what was your biggest heartbreak moment?

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I have had two heartbreaks, I mentioned one earlier and the other one was a never ending Jerry Springer drama. Won't even discuss it anymore it is so embarrassing. But I think the best thing about getting your heart crushed is that it repairs itself and becomes stronger. So after a point you just become immune to potential heartbreaks.
 

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I am going through my my biggest heartbreak moment now. The last few months have been nothing short of pure misery. Everywhere I go and anything I do reminds me of how much I love him. I miss him more today than yesterday.

I fell in love with a straight friend. The sad truth is I know in my heart he never has nor ever will love me the same way I love him. Being here on lpsg and sharing my story (the link is below if you would like to read it) has allowed me through this community of peers to try and move forward. I thank each and everyone of you from the cockles of my heart for being here whenever I've needed you the most.

http://www.lpsg.org/221385-what-would-you-do.html
 
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I've had 3 major heartbreaks. The first was when I was 22 and I realized that my boyfriend was cheating on me. He wasn't a good guy overall and I knew we would never be together permanently, but I still loved him like he was a part of me. I remember the moment I found out.... I vomited til I ended up with a migraine that put me in the hospital. I lost 40lbs and my hair fell out. That first real love can be a killer.

Second time I was about 35. It was a man I met online. We exchanged pics and talked on the phone.... he would send me flowers and beautiful letters. He was planning to move in with me (all the way from Australia). It was assumed that if it worked out, then maybe marriage? Suddenly I didn't hear from him for a week which was so unusual. Then finally he contacted me and said that before he quit his job and moved he had a confession: he had lied about his age. He was not 39, but 59. The pictures he had sent were 20 years old. I'll never forget the feeling as I watched his real face fill my monitor. The lie was too big.... I fell to my knees the shock was so great. I never spoke to him again.

The 3rd time? About 2 hours ago. But it's been going on for a few months now. My heart has been having little pieces sliced off bit by bit - the worst of it a few weeks ago. It was as if a steel wall slammed down and there was no way I could get to his heart. The pain was excruciating. Still is actually. Tonight was almost anticlimactic - it ended with the words, "no, baby". And that was that. He said 'no'.

I think the first and the last were the worst. It's horrible to lose your first love; it's horrible to lose the last love, when you think you have finally have found "the one" and that this person is the reward for all the heartache you've endured before.

Heartache makes one feel so powerless. All you can do is let the grief wash over you and learn what you can from the experience. I think that everyone should experience it once - then you know you can survive. More than one heartache - I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It erodes you, makes you doubt yourself - you can feel so broken. Personally, I have no intention of going thru this again. After three of these experiences, I don't think I have enough heart left to risk it.

:frown1: I feel badly for your broken heart. I never understood why certain people feel the need to knowingly hurt other people. It's just wrong. :bighug:
 

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There are so many stories of heartbreak posted here...:frown1: It's a difficult thing to get through. It's helpful to know that you have friends and family who care about you, and want you to find a way to your happiness again. But it's also important to go through the grieving process in order to properly heal your heartache. It's a tough place to be. It sounds so uncaring for me to say things such as "I wish you the best" or "I hope everything works out." Even though I do wish these things...I'll just send a warm hug. I wish I could be there to give every one of you a big warm hug.
 

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my biggest heart break is a friend of mine, on his secound marrage, and a new dad, who has bi side he won't admit to, we'll never hook up there is no doubt we have chemistry, we just hung out a couple days ago.. and the attraction is still there but he will never admit to it, and I'm not going to mess with a married buddy..
 

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The biggest heartbreak moment for concerned a bloke I met in October 2000. I have no self confidence whatsoever. He, on the other hand, was 6' tall, had a rippling 50 inch chest, huge muscles, the nicest smile and was dripping sex appeal from every pore. He also had a girlfriend who he was in the process of leaving so as to come out as gay. We had the best sex together, we danced together, we went out on dates together and had a really great time, But something wasn't quite right. He had the look in his eye of a man looking over my shoulder to the next person, and then the one after that and the one after that. After an intense eight months (which seemed like much much longer) we split up. I was left wondering what I had done wrong, long after he ceased to care. I met the loveliest man a year and a half later and have never looked back. We are still together. As for Mr Handsome, I think about him often, but the split broke me in way I hope never to repeat.

you might want to doublecheck those percentages of yours dude.
 

