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I find it interesting they used a man's profession or lack thereof as a gauge and not some aspect of his personality. I think that would be more telling.


Some people are that shallow. I am sure we have all met some of them.

And women are not programmed to find men attractive and bed them? I'd like to see the studies on that.


I do not find that part to be true either. Women DO have attraction for handsome men and will go for one night stands.
I could care less about how much money a man makes as long as he's happy. I could care less about what he does for a living as long as he's not a pimp or a manwhore.


I did not say ALL women were that shallow. You can find quite a few who are, though. You happen to be a lady who is not that way...good for you.
You seem very sincere about this too.

I hate to say it but some men are kind of stupid this way. They only care about what a woman looks like until they're knee-deep in a relationship and find out she's their worst nightmare. Women who are looking for a long-term relationship are going to be smarter than that and get the scoop on their potential mates. I still hold that women who aren't looking for a long-term relationship won't care that much about the heft of man's salary.


What about the women who are looking for long term? How does wealth figure in their evaluation of men?


Yep, it is all that testosterone talking instead of the brain. My shyness and small endowment has kept me from this. I stayed away from one night stands and casual sex because of it. If I had a bigger ego I would have most likely have done anything I could...no use lying about it. I just never had the nerve to try...I have had enough rejection.
 

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What about the women who are looking for long term? How does wealth figure in their evaluation of men?
Well, i'm a woman and I have plenty of friends and with the exception of one they all agree that as long as a man can pay his bills and doesn't have an extraordinary amount of debt hanging over his head, they don't care how much he makes. But most of my friends have great careers and make excellent money. They don't need a man to bring home the dough.
Yep, it is all that testosterone talking instead of the brain. My shyness and small endowment has kept me from this. I stayed away from one night stands and casual sex because of it. If I had a bigger ego I would have most likely have done anything I could...no use lying about it. I just never had the nerve to try...I have had enough rejection.
It's safe to say most people have experienced rejection at some point in their lives. I firmly believe that the differences between men and women shouldn't separate but bring us together. Too often the differences are used to excuse idiotic behavior or manipulate others. Don't let the shallow ones keep you down. There are plenty of beautiful, intelligent and caring fish out in the ocean. Keep looking. You'll find one. :smile:
 

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I'm not talking about size at all right now. Just be completely honest. When you are selecting men, is it more physical or other things? For example: nice guy, rich, good with kids, confident, etc.

B.D.W.G. - While at a bar 20 years ago one of my girlfriends told me that my type was Big, Dopey, White Guys. This is not entirely accurate; as I have never been attracted to stupid men.
I don't make them take an iq test; but if a man can't turn on my mind he will never be able to turn on my body. Basically I like average guys. I've never dated a man that others would descibe as hot, hunky, or gorgeous. I like to think most have been handsome.


What I look for in a man:

Smart - Not Mensa but someone I can talk to.
Good Sense of Humor - should appreciate satire and my ascerbic wit
Tall - and average to thick in build. I kinda like a guy with a little bit of a belly.
Gainfully employed - Not underemployed.
He doesn't have to take care of me, but he should be able to take care of himself.


Non-Negotiables: Must be kind, smart, patient, ability to make me feel safe without being a bully, should enjoy & be good at cunnilingus, MUST LOVE classic rock, Springsteen, and the NY Giants, The Jersey Shore, swimming, rollercoasters, seafood, art, skiing, travel

Should own or lease a decent automobile. Something in which I am not ashamed to be seen: Embarassing vehicles: Pacer, Pinto, 1979 Impala wagon. He need not drive a Porsche, Ferrari, Hummer, or Corvette, or Escalade. Which gives a lot of leeway. I must admit a fondness for 70's muscle cars. LOVE the Nick Cage film GONE IN 60 SECONDS! I own it on DVD.

No Atheists: You have to believe in something. You don't have to be the same faith as me, but I don't want to get any grief when I go to church.


Must be able to handle my PMS bitchiness, intermittent depressive episodes, and my addiction to Italian leather shoes.

FYI - Orgasms are better than Prozac and they are FREE!
 

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"Good answer, njqt466. Very sensible.

Why don't I ever seem to meet any women with this outlook????"


They are out there I think ;) They just get scooped up so fast lol.

Teflon
 

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Fair enough - but there are a million guys that clear that hurdle. I bet you tripped over 20 guys a day that met that criteria and wanted to date you - they were invisible to you. Every bar you have ever been to had 50 guys that met your criteria standing there trying to make eye contact - none of which you even knew were there. What did your ideal man do to get noticed?

...I couldnt possibly talk and date every man that meets my criteria.
If and when I meet my ideal man it would be all about the situation. Im not searching for him, I just let it come and are not desperate to meet him right away. Maybe I will meet him in the most strange place when I least expect it?!