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NineInchCock_160IQ said:
... the only ones who seem interested right now include a handful of married/unavailable women, quite a few homosexual men, ...

At least you sound set for a Queer Eye makeover if you ever want one...

Do women still want metrosexuals...or is that too last year?
 

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pinkerton said:
When a woman says no, does she really mean yes? ... However there is a fine line between psycho stalker and just being insistent. Really good women make themselves difficult to pursue ... My problem is I give up too soon, or I just talk myself out of asking to begin with.
I think when somebody says 'no', you should take them at their word. I don't think the 'stalker line' is all that fine, either. I believe the problem is that men get taught growing up that if you really want something (in this case, a woman) you should not take no for an answer, pursue at all costs. I think this mentality is upside down and leads to all kinds of problems ...

Talking yourself out of asking to begin with is another story. Go for it, why not? You can never win if you don't get in the game. But when she says no, that's it. If she really means yes, let her come back and approach you! After all, do you really want to waste time with someone who says the opposite of what they mean?
 

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Nine, I know I am the last person in the world who should be responding to your post, but here goes.

What Femme posted was accurate and most importantly pretty descriptive about what women want. We are very complicated and extremely complex, especially considering we sometimes expect guys to simply know what it is we want, how we want it and when to give it to us (and that relates to all areas).

Your demise, I think, is that you are a sweetheart and women long for that. Many women who are married or attached sometimes do not get the attention they want from their partners. When a man fuels that and provides that desired attention towards them, it becomes something that causes a reaction - both emotionally and physically. We yearn for that affection... Unfortunately, it is during those times that he [you] end up suffering because of the present situation.

I have spoken with you at length and know what type of man you are... You are a phenomial man - wise, sensitive and caring - the "total package." YOU WILL make some woman very, very happy one day. Don't rush into things, dear. Time has a way of rewarding those who are patient and feverent in their endeavors.

I wish you well..... always..........


NineInchCock_160IQ said:
I wish knowing all that helped, because if it did I probably wouldn't be single right now. Women aren't all that mysterious to me and people are constantly telling me what a great guy I am and what a great catch I would make... though for whatever reason the only ones who seem interested right now include a handful of married/unavailable women, quite a few homosexual men, a couple women who live in different countries, and one crazy ex who hasn't gotten over me but I know it's not going to work with. :sigh:
 

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It's nice to have these kind and heartfelt sentiments back on the board.:icon14:

Course I like the potent venom of Dr.s Rock and Dilznick too. Guess it just depends on the situation.
 

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First, apologies for changing the subject in the second post to focusing on my own relationship issues. That really wasn't called for. I had a point I was trying to make, and I could have made it without diverting the attention away from what Femme was trying to say.

Second, I didn't expect everyone to respond so kindly. Frankly, my expectations were more that Spladle or someone similary eloquent would tell me to shut up and threaten to bludgeon me with fruit. That's part of why I didn't bother coming back to read the other responses until today. Thanks for your kind words everyone.

Finally, the point I was really trying to make in my initial post: all of this is good stuff to know. But really, nothing about relationships can be reduced and simplified as completely as people often try to. They are never that simple. Each new relationship should and must be treated as a unique experience, what applies to one situation does not apply to many others, what works for one person will be a complete disaster for someone else, and there are ALWAYS factors that haven't been considered whenever somebody posts a list of things to do to make your partner happy or easily woo the opposite sex. It would be nice if there were a simple list of things we as people could do to make everyone love us... but there isn't.


Oh, and about my handle, I already explained this once upon a time before I had to reregister... it's a joke. The stats are true, possibly even conservative, but I found this whole site ridiculous when I first stumbled upon it and so made a ridiculous handle for myself. The juxtaposition of my IQ with my cock size I found to be ironic. I'm really not normally a braggart. I don't start conversations in public with reference to the size of my penis or my achievements on standardized tests...
 

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Ha, I think the nic is funny, and I'm glad that neither big dicks nor IQs are a rarity around here.