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i've had a couple "heartbreaks" over the past couple of years. they were usually over a straight guy i had fallen for, but they don't even come close to this.

a couple of months ago i met a guy and almost instantly developed an attachment towards him, and he did with me (apparently). he was so different to all the other guys. he told me that in a few months he'd be moving away and he didn't want anything serious to develop between us. ok, we never had sex, but sex isn't everything. we saw each other often and sent heart-felt text messages to each other every day. hundreds and hundreds of them. in the back of my mind i knew he was gonna be leaving soon but i let my feelings get the best of me and continued to see him on a regular basis. bad idea. we fell out several times, usually at the local gay club. he always knew everyone and the guys would always be all over him, causing me to get a little jealous. he told me they were just his friends, but the fact he let them touch him used to get to me. i'm not as social as he is, so i suppose i just wasn't used to it. we always ended up making up and things would be good.

a few weeks before he was supposed to be leaving i decided it was necessary that we have a talk. i told him how i've developed feelings for him, and he said he developed feelings for me too. he had a look of disappointment on his face the whole time. he said something about how this was all just a fling and that if he wasn't leaving things would be different. we continued to see one another up until he left. i enjoyed every day i got to spend with him.

the day he left i started to feel somewhat heart broken. even though i knew it was coming, just out of nowhere he was gone. it was a few days before i heard from him again and things still seemed ok. about a week after he had left i was really feeling lovesick and i sent him a long email detailing my feelings and how empty i felt that he's now gone. i mentioned how soon he'll meet someone else and i'll be totally out of the picture. he got pissed off and told me he didn't agree with what i was accusing him of. he told me he really cared for me and that he would never play me. again, we made up and were talking somewhat often.

it's been five weeks since he left. every week he would tell me how much he misses me and he's thinking about me. a couple of days ago i received an "accidental" text message from him. something along the lines of "no. i'm safe, but i feel like secure when you hold me." it wasn't directed to me since we hadn't been in contact in like several days. i was immediately mortified. i kept asking him who it was, what was going on, etc. he kept telling me "it's nothing, it's nothing, i'm overreacting. i need to calm down. i don't know the reason he sent this guy this message, yada yada. it has nothing to do with him seeing anyone." he wouldn't tell me who the guy was because i don't know him. i'm not stupid and i think i know what's going on. i know it's essentially over now, but after only a couple of weeks i was more shocked at how fast he's apparently moved on more than anything. i may have taken his text message the wrong way, but i think it's easy to see how a message like THAT could be misinterpreted. if he has moved on already, i can't think of a worse way to find out than being accidentally texted the wrong message.

this is nothing like some of the past heartbreaks i've read about in this thread, but it still affected me deeply. i think about him all the time every day and it always hurts me. there was nothing i could do to stop him from going and it doesn't seem like we'll ever see one another again and even face a chance at a legitimate relationship. moving on his hard. so hard. now i think there's already another guy in his life despite what he's reassured me.
 
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I have a few stories, but the one I'm going to focus on is the hardest breakup I ever went through, which happened in February 2008.

Long story short, we were in the midst of preparing to move to Seattle from the midwest. I went to Seattle to search for apartments, he stayed behind. I was in Seattle for a week (Wednesday to Wednesday). I couldn't get a hold of him Saturday and most of Sunday, for which he stated he worked a double shift (found out later that the he didn't show up for work at ALL the entire weekend) and that he left his phone at work, and he didn't get it back until Sunday afternoon.

