread such as this to be a great opportunity to take what seems to be a really simple question... and explore the fact that even simple questions can have very deep philosophical aspects... and expose folks to the fact that, quite often, attempts to simplify things are attempts to simplify THEM.... to get them to think in simpler terms, rather than delve deeper.

Asking if folks are introverted or extroverted is a reflection of a popular publishing trend... everywhere you look online there are clickbait articles about what it "means" to be introverted, or extroverted. That a certain idea has become Fashionable, does not accrue to its truth, nor even its usefulness in your life.
Asked to pick either/or... readers choose the one that seems to be closer... and then go on to see these other articles and imagine that what it says about that kind of person applies to them.

Ideas about self alter self.

And I think people really ought to bring a LOT more consciousness and self examination to bear before they accept any definition of themselves offered by others. And realize that almost nothing about being human is either/or.
More kids get diagnosed with ADHD... not because more kids HAVE it... but because the definition keeps being widened.

And why does that definition keep getting widened? Because if more people HAVE it, then more pills are sold to treat it.

And how do they get parents to agree to testing their kids? By convincing them that a kid undiagnosed is MISSING OUT on Their Share of Special Education funds for their kid.
And people are afraid of missing out especially on any 'benefit' for their own child.

Of course parents might feel differently if ADHD was sold on the basis of their kid being brain doped during their critical developmental years...

Agreeing to pat explanations blinds you to more comprehensive understandings.
And All this long train of thought... stimulated just by asking if folks considered themselves one thing or another?

Careful what you consider yourself to be, because you BECOME what you imagine that you are.

Call yourself an introvert, if that's what you want to be.

me, I aim to be something far more.
 
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