I have to agree with Ninein here. What women want sexually, relationally, or in any other aspect is completely unique to that woman. While I love reading what different people want in a potential partner, it very rarely describes what I want personally. These things we do to make ourselves known to our friends, but please guys- don't take any one woman's view on "what women want" and apply it across the board.

I agree thought that I want a man who has his own life, not one who needs to attatch himself to me in order to be "whole". I like a man who will address me as an equal in conversation, nothing will get a man out of my bed faster than being dismissive of me. That's the price of admission, talk to me like a real person or leave me the fuck alone. I don't like being treated like a boob-bearing blow up doll.
 
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My experience is that women are individualistic and want different things. Hell, that is what is attractive about them. You never really know what the hell they want because it can be random. I kind of like that - strange as it may sound.

Dude, in time you will find your nitche and hopefully a woman, like mine, that will want a whole bunch of shit! It gets aggrevating, but it keeps things interesting.
 

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Dude, at first I thought you were a prick but the more I read your posts, you seem like a pretty decent guy and probably the "total package". My guess is that you'll find a great lady that'll go totally apeshit over you and it will make this whole wait worthwhile. Until then...fuck 'em and throw out their numbers before the door hits 'em in the ass.

You are getting to be very special to me, as people who make me laugh out loud always are. Actually, I was thinking the same thing about him after going through his posts.
 

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I don't know what other women want. I don't know what men want either. I do know exactly what i want though.

First, I know you will always be attracted to other women. I know you will always want to have sex with other women, even long after your penis is useless. But I want to know that you love me so much that you are comfortable giving up sexual contact with anyone else (men too) forever.

I want to know that when I speak I have your attention. You are not worried about "your bills, your ex, your deadlines, or when you think you're gonna die".

I want you to tell me your secrets. I can keep them.

I want you to whisper in my ear all night and ignore the pretty girl sitting on your left, your homeboys, and the fact that I used to date the host of this party.

I want you to want me as much as I want you.

I want you to know I'm the one you have been praying for.

I want you to open and hold doors, pull out chairs, guide me, and bring me back home after.

I want you to shut the hell up when you have nothing to say and just enjoy the silence comfortably.

I want you to love your children more than you love me. And I want you to respect their mother, even though it didn't work out.

I want you to keep their mother out of my face before I slap her.

I want you to write me a song on your guitar and give me an hour long foot massage. That's still the best gift I've ever received.

I want you to trust me.

I want to trust you.

I want you to laugh at my jokes, unless they suck. Then you should make a sour-lemon face.

I want you to make me laugh.

I want you to smell a certain way.

I want your mother to lilke me. Teach me how to impress her.

I want you to teach me something about myself. Often.

I want you to teach me something about the world. Often.

I want you to call me on my bullshit and help me grow.

I want you to give me mind-numbing orgasms.

I want you to have an intersting life with interesting people in it when I find you.

I want you to wind up my biological clock.

I want you not to freak out on me after you wind up my biological clock.

I want you to keep your promises.

I want you to surprise me.

I awnt you to ask my friends what you should get me for my birthday.

I want you to understand what I'm saying, and what gets left unsaid too.

I want you to figure out what sets me off and not do those things.

I want youu to hurry up and change my last name to yours. (Or yours to mine if your name sucks.)

I want you to cook for me, bathe me, and wash my hair. Anything that makes me feel taken care of is good.

I want you to take no prisoners at work, and be gentle as a feather with me.

I want you to be unable to keep your hands off of me, but not in a molestery, gropey way.

There's still other stuff I want too, but I think all the important things are covered.
 
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Femme,

I definitely understand your POV, but at the same time I think that many women (at least the ones I know) want to be treated in some special way. What I mean by this is that it's the man's responsibility to make the woman feel wanted. But, hey, here's some news for you: men want to be treated the same way. I don't think it's my duty as a male of the species to make a woman feel "good" about herself. That's primarily her job. As far as the woman I'm involved with at the present time, yeh, I want to make her happy and fulifilled, but I expect the same thing from her as well toward me. As far as the protective thing goes, forget it! Hey, this isn't prehistoric times. My g/f knows judo, so she can sure as hell can protect me better than I can protect her. BTW are you living in some backward red state? :cool:


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I decided I'll spell it out for you. Well, what I want anyway. As a straight woman.