Two weeks later, I get our cell phone bill and I see that it is $70 more than it normally was, all due to MMS (picture text messaging). Luckily, with my phone provider, you can go online and see the pictures that are sent via MMS. I logged in and found a TON of pictures he sent of himself in various states of undress, including full on nude pics, and countless pictures of his cock, in various states of erectness. Through the text that went with the pics, I found out that the guy he was sending these to had fucked him in OUR bed, in OUR apartment (all of which I paid for, mind you). I contacted the guy and got the real story. I found out that my ex had told the guy that it was HIS apartment, and that we had broken up and I moved to Seattle. The guy told me he thought it was awfully strange that he was a barista at a coffee shop, but could afford an apartment like the one we had, in the area of the city where it was (it was in the upper crust area of the city). At that point, I loaded everything he had into boxes and stacked it by the door. I printed out the pictures and text messages, then went and picked him up at work. We got home, I confronted him with all of the information I had accrued over the previous 3 hours. He denied ever having sex with the guy, but I had proof that he did. I immediately threw him out, onto the street, and he had NOWHERE to go. I spent the next three days and nights in a drunken stupor. It took me over a year to get over that.

If you feel the need to cheat, then cheat. But DON'T cheat in the bed that belongs to you and your boyfriend/girlfriend. That's just adds a whole new level of wrongness to an already fucked up situation.
 

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I think it happens to everyone, but it was when i was 18, my second serious gf, we'd been going out about two months, hadn't even had sex, id seen her naked but only in the shower. Anyways there was two weeks where she was kinda withdrawn, and she'd been feeling sick so I chalked it up to that.

It was labor day and I went to her work and brought her some ice cream. She called me the best bf ever. Within 24 hours she had met me at my house and broke up with me. I was so shocked i didnt even ask why. I was so naive that later when she said why (b.s. about not wanting to commit and wanting to travel the world) that I actually believed her.

The real knife in the back was when I found out why for real (she'd been banging another guy on the side) it was tough especially since she'd been saying she wanted to wait and all that b.s they normally say

But yeh that was years ago and water under the bridge
 

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for me i would say about for years ago actually he was my first i was 26 and he was 41 everything was good and out of nowhere had decides that he fell out of love with me and that he found someone who was younger and that i was getting too old for him, hearing that felt like a knife being driven in my heart. so i just started taking care of me and never looked back since.i m in a much better place now!!!!
 

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for me i would say about for years ago actually he was my first i was 26 and he was 41 everything was good and out of nowhere had decides that he fell out of love with me and that he found someone who was younger and that i was getting too old for him, hearing that felt like a knife being driven in my heart. so i just started taking care of me and never looked back since.i m in a much better place now!!!!

That's an awful thing to do. On behalf of the Y chromosome...I'm sorry (even tho my Y isn't as str8 ^_^)
 

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Ya know, I actually have one that didn't occur to me until now. It was when I was in school, so hormones are causing all kinds of issues lol. I was desperately head over heels for a guy and he had no intention of reciprocating that feeling for me. He knew I was gay, knew I liked him, but he was still cool with me. We were friends and whatnot, and one night I walked him home. This is like, 11pm or so. Got him home and was on my way back and it hit me like a ton of bricks.

There I am walking down the street, balling my eyes out because it really just occurred that he would never, ever, EVER love me. And at the time I thought I was gonna die, but that's a teen for you. Emotions are life and death at that time lol. Tore me apart inside.
 

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losing my wife to cancer, but glad that we (my sons and I) were their for her....
 

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My previous girlfriend was incredibly manipulative and deceptive. I don't have time to get into all that she did now, but sadly the hurt is still partly there and after reading all this it's hard to not let all these stories color my perceptions of my current girlfriend. Time to go read another thread...
 

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The spring of 1992 the most wonderful relationship I'd had so far just ended. Nothing malicious,just ended. I saw it coming but would have done anything to stop it. I had been deliriously happy. Those weeks after were agonizing for me but I had wonderful friends and one of them told me that though it was over the memory that I'm capable of feeling such love was wonderful. That while it was happening, it was real. Things change but it doesn't mean the feelings weren't true. It was a great comfort to me.
I look back on that time with great fondness for what we shared. I've had other relationships since and each one has been different and wonderful. Nothing has hurt me as much because of the knowledge I now have.