The biggest heartbreak was over 2,5 years ago. About to move for him to Sweden..he helped me clear out my house, rented it for a year..and he would come to get my stuff about 2 months later (they were in storage). 1 month later he ended it by phone. For a year I was not able to get back into my own house again.
I was devastated.. never gone through something like this before. It took me a year to get over him. And another year to really get back to me. Lots of crying and lots of endless infinite patience from a dear friend..and family. I'm so thankful for their support..infinitely.
I'm stronger now. Till this day this man has never once turned his back. back then that hurt so much..but now I am thankful he did actually. best thing he could have given me..because the clear sight of his back made me realize that I was a lucky woman to experience him this way. The experience couldn't save me from heartache..but learned some valuable lessons along the way.
The baggage I do carry from this, is that i need some time to trust a new guy. He doesn't need to prove a thing, but I have lost a bit of my impulsiveness. I do not just jump in heart first..or pussy first ;-). I simply need to feel that he's for real.
I have learned alot about myself as well..my goodness the pitiful things one can do when their heart is shattered. Goodness! No man ever will put me back in that place again. The love for myself is higher now. And before i thought that it should be the other way around. Glad I have learned otherwise..
For all the ones here who have been devastatingly hurt by love..don't give up on love...just because of that one or 5 people that hurt you. Yeah when things go bad they can go really really bad..but I believe now that those moments are all about opportunities to rebalance. Something about your selflove has been out of balance.. And no matter who comes into your life, no matter how much you love or care for them..never lose sight of the love for oneself!
Life is just too short to pine away for people..who might be fucking someone else at the time you are hiding in the feelings you have left for them.
Stay strong..and lots of love for you..
Emjay
I was devastated.. never gone through something like this before. It took me a year to get over him. And another year to really get back to me. Lots of crying and lots of endless infinite patience from a dear friend..and family. I'm so thankful for their support..infinitely.
I'm stronger now. Till this day this man has never once turned his back. back then that hurt so much..but now I am thankful he did actually. best thing he could have given me..because the clear sight of his back made me realize that I was a lucky woman to experience him this way. The experience couldn't save me from heartache..but learned some valuable lessons along the way.
The baggage I do carry from this, is that i need some time to trust a new guy. He doesn't need to prove a thing, but I have lost a bit of my impulsiveness. I do not just jump in heart first..or pussy first ;-). I simply need to feel that he's for real.
I have learned alot about myself as well..my goodness the pitiful things one can do when their heart is shattered. Goodness! No man ever will put me back in that place again. The love for myself is higher now. And before i thought that it should be the other way around. Glad I have learned otherwise..
For all the ones here who have been devastatingly hurt by love..don't give up on love...just because of that one or 5 people that hurt you. Yeah when things go bad they can go really really bad..but I believe now that those moments are all about opportunities to rebalance. Something about your selflove has been out of balance.. And no matter who comes into your life, no matter how much you love or care for them..never lose sight of the love for oneself!
Life is just too short to pine away for people..who might be fucking someone else at the time you are hiding in the feelings you have left for them.
Stay strong..and lots of love for you..
Emjay
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