From my experience, I want a guy who - contrary to what I saw in a thread here - wants to have sex. For media imposed reasons, men think that if they hide their desires to have sex women will somehow feel more trusting. Ok, if you're not reaching up my skirt after "hello", yeah, that helps.
But otherwise...

During the summer I was involved with a guy who was so damn closed in. He totally didn't come on to me.
I mean, even in the initial stages of a relationship, I like the guy coming on to me in subtle ways - or at least knowing he's thinking of me that way. I.e. touching my thigh once in a while, his firm grip, etc. Making jokes about that, and them actually being funny. (I know that's hard)

You see fellows, women WANT to be WANTED.

We want you to appreciate us. To be able to read between the lines, or guess them when they're not even there. I know it's impossible, but it's what we want. We want to know that you want sex with a woman and you've chosen us - because we're perfect. But not because you're crazy...not because you're insane and that's why our faults don't bother you.

While all of this, we want you to do your own thing. Be interested and do something career/work/hobby wise. Something we don't understand. Something you'll be able to teach us, and even after you will we won't completely understand...b/c you're the man who understands it better.

We also want you to be gentlemen. I.e. for us to know that you feel it's your responsibility to walk us home and protect us.

I know how this sounds. But it's the truth. Maybe it'll help someone out...who knows.
 

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To Love-It,
Try doing or purchasing other things often that she would appreciate/enjoy, and then get th flowers or bring home a small flower or small bouquet & do something small for her. Hopefully, she will be very grateful, as that's the way to keep the tokens of love,etc. coming. I have always shown appreciation for anything that my fiance has done for me or given to me & as we have grown closer we have each discovered what the other likes & have grown very attune to that. He loves finding surprise notes tucked in all kinds of various places & he enjoys immensely me taking the time to engage in conversation with his friends. He brings me something or purchases me something now on at least a weekly basis.
 

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Multipass said:
Learn how to communicate with your body and eyes, rather than with your mouth.
Multipass said:

I definitely agree with the importance of eye communication. It's no cliché
that eyes can tell you so much about someone- especially whether someone is being sincere or is truly interested/ involved in a conversation. It holds true with friends, partners or people you don't know so well.
 

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BronxBombshell said:
I don't know what other women want. I don't know what men want either. I do know exactly what i want though.

First, I know you will always be attracted to other women. I know you will always want to have sex with other women, even long after your penis is useless. But I want to know that you love me so much that you are comfortable giving up sexual contact with anyone else (men too) forever.

I want to know that when I speak I have your attention. You are not worried about "your bills, your ex, your deadlines, or when you think you're gonna die".

I want you to tell me your secrets. I can keep them.

I want you to whisper in my ear all night and ignore the pretty girl sitting on your left, your homeboys, and the fact that I used to date the host of this party.

I want you to want me as much as I want you.

I want you to know I'm the one you have been praying for.

I want you to open and hold doors, pull out chairs, guide me, and bring me back home after.

I want you to shut the hell up when you have nothing to say and just enjoy the silence comfortably.

I want you to love your children more than you love me. And I want you to respect their mother, even though it didn't work out.

I want you to keep their mother out of my face before I slap her.

I want you to write me a song on your guitar and give me an hour long foot massage. That's still the best gift I've ever received.

I want you to trust me.

I want to trust you.

I want you to laugh at my jokes, unless they suck. Then you should make a sour-lemon face.

I want you to make me laugh.

I want you to smell a certain way.

I want your mother to lilke me. Teach me how to impress her.

I want you to teach me something about myself. Often.

I want you to teach me something about the world. Often.

I want you to call me on my bullshit and help me grow.

I want you to give me mind-numbing orgasms.

I want you to have an intersting life with interesting people in it when I find you.

I want you to wind up my biological clock.

I want you not to freak out on me after you wind up my biological clock.

I want you to keep your promises.

I want you to surprise me.

I awnt you to ask my friends what you should get me for my birthday.

I want you to understand what I'm saying, and what gets left unsaid too.

I want you to figure out what sets me off and not do those things.

