Talk is cheap. How many of the (at least average looking) wimminz have approached, flirted with, bagged and sealed an average or less than average looking man? It's well and dandy saying something here. In real life, tall, handsome, rich wins out over caring, balding, bespectacled, short, sensitive, etc. That's why marriages fail these days. Both man and woman have to be able to say, "I'll settle for you." and mean that for the long term. That means not looking, because looking leads to talking, talking leads to dancing, dancing leads to romancing, romancing leads to a double penetration. By two divorce attorneys.
Some people do chose men for their looks and money more than anything. Many don't, more than most people think. Most of the couples I know whose marriages are the most stable seem to have married for reasons completely unrelated to status, looks, etc. As a wedding photographer, I've seen some really cute girls marry some really homely guys (and vice versa). A lot of times when you get to know these couples who don't look like they belong together, it makes sense because they get along incredibly well.
Not all women are the same. I'm not saying you're wrong about a certain subset of women, but you can't generalize this to all women. If this seems to be the only kind of women you're meeting, you're probably not looking in the right places.