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Today I was at a conference and met an out-of-town woman there with whom I really hit it off. She seemed really interested in my work, and I was interested in her. Hers. Her work, of course. The conversation was energized and effortless.
It was such that, had I not been married, it would have been totally natural to say, "When this is over, let's get some dinner." And if we spent the rest of the evening talking about work and life and everything and parted colleagues, that would have been great. And if the evening turned into a hook up, that would have been great, too.
When I got home I looked her up on Facebook--oh, come on! You know you do it, too! :wink:--and right on her main page she describes herself as gay and her profile pic is of her with her partner.
So here's the thing I don't get: Why all the positive vibes? I'll admit I'm somewhat thickheaded when it comes to picking up on stuff like this, but I was feeling a definite opportunity to step outside the "shop talk" with her.
It was such that, had I not been married, it would have been totally natural to say, "When this is over, let's get some dinner." And if we spent the rest of the evening talking about work and life and everything and parted colleagues, that would have been great. And if the evening turned into a hook up, that would have been great, too.
When I got home I looked her up on Facebook--oh, come on! You know you do it, too! :wink:--and right on her main page she describes herself as gay and her profile pic is of her with her partner.
So here's the thing I don't get: Why all the positive vibes? I'll admit I'm somewhat thickheaded when it comes to picking up on stuff like this, but I was feeling a definite opportunity to step outside the "shop talk" with her.