D_Elijah_MorganWood
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Thanks, I like yours too!windtalkerways said:I'll say...nice avi. :smile:
Thanks, I like yours too!windtalkerways said:I'll say...nice avi. :smile:
NineInchCock_160IQ said:... the only ones who seem interested right now include a handful of married/unavailable women, quite a few homosexual men, ...
I think when somebody says 'no', you should take them at their word. I don't think the 'stalker line' is all that fine, either. I believe the problem is that men get taught growing up that if you really want something (in this case, a woman) you should not take no for an answer, pursue at all costs. I think this mentality is upside down and leads to all kinds of problems ...pinkerton said:When a woman says no, does she really mean yes? ... However there is a fine line between psycho stalker and just being insistent. Really good women make themselves difficult to pursue ... My problem is I give up too soon, or I just talk myself out of asking to begin with.
NineInchCock_160IQ said:I wish knowing all that helped, because if it did I probably wouldn't be single right now. Women aren't all that mysterious to me and people are constantly telling me what a great guy I am and what a great catch I would make... though for whatever reason the only ones who seem interested right now include a handful of married/unavailable women, quite a few homosexual men, a couple women who live in different countries, and one crazy ex who hasn't gotten over me but I know it's not going to work with. :sigh:
Sorcerer said:Dude, at first I thought you were a prick but the more I read your posts, you seem like a pretty decent guy and probably the "total package". My guess is that you'll find a great lady that'll go totally apeshit over you and it will make this whole wait worthwhile. Until then...fuck 'em and throw out their numbers before the door hits 'em in the ass.
Femme said:I decided I'll spell it out for you. Well, what I want anyway. As a straight woman.
From my experience, I want a guy who - contrary to what I saw in a thread here - wants to have sex. For media imposed reasons, men think that if they hide their desires to have sex women will somehow feel more trusting. Ok, if you're not reaching up my skirt after "hello", yeah, that helps.
But otherwise...
During the summer I was involved with a guy who was so damn closed in. He totally didn't come on to me.
I mean, even in the initial stages of a relationship, I like the guy coming on to me in subtle ways - or at least knowing he's thinking of me that way. I.e. touching my thigh once in a while, his firm grip, etc. Making jokes about that, and them actually being funny. (I know that's hard)
You see fellows, women WANT to be WANTED.
We want you to appreciate us. To be able to read between the lines, or guess them when they're not even there. I know it's impossible, but it's what we want. We want to know that you want sex with a woman and you've chosen us - because we're perfect. But not because you're crazy...not because you're insane and that's why our faults don't bother you.
While all of this, we want you to do your own thing. Be interested and do something career/work/hobby wise. Something we don't understand. Something you'll be able to teach us, and even after you will we won't completely understand...b/c you're the man who understands it better.
We also want you to be gentlemen. I.e. for us to know that you feel it's your responsibility to walk us home and protect us.
I know how this sounds. But it's the truth. Maybe it'll help someone out...who knows.
Multipass said:Learn how to communicate with your body and eyes, rather than with your mouth.
Multipass said:
I definitely agree with the importance of eye communication. It's no cliché
that eyes can tell you so much about someone- especially whether someone is being sincere or is truly interested/ involved in a conversation. It holds true with friends, partners or people you don't know so well.
BronxBombshell said:I don't know what other women want. I don't know what men want either. I do know exactly what i want though.
First, I know you will always be attracted to other women. I know you will always want to have sex with other women, even long after your penis is useless. But I want to know that you love me so much that you are comfortable giving up sexual contact with anyone else (men too) forever.
I want to know that when I speak I have your attention. You are not worried about "your bills, your ex, your deadlines, or when you think you're gonna die".
I want you to tell me your secrets. I can keep them.
I want you to whisper in my ear all night and ignore the pretty girl sitting on your left, your homeboys, and the fact that I used to date the host of this party.
I want you to want me as much as I want you.
I want you to know I'm the one you have been praying for.
I want you to open and hold doors, pull out chairs, guide me, and bring me back home after.
I want you to shut the hell up when you have nothing to say and just enjoy the silence comfortably.
I want you to love your children more than you love me. And I want you to respect their mother, even though it didn't work out.
I want you to keep their mother out of my face before I slap her.
I want you to write me a song on your guitar and give me an hour long foot massage. That's still the best gift I've ever received.
I want you to trust me.
I want to trust you.
I want you to laugh at my jokes, unless they suck. Then you should make a sour-lemon face.
I want you to make me laugh.
I want you to smell a certain way.
I want your mother to lilke me. Teach me how to impress her.
I want you to teach me something about myself. Often.
I want you to teach me something about the world. Often.
I want you to call me on my bullshit and help me grow.
I want you to give me mind-numbing orgasms.
I want you to have an intersting life with interesting people in it when I find you.
I want you to wind up my biological clock.
I want you not to freak out on me after you wind up my biological clock.
I want you to keep your promises.
I want you to surprise me.
I awnt you to ask my friends what you should get me for my birthday.
I want you to understand what I'm saying, and what gets left unsaid too.
I want you to figure out what sets me off and not do those things.
I want youu to hurry up and change my last name to yours. (Or yours to mine if your name sucks.)
I want you to cook for me, bathe me, and wash my hair. Anything that makes me feel taken care of is good.
I want you to take no prisoners at work, and be gentle as a feather with me.
I want you to be unable to keep your hands off of me, but not in a molestery, gropey way.
There's still other stuff I want too, but I think all the important things are covered.
This thread is what I need to pay attention to right now. I recently came close to breaking up with my girlfriend - the one who is the love of my life. She's really amazing - 5'11" blonde, thin, beautiful face, 13 years younger than I am and a mouth like a truck driver. We met at grad school although never connected, and then (she claims) she hunted me down once I became available after having a crush on me for six years. It was a surreal experience and we were head over heels in love and enjoyed life intensely for about nine months, during which time we decided to have a baby, neither of us being interested in children EVER.
Her mother got sick and we dropped everything and moved across country, only to be faced with the tragedy of the hospital causing the death of her mom through negligence. The following two years were beset with endless problems and challenges that nearly wrenched us apart.
I was ready to call it quits, and went on a retreat where I had the chance to really think about what I wanted in a relationship. Finally I had to put aside the past, the arguments, the differences and the ego-based pettiness that promised never to be resolved, and I had to show her that I not only wanted her, but that nothing/noone else would ever be enough. That meant becoming the man that she originally fell in love with. I know that doesn't sound easy, but I believe in creating visions and goals, and I threw myself into this with absolute honesty, as much charm as I could dust off, and the desire to make her feel that she is the most important person in my life. And it worked. Now we are so happy, it is as we were when we first reunited only better, as there is an air of calm beneath the intensity. We kiss and are gentle with each other, but she loves me to pound her when we are in the final stages of lovemaking. The simple act of being present and enjoying every caress, and put the emphasis on anything BUT the genitals, makes the sex incredibly intense.
This story has a happy ending so far, but it took nearly losing the most valuable person in my life before I came around to understanding that the size of my cock was probably the least important thing on the negotiating table. From that I learned that captivating my girlfriend's mind and heart were absolutely necessary before the sex could even begin to happen.
So Femme, thanks for the input, and I would have to agree with everything that you wrote.