I want youu to hurry up and change my last name to yours. (Or yours to mine if your name sucks.)

I want you to cook for me, bathe me, and wash my hair. Anything that makes me feel taken care of is good.

I want you to take no prisoners at work, and be gentle as a feather with me.

I want you to be unable to keep your hands off of me, but not in a molestery, gropey way.

There's still other stuff I want too, but I think all the important things are covered.

I want someone free from want.
 

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This thread is what I need to pay attention to right now. I recently came close to breaking up with my girlfriend - the one who is the love of my life. She's really amazing - 5'11" blonde, thin, beautiful face, 13 years younger than I am and a mouth like a truck driver. We met at grad school although never connected, and then (she claims) she hunted me down once I became available after having a crush on me for six years. It was a surreal experience and we were head over heels in love and enjoyed life intensely for about nine months, during which time we decided to have a baby, neither of us being interested in children EVER.
Her mother got sick and we dropped everything and moved across country, only to be faced with the tragedy of the hospital causing the death of her mom through negligence. The following two years were beset with endless problems and challenges that nearly wrenched us apart.
I was ready to call it quits, and went on a retreat where I had the chance to really think about what I wanted in a relationship. Finally I had to put aside the past, the arguments, the differences and the ego-based pettiness that promised never to be resolved, and I had to show her that I not only wanted her, but that nothing/noone else would ever be enough. That meant becoming the man that she originally fell in love with. I know that doesn't sound easy, but I believe in creating visions and goals, and I threw myself into this with absolute honesty, as much charm as I could dust off, and the desire to make her feel that she is the most important person in my life. And it worked. Now we are so happy, it is as we were when we first reunited only better, as there is an air of calm beneath the intensity. We kiss and are gentle with each other, but she loves me to pound her when we are in the final stages of lovemaking. The simple act of being present and enjoying every caress, and put the emphasis on anything BUT the genitals, makes the sex incredibly intense.
This story has a happy ending so far, but it took nearly losing the most valuable person in my life before I came around to understanding that the size of my cock was probably the least important thing on the negotiating table. From that I learned that captivating my girlfriend's mind and heart were absolutely necessary before the sex could even begin to happen.
So Femme, thanks for the input, and I would have to agree with everything that you wrote.
 

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This thread is what I need to pay attention to right now. I recently came close to breaking up with my girlfriend - the one who is the love of my life. She's really amazing - 5'11" blonde, thin, beautiful face, 13 years younger than I am and a mouth like a truck driver. We met at grad school although never connected, and then (she claims) she hunted me down once I became available after having a crush on me for six years. It was a surreal experience and we were head over heels in love and enjoyed life intensely for about nine months, during which time we decided to have a baby, neither of us being interested in children EVER.
Her mother got sick and we dropped everything and moved across country, only to be faced with the tragedy of the hospital causing the death of her mom through negligence. The following two years were beset with endless problems and challenges that nearly wrenched us apart.
I was ready to call it quits, and went on a retreat where I had the chance to really think about what I wanted in a relationship. Finally I had to put aside the past, the arguments, the differences and the ego-based pettiness that promised never to be resolved, and I had to show her that I not only wanted her, but that nothing/noone else would ever be enough. That meant becoming the man that she originally fell in love with. I know that doesn't sound easy, but I believe in creating visions and goals, and I threw myself into this with absolute honesty, as much charm as I could dust off, and the desire to make her feel that she is the most important person in my life. And it worked. Now we are so happy, it is as we were when we first reunited only better, as there is an air of calm beneath the intensity. We kiss and are gentle with each other, but she loves me to pound her when we are in the final stages of lovemaking. The simple act of being present and enjoying every caress, and put the emphasis on anything BUT the genitals, makes the sex incredibly intense.
This story has a happy ending so far, but it took nearly losing the most valuable person in my life before I came around to understanding that the size of my cock was probably the least important thing on the negotiating table. From that I learned that captivating my girlfriend's mind and heart were absolutely necessary before the sex could even begin to happen.
So Femme, thanks for the input, and I would have to agree with everything that you wrote.

This thread that's 7 years old is what you need to pay attention to?