What was painful about your first time?

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  1. RLSteve

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    Curious...

    The first time you had sex with a man, what was more uncomfortable? Being stretched? Or the friction? Or the hymen tearing (if there was any?)

    Was the sex still good in spite of any of that?
     
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    All of the above.
     
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    And you wanted to know this because . . .
     
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    The sex wasn't good my first 6 times, and I believe I'm being charitable with that estimation. :redface:

    I also want to know why you're asking. This is pretty personal stuff you're asking for, so give us some motivation as to why we should indulge you.
     
  5. Ed69

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    Maybe he does not want to hurt the new woman he's with?

    Or it could just be a search for wank fodder?Wait and see if he comes back to the paranoid females here!
     
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    :biggrin1: We're really quite friendly if we can relate to the reason the question is being asked.
     
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    There was no pain or discomfort. None.
     
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    This is a rather interesting question on a board where for the most part people are openly discussing the most intimate details about themselves. :confused:
     
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    My first was very very big, though it has been some time since I've been with him, I would guestimate that he was about 8 long and sizable girth. It didn't hurt at all... That was the day I finally understood that I needed penis. I couldn't keep my hands off of him.
     
  10. petite

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    I suppose it's just another reminder about how different men and women are. There are many things I hold back here, for personal reasons of my own.
     
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    Amen, petite. I try not to let myself hold back, but I am and always have been something of an activist for truth. It it immensely difficult to tell, but a Writer who lies is basically an advertising copywriter with no product to sell.

    But not everyone is a Writer. And thank God for that. It takes all kinds. It takes a village.
     
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    This would be my answer as well.
     
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    I don't think my hymen broke right away, it was painful for me the first 10 times or so.

    No the sex wasn't good.
     
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    not really pain...just a lil discomfort at first
     
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    Ditto. Absolutely no pain or discomfort. Physical discomfort, anyway. Maybe some emotional discomfort. lol.
     
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    Stretching, tearing, burning sensation the first 3-4 times. It was pretty horrible.
     
  17. RLSteve

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    Honestly, one of my fantasies are virgins' first times. The idea of pleasure and pain mixed together is a turn-on for me, but it's not a turn-on if it's pretty much just pain with no pleasure. I guess I'm just curious about the possibility and range of experiences.

    While I would agree it's a personal question to ask an individual, I wouldn't say it's an inappropriate question to ask on this board considering how it's pretty all anonymous and everyone's talking about sex and their experiences anyway.
     
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    It was painful but mostly from carpet burns. I'm guessing that's not the sort of friction you were hoping to hear about.
     
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    I didn't say that it was inappropriate. It's nice to hear the context of the question, especially when the question sounds like you're asking for wank material. You'd be surprised at how few people really mind providing it, but most people do mind being fooled or deceived. And if you were asking for advice about taking a woman's virginity, then our answers would include useful advice from experience.
     
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  20. RLSteve

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    Burning doesn't sound good.

    But I can imagine how stretching could enhance the pleasure.
     
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