Thinking about one's father can bring up some strong emotions. I knew three guys, all over 40, that had to hold back tears when I asked them about their father. (a good way to get an emotional response from a guy.) One guy was successful, the other two barely making it in life. The common feeling was that they wished their father had taught them so much more before they grew up. They wasted a lot of time figuring things out for themselves. They felt like they could have been better men if they had known things that would have been so easy for their father to teach them. My father never really bonded with his kids when we were young, so he never had a good relationship with us as teenagers. That makes it harder to communicate. He never really talked about his life, growing up, what he would have don't differently, what his goals were, disappointments he had, etc. He never really discussed things about growing up (sex for one!). He kept a job, put a roof over our heads and food on the table, but that was about it. I think when you've been an adult for a little while and you get to be about 30 you can look back and honestly evaluate your father. So grab a box of tissues and tell me: How was your father, good or bad? What do you wish was different about him? If bad, have you changed yourself to not repeat his mistakes? Have you ever seen someone get choked up trying to talk about their father?